There must be a reason before he became EX,or were she in love with the EX before she got married ? ,if yes,=that means she was cheating on the husband and she is still cheating on the husband if she is still communicating with the EX | Posted: at 22-01-2012 10:28 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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I will keep it short and simple..... THAT IS A NO NO! Most Nigerian men find it fun to screw another man's wife. to them it is all about grandiosity and it's even worse because the married women find it hard to control themselves once the ex starts touching her... The bottom line is stay away from exs whether you are a man or a woman cos most women enjoy screwing married men especially if she felt the current wife snatched the man from her.
I'M THA MAN IN MY CITY YO!!! | Posted: at 22-01-2012 10:29 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "oliyide") oliyide at 22-01-2012 10:37 PM (12 years ago)  (m) A quite clear argument
Many Nigerian men will ally to your position, I know :-) That has a lot to do with socialtradition and culture. In Africa, not just in Nigeria, you might agree with me that most partners that break up end up becoming "enemies" in the sense that they do wipe all contacts with each other, they don`t talk to each other anymore etc. If any woman breakes up with her man and still has good contacts with him, the society thinks otherwise because it is, to the sight of the society, not "normal"
Again, because of the very wide gap between boys and girls in Africa, parners tend to beeing extremly protective and possessive in marriage. Boys and girls are forbidden by the societal norms and morality to socialized normally with each other (abnormal socialism). This has great effects on individual lives of adults and in relationships and families. Sex education is not a topic in Nigerian high schools not even at the higher lernings. The natural pressure for sex grows as one grows. Many Nigerian youths desire sex but have no access to it due to abnormal socialism, societal norms, religion etc. Due to unsatisfied sex life, people become, for instance, more adventurious about sex and take the REAR sex oppotunities they have to enjoy it maybe with ex cos it might be easier.
Religion has widened this gap the more and goes on to subject the woman under the authority of the man, thereby making the man a tyrant and the woman an inferrior subject (hierarchy) which was partly why I used the word slave earlier. In reality, over 60% of Nigerian women are slaves in the marriages. To worsen it all, the societal traditions and religion do not allow for divorce.
This constellation builds a "wrong and sick" mindset and mentality that make us want to cage control our women like a senior commander would do to his squad in military camp.
Keeping cordial relationships with exes is a normal and common practice in Europe. It`s even seen as social competence. The cordial relationship between exes are not kept secret.
It doesn`t rule out the fact that exes might engage in segxwal activities but that is not common in societies where male & female children and youth are well sicialised.
Lastly, one can do little or nothing about it as both parties in marriage are dependent but at the same time independent of each other.
Hello again bro. I can see you are a man given to equal right opportunity and am not in any way against that. Let's talk a little bit about the Europe you just gave as an example. Do you know how easily families break down. Does not matter whether you live in Europe or not. It is all over the news and that is because of what they call civilization and let every man do what pleases him or her. You may choose to ignore the bible as the word of God or don't believe in God. I believe the word of God and yes the bible makes it clear that wives should submit to the husband but it also commands the man to love his wife as his own body. How can a man love a woman as is own body and see her as a slave. it is not possible. Besides that I'd like you to understand that I am not restricting this issue of not communicating with an ex to just the woman. The same goes for the man. I still repeat 99% of ex's friendship after marriage will one day lead to something else (fanning back the flame). I am not even saying don't talk to them or say hello when a situation calls for it. But man .. chatting, BBMing, hanging out and other related stuff will surely lead to something at some point except we don't want to be sincere with ourselves. They both know the button to turn on. If you want a healthy marriage then you need to cut off and keep communication to minimal. The western world has brought so much decay to what we know as holy matrimony. It has been reduced to what you now call contract. | Posted: at 22-01-2012 10:37 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "burgos") burgos at 22-01-2012 10:37 PM (12 years ago) (f) O boy keep your wife as far away as possible from her ex, You know why? coz de road wey u pass b/4 no go hard to pass again
Stupid person,why only wife what about husband..i think the both should keep away from their ex I KNOW A MAN WHO CHEATS HIS WIFE WITH HIS EX...GOD KNOWS THAT WHAT AM SAYING IS THE TRUTH.. | Posted: at 22-01-2012 10:37 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "burgos") burgos at 22-01-2012 10:42 PM (12 years ago) (f) Hello again bro. I can see you are a man given to equal right opportunity and am not in any way against that. Let's talk a little bit about the Europe you just gave as an example. Do you know how easily families break down. Does not matter whether you live in Europe or not. It is all over the news and that is because of what they call civilization and let every man do what pleases him or her. You may choose to ignore the bible as the word of God or don't believe in God. I believe the word of God and yes the bible makes it clear that wives should submit to the husband but it also commands the man to love his wife as his own body. How can a man love a woman as is own body and see her as a slave. it is not possible.
Besides that I'd like you to understand that I am not restricting this issue of not communicating with an ex to just the woman. The same goes for the man. I still repeat 99% of ex's friendship after marriage will one day lead to something else (fanning back the flame). I am not even saying don't talk to them or say hello when a situation calls for it. But man .. chatting, BBMing, hanging out and other related stuff will surely lead to something at some point except we don't want to be sincere with ourselves. They both know the button to turn on. If you want a healthy marriage then you need to cut off and keep communication to minimal. The western world has brought so much decay to what we know as holy matrimony. It has been reduced to what you now call contract.
god bless u my brother...u talk like a matured man | Posted: at 22-01-2012 10:42 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "oliyide") oliyide at 22-01-2012 10:46 PM (12 years ago) (m) Stupid person,why only wife what about husband..i think the both should keep away from their ex
I KNOW A MAN WHO CHEATS HIS WIFE WITH HIS EX...GOD KNOWS THAT WHAT AM SAYING IS THE TRUTH..
cool down now burgos. it applies both ways. what holds for the woman also holds for the man. the poster should have applied the question both ways. I am a candidate of staying away and staying clear for healthy marriage. | Posted: at 22-01-2012 10:46 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "burgos") burgos at 22-01-2012 10:53 PM (12 years ago) (f) Iam a woman and my sincere answer to this is to keep away from ones EX (both the man and the woman) Experience they say is the best teacher. SHEKINA | Posted: at 22-01-2012 10:53 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie | |
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Most women are fond of doing things secretly with thier ex after marriage. Like chatting on BBM and facebook etc without d knowlegde of thier spouse. Am asking my naijapals dudes,will u allow this to happen right before ur face?  For wetin,nor play rough play o | Posted: at 22-01-2012 10:54 PM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "estilizo") estilizo at 22-01-2012 11:32 PM (12 years ago) (f) some time most X help each other when they are in trouble ooo. for women is not advisable because most women cant controll their urg. but for men the percentage that would stick to their word of being married, is very high compare that of a women. so for women is No. while for men yes but with carefullness.
hahahahahahah..
THE BEST WAY TO REVENGE IS TO FORGIVE..........FORGIVE THE TEARS OF A HURTFUL PAST. | Posted: at 22-01-2012 11:32 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "shon") shon at 22-01-2012 11:37 PM (12 years ago) (f) There must be a reason before he became EX,or were she in love with the EX before she got married ? ,if yes,=that means she was cheating on the husband and she is still cheating on the husband if she is still communicating with the EX
???um ok  | Posted: at 22-01-2012 11:37 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "twinsbabe") twinsbabe at 22-01-2012 11:42 PM (12 years ago) (f) It s not a good thing to keep in touch with you ex-,if you are still married. some relationship are emotionally attached, when you meet again , u pick it where u left it. moreover, people are more comfortable with their childhood friends than friends they know when they hav arrived,so to say, if you are married and you dont want to jeopardise your marriage, when its over let it be over. | Posted: at 22-01-2012 11:42 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "dirtykid") dirtykid at 23-01-2012 01:01 AM (12 years ago) (m) See as so many guys get jealous attitude over wife ex.... na waooo 
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !! | Posted: at 23-01-2012 01:01 AM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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Who Jah Blessed, No Man Cursed...... | Posted: at 23-01-2012 03:25 AM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "feyee") feyee at 23-01-2012 06:36 AM (12 years ago) (f) theres really nothing wrong in a healthy chat.....you dont really need to monitor every movement of your spouse before you can build trust! | Posted: at 23-01-2012 06:36 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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![-]( "gimac") gimac at 23-01-2012 08:44 AM (12 years ago) (m) Why not, is all about understanding each other and having trust. Unless the lady gave u some reasons to think otherwise.
which trust,old friend is old friend specially when it come to dating or people who had good life | Posted: at 23-01-2012 08:44 AM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "Mmaduka") Mmaduka at 23-01-2012 10:44 AM (12 years ago) (m) Its not a bad thing before, but due to the things that is happening now adays it is not advisable, and i will not allowed my wife to even say hi to her ex if i know the guy.
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![-]( "Mmaduka") Mmaduka at 23-01-2012 10:48 AM (12 years ago) (m)
To avoid stories that touch | Posted: at 23-01-2012 10:48 AM (12 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "fehinty") fehinty at 23-01-2012 10:59 AM (12 years ago) (f) Well, I still maintain a very close relationship with my ex-girl friend even after she abandoned me for a more accomplished man during our final year at the
University. She thought I was just a players and so she left when another man showed up during our last days at sch and got pregnant. But that man prove to
be even more of a player than she had thought and left her while she was still pregnant. That was when she started looking for me and sending letters
that I shouldnt see her as a foe. I still love her cos she is one kind of a girl that is rare to come by but I dont know how to Father a child that is not mine especially now that I left town and have not seen her face to face for a long time only through text and calls.
I WANT advice from Pals too
leave the african mentality, if u still love her u can go for it. but what if the baby father omes back, will she stl be ready for u? women can b funny | Posted: at 23-01-2012 10:59 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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![-]( "verah") verah at 23-01-2012 11:18 AM (12 years ago) (f) WHICH LEVEL? COMMUNICATION WITH DE EX-BOYFRIEND MYTH BE DANGEROUS, SOME WOMEN ARE LOW IN MENTALITY, AND AS WELL BE FUNNY AT TIMES, IS NOT ADVISABLE BEFORE IS TOO LATE.
I AGREE WIT U
IF U TINK D DEVIL IS A LIAR, THEN LET A GUY LIE TO U AND U WILL KNW DAT D DEVIL IS A LEANER ........ | Posted: at 23-01-2012 11:18 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "Idbabe") Idbabe at 23-01-2012 11:22 AM (12 years ago) (f) is it wise for a married man to contact his ex? | Posted: at 23-01-2012 11:22 AM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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