Am based in the United Kingdom and a member of the Redeemed Christian Church of God here in the UK. I am a 25-year-old Nigerian girl.
I have lived in the UK for over five years, running into my 6th year already. However, as it is generally held, “life is not always smooth and straight” I understand that life, most of the time is full of ‘zig and zag’ just like it’s characterized with ups and downs. My story is not different after all. I have had my good times too, and I consider this time as my most trying moment.
I am writing this note, not exactly because I regret my action of taking full control of a married Pastor, but because I have sensed something that is really not going to work for me in the most positive way, if I keep this pregnancy. I don’t regret my action because I understand that pastors too are human beings, and have the same feelings like the rest of us. He slept with me, got me impregnated; so what?
However, a little of the background will give you an insight into how it all started. I understand that as human beings, we cannot cheat nature. I’m one of the Choristers in the church, and there is this magnet that pulls the pastor and I together. It is like a magnetic force. However, he had explained to me in the most pathetic way one day on how the wife had starved him of sex for months all in the name of spirituality. He only said that passively anyway. He also complained bitterly, while I listened with superlative attention on how the wife hardly ever satisfy him on bed. I actually wanted to satisfy him, as I’m such an emotional and considerate person. I am very sure God won’t judge me negatively because of my kind gesture. I only tried to satisfy a man who was dying of hunger, he was been starved of sex and I had to leave spirituality behind to get him satisfied.
I remember how it all started, and like a Hollywood movie, the scenes reeled from one to the other and we had our fun in different hotels after every church meeting. I must always wait for the Pastor who will convey me to my house. After all, he is a pastor, and no one would suspect that any ‘dirty’ romance was going on between us. He confessed that I had made him feel like a man, and I was just proud of myself. I will always node in exhilaration knowing very well that if I can satisfy another man, then I can satisfy my man. This is something every young lady should be proud of. I am not trying to patronize my action, but only being reasonable about some sensitive segxwal matters.
Yes, we did, and since then, I have been excommunicated from the church. In fact, the whole thing remained secret until he got me impregnated, and I confronted him for an abortion. To my consternation, he refuted my suggestion; he wanted me to keep the baby. I had moved against it. I had given him reasons why I shouldn’t keep the baby. I don’t want to jeopardize my dream of getting married at the age of 26 which is just less than a year. I told him that I must get rid of the baby. But he has vowed to sue me if I do. He is happy that at least what he had waited for endlessly since he got married in 2000 has come to fruition as God has finally opened the doors through me. Yes, he never had a child since he got married, and age is really not on his side. I can’t get his words off my head; “ I want this baby like yesterday” he said.
This disagreement has put me in the public glare today as my close friends whom I divulged the situation to, had reported the matter to the church committee, and I have since been excommunicated. Everybody talks about me as if I have done something so strange. My concern really is not about what people are saying but to get a little piece of your advice on whether I should keep the baby against my wish, or go for an abortion. I know what I want but I still need your advice in order to justify the action I’m about to take. In the next five days, I should be able to take a major decision. Thank you for publishing my story.
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 11-02-2013 02:49 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero
Sophyrocks at 11-02-2013 03:19 PM (11 years ago) (f)
Hmm. I believe as a christian u already knw hw God feels abt takin d lyf of an unborn child. Since d pastor wants d baby, kip it n make sure he takes gud care of it. But wateva rlatnshp u hav wit dis fake pastor must stop or else ur nemesis wud be waitin patiently 4 u wen u get married. No 2, i want to correct a misconceptn u hav abt God. U said, God wudnt blame u 4 anytin simply bcos u jst wantd 2 be a cheerful giver to a sex starved man. Plss, if u dnt want d wrath of God 2 befall u, change dat ur mindset very fast! U broke a law of God n had affair wit a married man. Hw did ur cheerful givin pay u? U got excommunicatd 4rm church n got pregnant. Dnt u see hw God is dealin wit u nw? Nw ure desparate to kill d innocent child. U tink more nemesis wudnt be waitin 4 u? Accept ur punishment nw n kip d baby. Move on wit ur lyf. Change ur ways n get closer 2 God so dat u wil get a man of ur own. As 4 ur pastor, he even nids 2 be excommunicatd too. God's punishment is also waitin 4 him bcos he has draggd God's name in d mud. His nemesis is waitin.
Life is damn too short to be sitting around miserable.
Posted: at 11-02-2013 03:19 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Rihannaaa at 11-02-2013 03:41 PM (11 years ago) (f)
Furk the church. Do what Ur heart tells u to do. The hypocritical pastor and his members cannot dictate Ur lifestyle for u. U are in control of Ur own destiny.
I dont look like Rihanna... Rihanna looks like me!
Posted: at 11-02-2013 03:41 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
I did not sense any form of remorse in your story, you broke or about to break a family. You knew the good pastor was lying about his marital problems yet you gave in to his request. You already know what to do with your pregnancy,and I would hope and pray that abortion is not one of the options.
Posted: at 11-02-2013 03:54 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
ademotion at 11-02-2013 04:02 PM (11 years ago) (m)
when you and the fake pastor were having sex out of wedlock you did not caution yourself. Then you;ve forgoten that you want to get married next year. Because he is sex starved you gave him in abundant and turn yourself to "mother xmass" or animashahun. So if i also tell you the same story you will give me abi? Now that your fake pastor had finished the whole job you want to present yourself to one inocent guy. If the so called pastor can go so low to this level what is he going to be preaching to the members? The man has gone far far away from being a good ambassador of a true christian. Anyway a prostitute and gay can claim to be a pastor no problem. But note God is whatching all our actions. If dare kill that inocent baby your qualification has increased by one---- Boko haram in london.
Posted: at 11-02-2013 04:02 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie
i commend u 1st 4 ur english.very articulate.2nd i cant condemn,judge or criticise u 4 we r all humans akin to mistakes.3rd no matter wat eva counsel u seek or get u wil stil end up doin wat u hv decided to do.4th 4 dose of u u criticising the young lady...u r no better than her n im sure most of u hv done worse.5th...daz abt d@
Posted: at 11-02-2013 04:05 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
Useless lady, when you and the fake pastor were having sex out of wedlock you did not caution yourself. Then you;ve forgoten that you want to get married next year. Because he is sex starved you gave him in abundant and turn yourself to "mother xmass" or animashahun. So if i also tell you the same story you will give me abi? Now that your fake pastor had finished the whole job you want to present yourself to one inocent guy. If the so called pastor can go so low to this level what is he going to be preaching to the members? The man has gone far far away from being a good ambassador of a true christian. Anyway a prostitute and gay can claim to be a pastor no problem. But note God is whatching all our actions. If dare kill that inocent baby your qualification has increased by one---- Boko haram in london.
n hu told u the guy she is goin to marry is 'innocent'?abeg say wat u know.innocent guy ko,innocent guy ni
Posted: at 11-02-2013 04:08 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
ademotion at 11-02-2013 04:09 PM (11 years ago) (m)
Quote from: qtomah on 11-02-2013 04:05 PM
i commend u 1st 4 ur english.very articulate.2nd i cant condemn,judge or criticise u 4 we r all humans akin to mistakes.3rd no matter wat eva counsel u seek or get u wil stil end up doin wat u hv decided to do.4th 4 dose of u u criticising the young lady...u r no better than her n im sure most of u hv done worse.5th...daz abt d@
Bird of the same feather..........
Posted: at 11-02-2013 04:09 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie
sophiebaby at 11-02-2013 04:10 PM (11 years ago) (f)
Quote from: toibeli on 11-02-2013 03:54 PM
I did not sense any form of remorse in your story, you broke or about to break a family. You knew the good pastor was lying about his marital problems yet you gave in to his request. You already know what to do with your pregnancy,and I would hope and pray that abortion is not one of the options.
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Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 11-02-2013 04:10 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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