The cost of marrying an Igbo lady (Page 2)

Date: 15-06-2009 10:23 pm (14 years ago) | Author: King Samuel O Dguy
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- osaomo at 15-06-2009 11:31 PM (14 years ago)
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hmmm...ok

Posted: at 15-06-2009 11:31 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- diplomatik at 15-06-2009 11:38 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: ceejay58 on 15-06-2009 11:28 PM
Quote from: diplomatik on 15-06-2009 10:49 PM
in fact i can't read....teach me to read na.... come my room  and teach me.... Tongue Cheesy Tongue Tongue

 Lips Sealed Lips Sealed Lips Sealed Lips Sealed


what na.... u wanna teach me...wait lemme see if my husband coomot.. Lips Sealed Embarrassed Grin Grin Cheesy Tongue

Posted: at 15-06-2009 11:38 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Toks-E at 15-06-2009 11:40 PM (14 years ago)
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kpele ooo

abeg enlighten us abt the other tribes

  Undecided Undecided Cheesy Tongue

i will cut dat ur tongue oooo  Grin Grin

Posted: at 15-06-2009 11:40 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- diplomatik at 15-06-2009 11:40 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: Toks-E on 15-06-2009 11:40 PM
Quote from: diplomatik on 15-06-2009 11:15 PM
Quote from: Toks-E on 15-06-2009 11:11 PM
kpele ooo

abeg enlighten us abt the other tribes

  Undecided Undecided Cheesy Tongue

i will cut dat ur tongue oooo  Grin Grin
when... Huh? Huh?...tonight... Grin Cheesy Cheesy Tongue Kiss

Posted: at 15-06-2009 11:40 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- ceejay58 at 15-06-2009 11:54 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: dguy on 15-06-2009 10:23 PM
Today in Igboland, marriage has become a project for people the society see as having arrived financially. This entails that the intending groom would be ready to cater for the family of the wife should there be need for that, after he must have performed all the rites required to take a lady as wife.

In most cases a junior sibling of the new wife would be attached to the new family to train. Whatever it takes, the man would be ready to foot the bills in order to be respected among the kinsmen of the in-laws.

But the duel of the husband to-be-would only get to the other commitments after he must have scaled the first hurdles. On the day of the traditional marriage, the kinsmen who might have taken laxative pills prior to the day would be in attendance to feast to their fill and probably get drunk too. Findings show that because of the endless demands made on the intending husband, traditional marriage seems to be phasing out as some parents would organize it in the city where they reside while the new wife would gladly move into the man’s house after the event.

Such factors have been responsible for low patronage of the marriage institution and a threat to the family system.

As a result, fathers are battling to give out their daughters on time or run the risk of leaving them unmarried. To achieve this they go out of their way to satisfy these kinsmen by allowing them have their way on the endless demands.
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so what do u want to do about it?
Posted: at 15-06-2009 11:54 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- justice12 at 15-06-2009 11:59 PM (14 years ago)
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Pls is there any rope that weman are  useing to drag men to court,b/cs as for me.am not ready to step into court with anybody in the name of marriag.
Posted: at 15-06-2009 11:59 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie
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- ceejay58 at 16-06-2009 12:01 AM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: diplomatik on 15-06-2009 11:38 PM
Quote from: ceejay58 on 15-06-2009 11:28 PM
Quote from: diplomatik on 15-06-2009 10:49 PM
in fact i can't read....teach me to read na.... come my room  and teach me.... Tongue Cheesy Tongue Tongue

 Lips Sealed Lips Sealed Lips Sealed Lips Sealed


what na.... u wanna teach me...wait lemme see if my husband coomot.. Lips Sealed Embarrassed Grin Grin Cheesy Tongue


abeg i no dey house ooooo... Grin
Posted: at 16-06-2009 12:01 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- Toks-E at 16-06-2009 12:04 AM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: diplomatik on 15-06-2009 11:40 PM
Quote from: Toks-E on 15-06-2009 11:40 PM
Quote from: diplomatik on 15-06-2009 11:15 PM
Quote from: Toks-E on 15-06-2009 11:11 PM
kpele ooo

abeg enlighten us abt the other tribes

  Undecided Undecided Cheesy Tongue

i will cut dat ur tongue oooo  Grin Grin
when... Huh? Huh?...tonight... Grin Cheesy Cheesy Tongue Kiss

yeeeeesssssssssssssssss, i hav a special knife for the ceremony  Grin

Posted: at 16-06-2009 12:04 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Sheenor at 16-06-2009 01:43 AM (14 years ago)
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naija 4 u

Posted: at 16-06-2009 01:43 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- hiddenpearl at 16-06-2009 01:54 AM (14 years ago)
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I think that may not be the case for this generation of women. I'm not interested in marriage. The thought of being shackled to a man who will suck the life out of me and keep me at home doing "wife type chores" is APPALLING! My parents know I'm career centered and want to travel and like being a free spirit, they know I love what I do, and they don't hassle me... at least not anymore! LOL!
My parents are different in that sense... they are understanding; if and when my younger sister decides to get hitched, my parents would NOT try to siphon money from the prospective husband. My brothers are both medical students, so I really doubt any of them would be moving in with her.
See? We are not all the same... and BTW, latching on to the rookie husband and having him pay for EVERYTHING is not something that ONLY IGBO people do. A lot of different ethnic groups are guilty of the same thing.
Posted: at 16-06-2009 01:54 AM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
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- nellykelly008 at 16-06-2009 06:07 AM (14 years ago)
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marrage is not by force, so if you are not ready for it, u wait when the money comes, do u want the girl family to do it for u, you have sisters and they will get married one day too and your in-law will care for traditional and wedding expences, you are not the one to do it for them, both poor and rich get married too, every thing depends how u want it, high or low level, na your money they talk.......so don't cry about the money, be a man
Posted: at 16-06-2009 06:07 AM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
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- myragonza at 16-06-2009 06:12 AM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: dguy on 15-06-2009 10:23 PM
Today in Igboland, marriage has become a project for people the society see as having arrived financially. This entails that the intending groom would be ready to cater for the family of the wife should there be need for that, after he must have performed all the rites required to take a lady as wife.

In most cases a junior sibling of the new wife would be attached to the new family to train. Whatever it takes, the man would be ready to foot the bills in order to be respected among the kinsmen of the in-laws.

But the duel of the husband to-be-would only get to the other commitments after he must have scaled the first hurdles. On the day of the traditional marriage, the kinsmen who might have taken laxative pills prior to the day would be in attendance to feast to their fill and probably get drunk too. Findings show that because of the endless demands made on the intending husband, traditional marriage seems to be phasing out as some parents would organize it in the city where they reside while the new wife would gladly move into the man’s house after the event.

Such factors have been responsible for low patronage of the marriage institution and a threat to the family system.

As a result, fathers are battling to give out their daughters on time or run the risk of leaving them unmarried. To achieve this they go out of their way to satisfy these kinsmen by allowing them have their way on the endless demands.

i think its for all tribes....not only igbos.... Roll Eyes Roll Eyes

Posted: at 16-06-2009 06:12 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- ngann at 16-06-2009 01:05 PM (14 years ago)
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peeping
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- olaarie at 16-06-2009 01:32 PM (14 years ago)
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i refuse to be drag into a marriage dat will ruin me all bcos of tribe.
Posted: at 16-06-2009 01:32 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie
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- vivian07 at 16-06-2009 01:41 PM (14 years ago)
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@ poster, u must be joking right ? where did u get all dis from ?  Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy
Posted: at 16-06-2009 01:41 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- mazi at 16-06-2009 01:57 PM (14 years ago)
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one day 1 man
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- diplomatik at 16-06-2009 01:59 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: ceejay58 on 16-06-2009 12:01 AM
Quote from: diplomatik on 15-06-2009 11:38 PM
Quote from: ceejay58 on 15-06-2009 11:28 PM
Quote from: diplomatik on 15-06-2009 10:49 PM
in fact i can't read....teach me to read na.... come my room  and teach me.... Tongue Cheesy Tongue Tongue

 Lips Sealed Lips Sealed Lips Sealed Lips Sealed


what na.... u wanna teach me...wait lemme see if my husband coomot.. Lips Sealed Embarrassed Grin Grin Cheesy Tongue


abeg i no dey house ooooo... Grin

lol......

Posted: at 16-06-2009 01:59 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- diplomatik at 16-06-2009 02:00 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: Toks-E on 16-06-2009 12:04 AM
Quote from: diplomatik on 15-06-2009 11:40 PM
Quote from: Toks-E on 15-06-2009 11:40 PM
Quote from: diplomatik on 15-06-2009 11:15 PM
Quote from: Toks-E on 15-06-2009 11:11 PM
kpele ooo

abeg enlighten us abt the other tribes

  Undecided Undecided Cheesy Tongue

i will cut dat ur tongue oooo  Grin Grin
when... Huh? Huh?...tonight... Grin Cheesy Cheesy Tongue Kiss

yeeeeesssssssssssssssss, i hav a special knife for the ceremony  Grin

huh?... Sad Sad Undecided Tongue Tongue Kiss

Posted: at 16-06-2009 02:00 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- vivian07 at 16-06-2009 02:03 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: mazi on 16-06-2009 01:57 PM
one day 1 man
didnt get that ?
Posted: at 16-06-2009 02:03 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
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- d_man at 16-06-2009 02:17 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: dguy on 15-06-2009 10:23 PM
Today in Igboland, marriage has become a project for people the society see as having arrived financially. This entails that the intending groom would be ready to cater for the family of the wife should there be need for that, after he must have performed all the rites required to take a lady as wife.

In most cases a junior sibling of the new wife would be attached to the new family to train. Whatever it takes, the man would be ready to foot the bills in order to be respected among the kinsmen of the in-laws.

But the duel of the husband to-be-would only get to the other commitments after he must have scaled the first hurdles. On the day of the traditional marriage, the kinsmen who might have taken laxative pills prior to the day would be in attendance to feast to their fill and probably get drunk too. Findings show that because of the endless demands made on the intending husband, traditional marriage seems to be phasing out as some parents would organize it in the city where they reside while the new wife would gladly move into the man’s house after the event.

Such factors have been responsible for low patronage of the marriage institution and a threat to the family system.

As a result, fathers are battling to give out their daughters on time or run the risk of leaving them unmarried. To achieve this they go out of their way to satisfy these kinsmen by allowing them have their way on the endless demands.
So it was
But ve witnessed a few lately that where low keyed
It depends primarily on d bride's parents

Posted: at 16-06-2009 02:17 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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