Single mothers should not be sigmatized in the society (Page 6)

 I'd like to say that I am a teenage single mother; I'm 18 and my baby girl is 13 months old. And it's people who have the opinion that girls like me are 'bad' or 'sluts' that drive teenage girls who get pregnant to get abortions. I'm not a slut; the only person I've ever slept with is the fater of my child, and I'm not 'bad; I just decided to take responsibility for my actions. If I'd aborted her, who'd've known anything? I was not raped; I had consensual sex with my boyfriend, and I got pregnant. If you are a virgin who has never 'fooled around', then I will be more inclined to view your comment graciously. Having my daughter was and still is one of the most amazingly wonderful things to have ever happened to me, and I wouldn't trade her for anything in the world. So when I go out with her and I see people like you staring at us, I know it's because they are ignorant of what it means to make a mistake yet never regret it.

Posted: at 21-08-2009 02:01 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie

The thinking of our people should be addressed, I mean, we should change our orientation towards live. For being a single mother should not be seen from the angle of waywardness but from the larger angle. The man in question will be seen and claim to be  innocent, saint as if the lady pick up the pregnance on the street and we all know it from adam that if a lady call a guy and the guy did not turn up the pregnance will not come to place but the man will be the initiator,organizer of the game, when the result comes up he will be the 1st to deny the event, if this same person should see the girl with another man another problem, he will scream on top of his voice. We should learn to accept the result of what we do not just extending blames to others ,a man that sleep (segxwal intercourse) with an able lady(girl) without any form of protection should be expecting result and the result is pregnance so a man that is not expecting pregnance should think twice berofe his action and claiming to be saint ,ignorance of what we do. By the time, the lady survived the problem and the child becomes somebody accepted in the society, the runaway father will come back and started pleading and saying it's devil, it's not his wish and who will pay the price for  his long absent, the single mother will pay it all , we should not forget , the ladies have their problem but we men should try to understand the result from the beginning so as to minimise the problem in our society, a single mother out of fustration can decide to kill the child, sell the child since the society did not accept her of being a single mother and the man who impregnant her will go ahead to do what he likes doing so my dear people single no be sin, no be sickness, some will say na mistake, some will say na act of God let us learn to correct the anomally and stop the stigmatization.

Posted: at 21-08-2009 03:04 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie

Although our cultural views of waywardness play a role in the stigmatization of single mothers, I maintain that it is the views and expectations of our cultures, in regard to marriage, children, and family (which are very stringent) that play the largest role. Those that make the stigmatization of single motherhood out to only be an issue of waywardness are thinking of it from a narrow, mainly religious perspective, and not the larger cultural perspective.

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Posted: at 21-08-2009 04:03 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie

I wasn't talking to you; I was talking to a perticular Ihuoma girl. I think I accidentally deleted the quote before posting. I realise you're just looking for contributions, and that's what I was doing; contributing.
[/quote] im sorry about dat but i thot u were referring to d poster cos u dint quote any 1

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Posted: at 21-08-2009 05:45 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

whoeva u are May Almighty god continue to bless u and give u wisdom

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Posted: at 21-08-2009 06:11 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

from ur point of view right?

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Posted: at 21-08-2009 06:27 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

i dnt kno how it is in ur country but here in america teenagers have kids like its the latest fashion. they dnt really see anything wrong with and ppl tend not to say anything becos its not them. i commend sinlge mothers cos i kno it a hard thing to do because my mom raised 4 of us. i believe teenage pregnancy can be decreased if parents were to keep communication between their children open...i see single mothers here and i just say to myself...i wonder how she does it....its a very difficult job

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Posted: at 21-08-2009 06:34 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

hhhmmmmmmmmmm
true oh make we respect them because weyting dem true no be esay task

my sister easy oh
i wan see u

Posted: at 21-08-2009 06:37 PM (15 years ago) | Upcoming

im not doubting u  

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Posted: at 21-08-2009 06:39 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

u dey call am theory

Posted: at 21-08-2009 07:09 PM (15 years ago) | Upcoming