Single mothers should not be sigmatized in the society (Page 9)

Date: 20-08-2009 10:41 am (14 years ago) | Author: yemi
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- SAmyrocko at 22-08-2009 01:06 PM (14 years ago)
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Temi07 U are an ass.
Honestly, do i look like i care what u think? Please, kindly go to a corner and f!uck yourself, see how nice i am, i even said please.

ROTFLMAOooooo Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin

Posted: at 22-08-2009 01:06 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- pope12 at 22-08-2009 02:47 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: omolaradavis on 22-08-2009 07:37 AM
there is nothing wrong being a single mother. Only ignorant people always stigmatize single mothers as low lifes. No condition is permanent. i know some married women who do not want to associate with single mothers. They are just ignorant because they dont know what their husbands are doing out there with other women.

i am a single mother of 3 children and i am very proud to be a single mother. I dont care what people say about single mothers but i know we single mothers rocks. These days no marriage is secure. most African men cheat all the time so it's better to be a single mother than to die of heart attack from a cheating and deceitful husband.

It is only a fool that will stigmatize single mothers because if you look at the world today, most successful women are all single mothers and i am very proud to be one of them.

how did u get the children, (if a widow understood) not even divorcee, i know they did not drop from heaven. wats bad is bad. no prejudice, can you advice your daugther to do it? do not promote bad thing.

 
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- eddybabs at 22-08-2009 02:51 PM (14 years ago)
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reading...........
Posted: at 22-08-2009 02:51 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- kenyawest at 22-08-2009 02:52 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: fireman on 22-08-2009 06:50 AM
I believe the issue of education and proper enlightenment as a means of cutting down stigamtization or more or less discrimination of women in general should start the women folk at least having to some form of education.Most parents do not give their kids proper sex education and most gurls/women reduce themselves by a lot of amoral attitudes.The harassment of women folk is way beyond the bounds of reason especially in Nigeria.
Ditto.  Thanks
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- erikaakpan at 22-08-2009 02:59 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: anonymous2 on 20-08-2009 10:41 AM
Why are single mothers stigmatised in d society?i mean they say ....NEVER SAY NEVER.Most ladies dat say such can neva happen to them find themselves in dis kind of situation.Now d question is...why d rejection and scorn they face in d society? i think most teenage single mothers should be counselled instead of d stigmatisation.wats ur own view to this issue?

i dnt kno how it is in ur country but here in america teenagers have kids like its the latest fashion. they dnt really see anything wrong with and ppl tend not to say anything becos its not them. i commend sinlge mothers cos i kno it a hard thing to do because my mom raised 4 of us. i believe teenage pregnancy can be decreased if parents were to keep communication between their children open...i see single mothers here and i just say to myself...i wonder how she does it....its a very difficult job
i need more pple like u on dis topic

lol...i dnt think u will find them o!  Grin Grin

Posted: at 22-08-2009 02:59 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- kenyawest at 22-08-2009 03:07 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: NenyeN on 22-08-2009 06:56 AM
Kenyawest, condoning, and approval will only further encourage the institution of single motherhood as a norm. I've stated, and I maintain, that our respective cultures do not accommodate that institution [single motherhood] as an acceptable practice/norm, but we do realize that it happens, and we do take care of the people involved. We know, and understand, that single mothers are here to stay, and we've been culturally well adjusted to those facts for a long, long while now. That still does not mean that we approve of it.
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@NenyeN - what exactly does the society gain from stigmatizing a single mother?  What difference does it make whether society approves or does not approve?  Will it change the fact?  Will it change the mistake?  Will it change a stubborn teenager that wishes to bloom before their time?  

Proper sex education from the society is far important than the stimatization.  If the society was building institutions for innocent children and providing programs, I can understand.  In North America, the society does not like single motherhood, but at no time will those women and children be ignored and not given support.  This is what is lacking in Nigeria.

Things are too often left for the families to manage by themselves whether they are financially able or not.

Government needs to get involved for social and humanitarian reasons.  After you spank a child or condemn a child for wrong doings, you do not proceed to kill the child.

Nigeria needs to implement social programs for the sake of innocent children involved.  There needs to be skills training program for the single mother also in order to help her to give herself and her children a better future.
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- fireman at 22-08-2009 03:09 PM (14 years ago)
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@ anonymous ...Well circumstances just don't happen they are created.I know abortion techniques have been improved relatively in Nigeria but the idea is frowned upon by almost every religious group.

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- luvvy at 22-08-2009 03:11 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: erikaakpan on 21-08-2009 06:34 PM
Quote from: anonymous2 on 20-08-2009 10:41 AM
Why are single mothers stigmatised in d society?i mean they say ....NEVER SAY NEVER.Most ladies dat say such can neva happen to them find themselves in dis kind of situation.Now d question is...why d rejection and scorn they face in d society? i think most teenage single mothers should be counselled instead of d stigmatisation.wats ur own view to this issue?

i dnt kno how it is in ur country but here in america teenagers have kids like its the latest fashion. they dnt really see anything wrong with and ppl tend not to say anything becos its not them. i commend sinlge mothers cos i kno it a hard thing to do because my mom raised 4 of us. i believe teenage pregnancy can be decreased if parents were to keep communication between their children open...i see single mothers here and i just say to myself...i wonder how she does it....its a very difficult job
i need more pple like u on dis topic

lol...i dnt think u will find them o!  Grin Grin

here i come lol
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- temi07 at 22-08-2009 03:17 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: SAmyrocko on 22-08-2009 01:06 PM
Quote from: temi07 on 22-08-2009 07:07 AM
Quote from: Missthing on 22-08-2009 07:00 AM
Temi07 U are an ass.
Honestly, do i look like i care what u think? Please, kindly go to a corner and f!uck yourself, see how nice i am, i even said please.

ROTFLMAOooooo Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin
She no even say anything abt d topic just gun 4 me straight,lol. Ammo burn u like a vampire in sunlight.
Posted: at 22-08-2009 03:17 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- luvvy at 22-08-2009 03:22 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: temi07 on 22-08-2009 03:17 PM
Quote from: SAmyrocko on 22-08-2009 01:06 PM
Quote from: temi07 on 22-08-2009 07:07 AM
Quote from: Missthing on 22-08-2009 07:00 AM
Temi07 U are an ass.
Honestly, do i look like i care what u think? Please, kindly go to a corner and f!uck yourself, see how nice i am, i even said please.

ROTFLMAOooooo Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin
She no even say anything abt d topic just gun 4 me straight,lol. Ammo burn u like a vampire in sunlight.

gud reply
Posted: at 22-08-2009 03:22 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- kenyawest at 22-08-2009 03:23 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: omolaradavis on 22-08-2009 07:37 AM
there is nothing wrong being a single mother. Only ignorant people always stigmatize single mothers as low lifes. No condition is permanent. i know some married women who do not want to associate with single mothers. They are just ignorant because they dont know what their husbands are doing out there with other women.

i am a single mother of 3 children and i am very proud to be a single mother. I dont care what people say about single mothers but i know we single mothers rocks. These days no marriage is secure. most African men cheat all the time so it's better to be a single mother than to die of heart attack from a cheating and deceitful husband.

It is only a fool that will stigmatize single mothers because if you look at the world today, most successful women are all single mothers and i am very proud to be one of them.
Congratulations on being able to put it all together with your career and three children.

Remember that cheating is global and is not only by African men.  You are also allowed to forgive if you can find it in your heart.

Children need the two parents if at all possible.  Not living with the spouse is fine, but encouraging the absent parent to still have a role in the life of the children is extremely important.

Boy children need their father and when that is not provided, they are the ones that are the most angry.  Girl children tend to forgive the absent father much quicker.

Regardless of what the single parent can provide for the children, money, programs, etc., so long as the absent parent is still alive and not visiting, there is always something missing for the children.

Both parents should put aside their differences and do what is best for the children.

Fathers support your children financially regardless of whether you are still with their mothers or not.  Fathers support your children regardless of whether the woman has the money or not to support them.   Fathers make attempts to see your children on a regular basis even during marriage breakdowns.

Good luck.

Posted: at 22-08-2009 03:23 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- kenyawest at 22-08-2009 03:25 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: fireman on 22-08-2009 03:09 PM
@ anonymous ...Well circumstances just don't happen they are created.I know abortion techniques have been improved relatively in Nigeria but the idea is frowned upon by almost every religious group.
Abortion is something a woman never forgets.  Any alternative that could be offered for an unwanted pregnancy instead of abortion is highly recommended.  Abortion destroys a nation.
Posted: at 22-08-2009 03:25 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- pope12 at 22-08-2009 03:25 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: temi07 on 22-08-2009 03:17 PM
Quote from: SAmyrocko on 22-08-2009 01:06 PM
Quote from: temi07 on 22-08-2009 07:07 AM
Quote from: Missthing on 22-08-2009 07:00 AM
Temi07 U are an ass.
Honestly, do i look like i care what u think? Please, kindly go to a corner and f!uck yourself, see how nice i am, i even said please.

ROTFLMAOooooo Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin
She no even say anything abt d topic just gun 4 me straight,lol. Ammo burn u like a vampire in sunlight.

what a temper
 Huh? Huh? Huh? Shocked
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- anonymous2 at 22-08-2009 04:35 PM (14 years ago)
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how i wish i cld go on but......

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- eddybabs at 22-08-2009 04:38 PM (14 years ago)
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but what...........
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- mubaji at 22-08-2009 09:20 PM (14 years ago)
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it's because people think they are prostitutes that's why they are treated that way but notwithstanding even if they are God is forgiving.
we are suppose to look for a way to put an end to what may cause it apart form natural causes like death or divorce
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- emmyG at 22-08-2009 09:52 PM (14 years ago)
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re they in pains?
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- erikaakpan at 22-08-2009 10:18 PM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: luvvy on 22-08-2009 03:22 PM
Quote from: temi07 on 22-08-2009 03:17 PM
Quote from: SAmyrocko on 22-08-2009 01:06 PM
Quote from: temi07 on 22-08-2009 07:07 AM
Quote from: Missthing on 22-08-2009 07:00 AM
Temi07 U are an ass.
Honestly, do i look like i care what u think? Please, kindly go to a corner and f!uck yourself, see how nice i am, i even said please.

ROTFLMAOooooo Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin
She no even say anything abt d topic just gun 4 me straight,lol. Ammo burn u like a vampire in sunlight.

gud reply

hahahahahahahahahaha......temi u are something else girl!! lol

Posted: at 22-08-2009 10:18 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- temi07 at 23-08-2009 02:03 AM (14 years ago)
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Quote from: erikaakpan on 22-08-2009 10:18 PM
Quote from: luvvy on 22-08-2009 03:22 PM
Quote from: temi07 on 22-08-2009 03:17 PM
Quote from: SAmyrocko on 22-08-2009 01:06 PM
Quote from: temi07 on 22-08-2009 07:07 AM
Quote from: Missthing on 22-08-2009 07:00 AM
Temi07 U are an ass.
Honestly, do i look like i care what u think? Please, kindly go to a corner and f!uck yourself, see how nice i am, i even said please.

ROTFLMAOooooo Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin
She no even say anything abt d topic just gun 4 me straight,lol. Ammo burn u like a vampire in sunlight.

gud reply

hahahahahahahahahaha......temi u are something else girl!! lol
lol, like u are'nt, Grin Wink
Posted: at 23-08-2009 02:03 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- NenyeN at 23-08-2009 03:54 AM (14 years ago)
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Fireman, in regards to the education and proper enlightenment you were proposing... I see, and I understand.

Anonymous2, why should we reduce the stigmatization when the people involved knew/know the risks, but did not take measures to avoid it? It is like telling society to stop being disapproving of car accidents. Both car accidents and single motherhood are typically accidental occurrences. Both car accidents and single motherhood are very, very problematic, difficult to handle, and costly. Both car accidents and single motherhood can be averted. So why stop at single motherhood? Why not we just tell people to also stop disapproving of car accidents the way we do?

Pope12, thank you. It is really that simple. Stopping/reducing stigmatization will just lead to the approval, and subtle promotion of single motherhood.

Kenyawest, have you missed the multiple areas where I stated that we to take care of those involved in the single motherhood institution? As for involving government, I completely disagree. I believe that government should stay out of it. Nigeria does not need to implicate any kind of social program for single motherhood. In fact, it should not. It will only encourage single motherhood, and we do not want to encourage it. Giving money to single mothers just because they are single mothers, and performing services for single mothers (at federal expense) just because they are single mothers, is nothing less than mass encouragement of an institution we highly disapprove of. Simply put, the government does not have to be involved.

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