How can you make your man hate u and brake up with u? (Page 3)

if you don't see the qualities of a husband in him why waist your time, money and energy? i won't say you should leave him because he's jobless o but because he's not nice to be with.

@ poster, one important thing in life is that there is no one that is 100% or match you perfectly, theres bound to be certain difference and the ability to turn these differences into an advantage is what brings a good spark in relationship ---

As you said , the guy is obviously getting very frustrated and what i will call 'out of his mind', its not a good feeling for a man to be fed by a lady and even his brother in this case - well in Africa its just a blow in his face, a taboo.... he might have said those words out of sheer anger, though it went a little too far, but hey if we are to count sins who wouldnt have a stain?....

from my analysis, you really loved him unconditionally (maybe no longer though), but i think the guy does deserve a second chance (ofcourse not under same conditions) - give him another chance and see him treat you like a queen.

If you give him another chance and he blows it then u certainly know that hes not good enough and does not disseve a beautiful thing like u.

Dguy, you are recommending another two years of pain and suffering?

I hope you can pay the punitive damages that comes with the second chance.  That ungrateful guy is not going to change.  What type of frustration will cause a man to bite the finger that fed him for two years and forsake even her own family?

I believe in second chances, but don't you think it is time that guy tries to take care of himself and his own brother instead of continued burden on this innocent girl that has done everything possible to make this guy happy?  The guy is very unhappy.  He never appreciated her.  She is the one that is giving.  It becomes tiring, exhausting and frustrating to have a one way street love affair. 

What happened in this relationship was unfair and too painful for the girl and she should not be encouraged to return for more abuse.  This is my humble opinion.

How about this guy woo her for the next two years before she will consider a second chance?  How about this guy support her and her family also like she did for him?  What is good for the goose is also good for the gander!

well girl i seem to understand ur plight and what u've been going through.first it is written in the bible that ''love thy neighbour as thy self'' the key word there is ur self first b4 anyone else.also there is a  saying that ''charity begins at home''
very well what u did u do it for love but love not appreciated can always find it's way out through the back door.

sincerely speaking u hav tried ur best and the earlier u realise the guy in question those not love u or better still care about u the better for u.

secondly,u will be helping him a great deal if u let go now cos he will learn to value what he has  next time and  u will be pushing him to the wall to wake up to the realities of life and fend for himselfas a man no matter how odd it will appear.

there is a saying that ''necessity is the mother of invention''.

if u keep on with that relationship u wont be doing him any good as a man that he is cos he won't see any need to look for something doing.just free him for two or three week's he will look for some thing doing,believe me he can't afford to go hungry.giving him a chance again is not necessary to me cos atlast he will end up hurting u even more.

love is an emotional bank that is supposed to be serviced by the both parties and should't be one sided unlike ur's that u r the one loving,feeding,caring etc.

now u hav to know that there is a purpose for everything that happens, it's only left for u to interpret it the way it best suits u.

but my candid advice for u is; if u continue with that relationship what u will have from him is more  pretence to love u in order to keep u close until when he hammers cash and believe me if u are still with him when he enventually makes a hit,....u know what will happen?

payback!! hence dumping u like a piece of trash.

be wish girl ''try to learn something about everything and everything about something''

he never valued u and won't start now but neverthless be mindfull not to rush into a new relationship all in the name of looking for someone to pet u.

''learn to pause or nothing worthwhile will catch up to u'' u will definately meet someone that will love u for who u are,respect u,appreciate ur little effort and treat u like a lady that u are.

remember u can always find true love even though it might take time.

all the very best!