![-]( "eddybabs") eddybabs at 1-10-2009 04:35 PM (15 years ago)  (m) @ vivian... u sound like a lovely girl but lyk most women (even older ones spoil their kids), we care too much that we run the risk of enabling people we care for fear appearing to be mean...by all means, please help your man, help me apply for a job, prep for interview, cook for him. Anything more he can get when he has a job. Cause at the end of the day, you need to ask yourself one question, what have u accomplished with him or how is woteva u r about to do gonna help him?
Having said that, he looks like he needs directions in his life, guide him towards achieving greatness, if he wants that but this will be easier as a frn cause with ur history u better off starting off with sum1 new with a new approach.
PS - Just remember, love ur sef first n your neighbour in the right order (ur family comes first)
@ ochendu great advise man, perhaps I can seek ur oh-so-professional help :p
@ tetmosol --- veree easy how people encourage all to forgive n to forget...forgive is easy enuf, forgetting isnt afterall fool me once shame on u, fool me twice shame on me...
impressive gud reader.. good listener ABII SO WHATSUP GAL.. WHAT'S COOKIN.. OVEA | Posted: at 1-10-2009 04:35 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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@ vivian... u sound like a lovely girl but lyk most women (even older ones spoil their kids), we care too much that we run the risk of enabling people we care for fear appearing to be mean...by all means, please help your man, help me apply for a job, prep for interview, cook for him. Anything more he can get when he has a job. Cause at the end of the day, you need to ask yourself one question, what have u accomplished with him or how is woteva u r about to do gonna help him?
Having said that, he looks like he needs directions in his life, guide him towards achieving greatness, if he wants that but this will be easier as a frn cause with ur history u better off starting off with sum1 new with a new approach.
PS - Just remember, love ur sef first n your neighbour in the right order (ur family comes first)
@ ochendu great advise man, perhaps I can seek ur oh-so-professional help :p
@ tetmosol --- veree easy how people encourage all to forgive n to forget...forgive is easy enuf, forgetting isnt afterall fool me once shame on u, fool me twice shame on me...
impressive gud reader.. good listener ABII SO WHATSUP GAL.. WHAT'S COOKIN.. OVEA I dey well ....bout wots cookin, my best guess b pounded yam with egusi soup...but who knows mayb i dey yarn rubbish :p | Posted: at 1-10-2009 04:41 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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@ vivian... u sound like a lovely girl but lyk most women (even older ones spoil their kids), we care too much that we run the risk of enabling people we care for fear appearing to be mean...by all means, please help your man, help me apply for a job, prep for interview, cook for him. Anything more he can get when he has a job. Cause at the end of the day, you need to ask yourself one question, what have u accomplished with him or how is woteva u r about to do gonna help him?
Having said that, he looks like he needs directions in his life, guide him towards achieving greatness, if he wants that but this will be easier as a frn cause with ur history u better off starting off with sum1 new with a new approach.
PS - Just remember, love ur sef first n your neighbour in the right order (ur family comes first)
@ ochendu great advise man, perhaps I can seek ur oh-so-professional help :p
@ tetmosol --- veree easy how people encourage all to forgive n to forget...forgive is easy enuf, forgetting isnt afterall fool me once shame on u, fool me twice shame on me...
impressive gud reader.. good listener ABII SO WHATSUP GAL.. WHAT'S COOKIN.. OVEA I dey well ....bout wots cookin, my best guess b pounded yam with egusi soup...but who knows mayb i dey yarn rubbish :p not at all u om it.. | Posted: at 1-10-2009 04:45 PM (15 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "eddybabs") eddybabs at 1-10-2009 04:46 PM (15 years ago) (m) ok | Posted: at 1-10-2009 04:46 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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Hypocrites!! We are all here calling the guy names cos he called her a witch. No one ever wondered his own side of the story. We all know how uncontrollable and arrogant women can be when they are paying for you. Lets try to think for once. No smoke without fire.
Speach is silver, silence is Gold! | Posted: at 1-10-2009 10:34 PM (15 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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![-]( "ukmk") ukmk at 1-10-2009 10:58 PM (15 years ago) (m) y do u stay with him all this while even when u knw that u on't love him? U must have been a hinderance to his love life because from words so far, u must have been showing-off to people that care to knw that u'r fending 4 ur guy. He, being down does not mean that he is out, things may turn around someday, think twice   . | Posted: at 1-10-2009 10:58 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "Beauti4") Beauti4 at 1-10-2009 10:58 PM (15 years ago) (f) PASSIN
there u go, mr Passover! | Posted: at 1-10-2009 10:58 PM (15 years ago) | Hero | |
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Hypocrites!!
We are all here calling the guy names cos he called her a witch. No one ever wondered his own side of the story.
We all know how uncontrollable and arrogant women can be when they are paying for you. Lets try to think for once. No smoke without fire.
if he wasnt wrong, why apologise? besides, if "we" all know that why put your-self in that situation? they r not even married yet... | Posted: at 1-10-2009 11:19 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "henry1973") henry1973 at 1-10-2009 11:37 PM (15 years ago) (m) baby girl i honestly i feel your agony i no much it pains when you are doing your best ,and your best seem not appriciated .i wil love to advice you that in every one life at times there are monent of crisis ,and you are surpose to understand the hard period,i love to tell you to give him another chance.and dont make reffrence to hia past mistake.it wil not do him any good | Posted: at 1-10-2009 11:37 PM (15 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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![-]( "chik2005") chik2005 at 1-10-2009 11:50 PM (15 years ago) (m) u sure sey no be true?lol | Posted: at 1-10-2009 11:50 PM (15 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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![-]( "ajamu") ajamu at 2-10-2009 05:00 AM (15 years ago) (m) may do not let u wasted your time for doing good thing,becous to love is good. god says you should choose the one you love best out of everybody. my sister do not blame your self for loving someone that your heart choose,just tell him boldly and introduse your new any guy as your husband. | Posted: at 2-10-2009 05:00 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "McBona") McBona at 2-10-2009 06:40 AM (15 years ago) (m) Reply |
Love anyone 4 d sake of God. That's all | Posted: at 2-10-2009 07:11 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "McBona") McBona at 2-10-2009 07:28 AM (15 years ago) (m) =.com | Posted: at 2-10-2009 07:28 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "hencock") hencock at 2-10-2009 08:18 AM (15 years ago) (m) Lady, na wah 4 u o. Like sammy rocko said......guys say thngs when they re pissed and later realise the implications. How re u sure that ur next bf won't say s0methng m0re than that even though he is going to appretiate you better than ur x.......so i go plead on behalf of watever ur x name is. GIVE HIM A CHANCE. One Question is "are u assisting him spiritually?" If n0, then i solemnly tell you. U ve nt spent anything yet.............consider my opinion and make amends. Thank you. | Posted: at 2-10-2009 08:18 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "McBona") McBona at 2-10-2009 08:36 AM (15 years ago) (m) One chance | Posted: at 2-10-2009 08:36 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "princeIT") princeIT at 2-10-2009 08:46 AM (15 years ago) (m) vivian take ur time and look for the right man that will love u the same way u love him and forget him,and pls dont try to go back with him else u will regret the next action | Posted: at 2-10-2009 08:46 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie | |
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i use to love him but he never valued me until now,i help him in so many ways ,ever since i knew him am the one feeding and housing him,because things have not been easy with him,i was hoping that one day he will appreciate me when things get well again ,i have my family i don't give them any thing i gives him my all,people told me to quit that am too young for this cross am bearing i never listened to them cos i loved him,but one day we had a quarrel he looked in to my eyes and called me a witch!!! that am the responsible for his failure and misfortunes ,i can't believe this!! he later pleaded wit me,i kept quiet ,and use my brain,now that i packed out from his house ,he still comes to my house to visit ,please pals give me tips on how to handle him to make him brake up with me ,i can't tell him directly that i quit,but for calling me a witch i don't need him again,i want to be loved again and experience a real love from a man,cos he never shows me love or even be grateful to what am doing for him,i don't think he deserve me,i want him to try alone and see if am really a witch or not ,
It is a pity that some men are like that but life must go on.
Here is were i feel that you went wrong:
1). You do not have to provide for a guy with the hope that it will make him take you serious (it does not work out most time) EMPHASY: MOST TIME.
2) You viewed the thing you did for him as investment - WRONG AGAIN
3) Going to live with him.
4) Expecting him to be grateful
Solution:
Shit do hit the fan and when it happens some people will run and hide and others will stay; what is your stance?
It is very of him to have said what you said he said.
A good thing that you have moved out of his house.
You do not want to continue with him because of what happened; okay.
You do notr have to do things to make him hate you. NO.
Just sit him down and explain that you do not wish to continue any with him anymore.
Make reference to what he called you (if you must).
Forgive him too (this is not optional because forgiving him is to your advantage as it sets you free).
Howeever, that does not mean that you should go on.
BEST OF LUCK.
And do not repeat this mistakes in your next relationship. | Posted: at 2-10-2009 09:46 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "Akpan01") Akpan01 at 2-10-2009 01:03 PM (15 years ago) (f) CHEII BOOK..
"THE WICKED MAN FLEES THOUGHT NO ONE PURSUES, BUT THE RIGHTEOUD ARE AS BOLD AS A LION" | Posted: at 2-10-2009 01:03 PM (15 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "eddybabs") eddybabs at 2-10-2009 01:04 PM (15 years ago) (m) note book or test book | Posted: at 2-10-2009 01:04 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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