where is the best place to raise kids? (Page 2)

Quote from: nigerianvixen26 on 15-07-2008 07:29 PM

Some kids will rebel if u spank them...you should be able to know your child and what works best for em, but i don't think spanking is good...it only will make them very secretive and not be open about things, fearing they'll get in trouble for doing so..

true talk,spanking will not be new to them,you rigth.

Posted: at 17-07-2008 09:12 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie

the best place to race a kid is racin dem urself n too much of spankin is not d best way to race a child

Posted: at 17-07-2008 09:48 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie

yes mam,where do you live presently?have you live in uk before?

Posted: at 19-07-2008 02:36 AM (16 years ago) | Newbie

cos u will have people to teach dem manners even wen u are not around. dey will learn how to socialize with people n respect dem. alot to teach dem,dear, alot.   not kids here,any slight thing dey will say''i hate u'' bcos u dont want dem to mishave

Posted: at 19-09-2008 12:54 AM (16 years ago) | Gistmaniac

I have been faced with this predicament in the past. I have a two years old son who lives with my mother in Lagos and I have been torn between leaving him to grow up in Nigeria or to bring him here to live with me. Certain factors has helped me resolve to let him live in Nigeria for now. Below are some of those.....

1.  Discipline: I would like to have a free rein to discipline my son without having to worry about DSS. This does not imply flogging cos it never worked on me when I was young.

2. Culture: I would like for my son to learn how important the culture is and how important it is to be family oriented and most importantly, I want to shield him from the issue of race that characterize most African American reasonings in the US until he's old enough to understand and make wise judgments.

3.  A child needs his father: Bringing him to the US wouldn't make any difference considering the crazy schedules that I keep here. So I have made arrangements to visit him and be with him for at least 1 week every 6 months. I also talk to him on daily basis for a few minutes and he says words like this to me ..............."how r u?, what did u eat? etc.

Most of you naijapals would agree with me that the way we were raised in Nigeria is quite different from how children are raised here and I'm of the old skool who believes in enforcing discipline.

Posted: at 25-09-2008 03:18 PM (16 years ago) | Upcoming

i guess you mean best place to raise kids?...i'll say the home is best, no training like home training.........by the way over here in naija, we refer to them as children, kids could mean somethin else..lol

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Posted: at 25-09-2008 06:40 PM (16 years ago) | Gistmaniac

I think you can discipline your children anywhere in the world if you teach them boundaries (in love). Location doesn't have anything to do with it. There are children here who are more disciplined than some of the brats I knew back home and vice versa. The thing that was great about growing up in Naija is that you learn to appreciate everything here. I knew what it was like to grow up in Naija, go to school there, and struggle there. So when I came to the States, I didn't waste my college education partying. I worked my butt off to get my degree. But I had focus because I was disciplined by my parents... not the country.

Posted: at 26-09-2008 10:16 AM (16 years ago) | Upcoming

The best place 2 raise a child is Lagos, Nigeria. my reason is dis, Lagos is a very rugged city. wen u raise ur child in such an area, d child would hv been exposed 2 a lot of tins in dat there is no where dat d child will find him or her self dat he or she will not cope.

Posted: at 26-09-2008 11:55 AM (16 years ago) | Newbie

Doesn't matter if u raise ur kids here in naija or abroad but depend on the training u give them.

Posted: at 26-09-2008 05:47 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie

 Raise your kids in the west. 9nija raised kids are the worst in terms of discipline. At home, they're pretenders and at school and amongst mates, something else. Many of the yahoo yahoos, cultists, street sex hawkers et al in Niger are from very respectable backgrounds but because of influence of bad friends and the fact that 9ja is the freeest place in the world(like my white pal who used to live there would say), they lose focus. Or have you heard of cults in any college in US or UK? Certainly not, but in niger, once you are from a rich home, you can bring down someone's head and hang it on the gate everyone to see and in broad day light! My bro, dont do what you wll live to regret, never raise up your kid in 9nija!!! A word they say is enuff for the wise.

Posted: at 26-09-2008 07:07 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie