where is the best place to raise kids? (Page 4)

What matters alot is how u bring up the children, if u have to follow the stupid laws of the Europe or Abroad, ur children deserve to be raised  in Nigeria but if u must treat them with desciplin, leave them in USA, U spare the rod, u spoil the child.

Posted: at 28-09-2008 11:31 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie

SCHOOL ---> NAIJA ... VACATIONS ---> ABROAD

Posted: at 29-09-2008 07:41 AM (16 years ago) |

FUNNY FUNNY FUNNY QUEST   


INSIDE THE BIBLE IS THE BEST PLACE TO TRAIN YOURSELF AND KIDS , BELIEVING IF YOU TRAIN YOURSELF WITH THE WORD OF GOD U CAN AS WELL INPUT YOUR ANOINTING INTO YOUR KIDS AND NO MATTER THE PLACE THEY ARE THE ANOINTING OF GOD EMPOWERS N TRAIN THEM

Posted: at 29-09-2008 05:44 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie

i don't really no what happen to naija women they use to tell lies,what cos the lie?they do tells lies in other to gain there own aims without consider the person that they are lies to.it common in the most of the lady of nowadays 

Posted: at 30-09-2008 09:33 AM (16 years ago) | Newbie

To me,personally i think the best place is 9ja,remember we are Africans and we have got morals and most of us are very discipline compared to abroad kids though  i have never been there before but i have seem kids who come from there and i have watched movies and sincerely speaking,i dont fancy their characters over there.they are very rude and wicked.they have no respect for elderly onces and it pisses me off.but when they are brought up in Nigeria(some part in Nigeria o..not all parts),they are taught to respect,not to be rude they listen to their parents or guardians and learn to love i mean real love not the onces we watch on movies(foriegn). So Nigeria is the BEST man!!

Posted: at 30-09-2008 11:49 AM (16 years ago) | Newbie

our people just need to change there mentality about abroad, i have lived here in uk for 9yrs though i come home periodically, the best quality of life is back home. once u r able to grab what u wanted in life, abeg, dont stay in the system. a lot of viruses go on in the system and get hold of the kids quicker than the adults, except some very stupid adults. abeg i have come to realise home is home no matter what, u may think ur  british but the truth is the real british know themsleves and once in a while they will remind u in case u forget. my son is 8 yrs, two more yrs he is coming home though he is well oriented about his origin. fine, he's got the passport but still, hes full blood nigerian bcos i am and he knows he got the passport bcos he was born here, he knows there is a home somewhere in africa. God bless nigeria, God bless africa, though we ve had our highs and lows but still. abeg take ur child back home and he can come when hes learnt good from the bad and then, he can be useful to u and to himself but dont misconcept me, good kids are here too but they r minor

Posted: at 30-09-2008 01:35 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie

The best place to raise ur kids is neither 9ja or USA....the best place is in ur MIND...sic? check these out...(1) what do u want for the kids...i.e. how close do you want them associated with your African background (Culture, Beauty, love, or folks) (2)with all ur years abroad, do still see beauty/barbarism in anything African? some see Africa as backward or barbaric and assimilated West completely.....(3) how sound do you want the foundation of the education of your kids? (4) is your support system in the USA as unbeatable as that of Africa? where ur folks can keep ur kids without any cost/fear in your absence --- no baby sitter issue? (5) Are you preppared to go to jail/lose ur job over disciplining errant kids or eventually losing ur kids to social workers? (6)  Are u prepared to be disrespected by the ones u shower ur loves unto due to societal influences? (7) What is the honesty ratios as displayed by your folks at home to convince u they will represent u in ur absence? ---
Sir, am not trying to paint a frightening picture of raising kids....no...but am concerned about how thorough u have thought about this issue and which areas u have considered before finally deciding on where and how to bring up ur kids...all been said....i therefore suggest that where ever u bring up ur kids, ur presence must be felt concerning what u want for them.....if u are concerned about a solid academic foundation....between 9ja and USA pls choose 9ja...it has been proved time without number that kids that come from 9ja easily beats the kids here academically...some even go ahead with easily won scholarships...if you don't want your kids to see ur folks in 9ja as (DUMB/STINKING AFRICANS) or the worst (STUPID MOTHERphyukERS) or wonder if they still live in trees/eat human flesh or has ever worn shoes and wish ur kids to sees ur folks simply as their cousins, aunts, uncles, nephews, nieces and even love them as u do that is if you still do...then u might want to train them in Africa.....If u don't mind to call out from work to go and pick up ur kids from school and loose the hours u did not work or have to stay at home when they have unscheduled holidays and u are willing to pay baby sitters more than u earn.....u might want to raise them in USA.....If ur folks will b willing to accommodate ur kids when ASSUU strike or government did not pay teachers and organise teachers u will be paying something in the range of 50cent a day for lectures they maynot get in 2 years in USA..u might choose 9ja....If u are scared that ur folks may lie that they paid Junior's school fees and instead divert it to continue work on their uncompleted  building project...or if the school fees is 10,000naira and u have been paying 50,000...u might choose USA...lol...If you have total control on ur temperament so much that even when your kids disrespect u openly u will not get so mad as to want to spank them and be charged for child abuse then loose ur job and kids to social workers or u might not be eligible to work in certain establishments due to your supposed record of domestic violence.....u might choose USA.......BUT IF U CANNOT SMILE EVEN WHEN THE KIDS GET OFF LIMIT......PLS...PLS.....THINK TWICE B4 U DECIDE TO EDUCATE THEM IN THA USA......kunzles

Posted: at 2-10-2008 09:39 AM (16 years ago) | Upcoming

Love this topic wella.....Its nice advise for all...NAIJA   NAIJA   NAIJA....but stil God knows the best in kids..Not in d midst of wicked people in Naija ooo. Nice Nuclear family and Normal surroundings/area.

Posted: at 3-10-2008 12:37 AM (16 years ago) | Newbie

As a pre-school teacher here in South Africa, I teach a lot of Nigerians.  However, I would not feel too comfortable with the schools in the USA aa you well know about the recent spate of shootings etc in those schools.  True, its not all the schools, but there are many factors to take into consideration.  I would suggest that you wieght the pros and cons of both the countries and take into consideration whether both the parents are naija's or not.  That too will have a great impact on where to raise them.  Many of the parents I deal with are happy to leave there children here till the teens and then send them home.  Hoping this helps a bit.

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Posted: at 4-10-2008 02:15 PM (16 years ago) | Newbie

In a Garden
Just Kiddin,
i think "where" is not the issue here but "how" you raise them, which depends on you. However i would recommend naija cuz our communal close-knit life-style seems to be healthier for a child's social adjustment, as  children get to be children and play with mud and dirt and stuffs like that with one another, than the sendentary life-style of the west where you may never get to know your neighbours name till he dies...

Posted: at 5-10-2008 03:38 AM (16 years ago) | Newbie