Don't Marry A Man With Potentials – Stella Damasus Advises Ladies

5 years ago by: CLARA JANCITA
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(f) at 19-02-2015 11:13AM (5 years ago)

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Nollywood actress, Stella Damasus has called on ladies to be careful when choosing a life partner. She complained about the increasing rate of marriage breakups in the society today.
She warned women to strive to keep their homes and advised them against feeling too relaxed in any relationship because it could be dangerous.
The actress further advised that before a lady should profess her love for a guy, she should first investigate the man’s goals in life and weigh them against hers.
Stella noted that it is not a must for a lady to get married to the wealthiest man. According to her, a lady should date a guy who has something meaningful doing for himself.
In her words, “The one thing that I find that is the most reoccurring thing with women is, o he has potential. The truth is, we think that we just meet a man, we fall in love and we want to marry potential. We cannot marry potentials that is why we fall into the issues that we face everyday in marriages.
“Now one thing that I have learnt through experience to people around me is that when you meet a guy, you start to date, you start to fall in love even before you get to that point where he decides to pop the question way before then, your dating period should be a time where you get to know each other. Not what he likes or who his friends are but who he is as a man in terms of his goals in life. If his goals in life do not work with your own, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.”
“First of all, there are some questions that I know are very important to ask when it comes to you being with a guy. You want to know what his goals are, who he wants to be but that is not enough. You must make sure that he must be doing something to achieve those goals.
“Another point is, what does he do? If you want to marry a man, he must not be all wealthy or big or must be perfect because there is perfect person, but he must be doing something, he must have focus, something should wake him up in the morning and get him excited to want to do something.
“He doesn’t need to have all the money in the world, he doesn’t even need to have started the business he is doing, but at least see that he is putting plans together, he is meeting people, he is going out there. How does he address himself, how does he represent himself?
“A man without a brand is no man to marry o, I am being very serious. Everyman is a brand in his own right even a man that wants to be a shoe maker. Not people who sit in their house everyday with their huge dreams,”
she added.
She further disclosed that she once dated a man who wanted to be a celebrity but never stepped out of the house except at night where he goes to club and parties with the expectation of meeting of meeting people without branding himself and having what to sell to his potential helpers.



ngfineface (f) at 19-02-2015 11:21AM
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Crap! Saying A and doing B.Always wanting to be in the news. Mtcheeeew
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tunlade70 (m) at 19-02-2015 12:14PM
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“The one thing that I find that is the most reoccurring thing with women is, o he has potential. The truth is, we think that we just meet a man, we fall in love and we want to marry potential. We cannot marry potentials that is why we fall into the issues that we face everyday in marriages.
“Now one thing that I have learnt through experience to people around me is that when you meet a guy, you start to date, you start to fall in love even before you get to that point where he decides to pop the question way before then, your dating period should be a time where you get to know each other. Not what he likes or who his friends are but who he is as a man in terms of his goals in life. If his goals in life do not work with your own, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.”
“First of all, there are some questions that I know are very important to ask when it comes to you being with a guy. You want to know what his goals are, who he wants to be but that is not enough. You must make sure that he must be doing something to achieve those goals.
“Another point is, what does he do? If you want to marry a man, he must not be all wealthy or big or must be perfect because there is perfect person, but he must be doing something, he must have focus, something should wake him up in the morning and get him excited to want to do something.
“He doesn’t need to have all the money in the world, he doesn’t even need to have started the business he is doing, but at least see that he is putting plans together, he is meeting people, he is going out there. How does he address himself, how does he represent himself?
“A man without a brand is no man to marry o, I am being very serious. Everyman is a brand in his own right even a man that wants to be a shoe maker. Not people who sit in their house everyday with their huge dreams,”



Is that the reason why you go after other woman's man?
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echeeche (m) at 19-02-2015 12:20PM
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I hear
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exever100 (f) at 19-02-2015 12:32PM
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Stella stella stella .how many times did i call u?hmmm anyway i dnt wonna judge u,who r my to judge u self.a sinner like me.
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vimak (m) at 19-02-2015 01:34PM
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Hypocrisy!! Like you care and know the family values,because if do !!u wouldn't put asunder in ur friends marriage.. teachers stop teaching nonsense..
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DrSoba (m) at 19-02-2015 01:53PM
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Whatever
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erhubeauty (f) at 19-02-2015 02:12PM
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Stella go bury ur head in shame. Husband snatcher
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proly (f) at 19-02-2015 03:05PM
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Nice one
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elchymo (m) at 19-02-2015 05:29PM
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Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes
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egwuevans17 (m) at 19-02-2015 07:50PM
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stella, stella, stella. How many times did i call you, DON'T SAY THIS AGAIN Ooo... Nigerian men will be very angry with you Oo.. All they do is sleep and wake up and talk about Politics wey them no fet gain anything from. And most of them are the ones who shout out to you as a fan, So by saying this you may be loosing some of them Oo..
Nigerian Men knows all things, but they can't even do a minor of it. They are the biggest dreamer with no actual thing doing, At the end of the day they come out and blame government. May God have us.
This your post makes me remember one of my friend back then WHO IS A GOOD DREAMER. He is the only one who knows everything and put everything in place, But he is doing all this in his so called vision because he never make any attempt on all the very wonderful vision he so much talk about.
And i fear this is the case with most men in Nigeria, Most are wise enough to make things happen, But talking of govt. and the situation in the country had surpress all they can do for themselves... I pray God take us out of the slavery we are in Nigeria and take us higher...
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egwuevans17 (m) at 19-02-2015 08:02PM
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Most men in Nigeria need to not only be a good dreamer but a doing, This is the situation i have never fully see in most people i have met till date. Most men talk high but do little even when they can do more, They choose to do the less privilege things when they have the capacitor to make a change. This brings them back to the stage 1 of a dreamer all again...I am sorry if this touch anybody, This is my personal view...
Though, I have finalize some of my analysis on this, This is what makes me arrived to the fact that the Govt. Is mostly responsible for the failure we have in the state not only because of corruption but also because they have successfully reduced the morals of the average Nigerians.
I still support any body who have a distinct quality to pursue it effectively and leave those dreamers, I a not a dreamer and i can never be a friend with a dreamer because most of them are always lazy.
I don't need a too know person, I only need the one who can pursue the little he knows with all his ability, That is success, Not coming to Niajapals to comment about change in Govt which every good thinking man knows has nothing to offer.
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Gold777 (m) at 19-02-2015 08:17PM
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Hmmm
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christyjoy (f) at 19-02-2015 09:39PM
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who Re u advising.. shame on u!
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Wysetots (m) at 19-02-2015 10:49PM
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Ok
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discollins (m) at 20-02-2015 08:33AM
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Quote from: ngfineface on 19-02-2015 11:21AM
Crap! Saying A and doing B.Always wanting to be in the news. Mtcheeeew
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bamsailor (m) at 20-02-2015 09:10AM
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Quote from: egwuevans17 on 19-02-2015 08:02PM
Most men in Nigeria need to not only be a good dreamer but a doing, This is the situation i have never fully see in most people i have met till date. Most men talk high but do little even when they can do more, They choose to do the less privilege things when they have the capacitor to make a change. This brings them back to the stage 1 of a dreamer all again...I am sorry if this touch anybody, This is my personal view...
Though, I have finalize some of my analysis on this, This is what makes me arrived to the fact that the Govt. Is mostly responsible for the failure we have in the state not only because of corruption but also because they have successfully reduced the morals of the average Nigerians.
I still support any body who have a distinct quality to pursue it effectively and leave those dreamers, I a not a dreamer and i can never be a friend with a dreamer because most of them are always lazy.
I don't need a too know person, I only need the one who can pursue the little he knows with all his ability, That is success, Not coming to Niajapals to comment about change in Govt which every good thinking man knows has nothing to offer. Nice one

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Nicksam (m) at 20-02-2015 09:17AM
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FOR THE LADIES
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tokslucci (f) at 20-02-2015 09:32AM
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ok i heard.
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OmniWheezy (m) at 20-02-2015 11:51AM
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True talk my sister;
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