It's better 4 her to run private bussiness at least dis can create chances 4 other activities like catering 4 me and our kids.Period
I quite agree...............
A LITTLE HELP HERE; A LITTLE HELP THERE, MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND! | Posted: at 24-08-2010 10:12 AM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "tmusowoya") tmusowoya at 24-08-2010 10:21 AM (13 years ago)  (m) It's only selfish and self centered men who behave like that. As a man I consider it extremely important that my wife is able to support herself and our children even after I'm long gone. We, men, need to work up to the reality that in the majority of cases particularly in Africa, where it's rare for an older woman to marry a younger man, wives outlive husbands. I personally don't want my death to be the advent of untold suffering for the love of my life and our kids. | Posted: at 24-08-2010 10:21 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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It's only selfish and self centered men who behave like that. As a man I consider it extremely important that my wife is able to support herself and our children even after I'm long gone. We, men, need to work up to the reality that in the majority of cases particularly in Africa, where it's rare for an older woman to marry a younger man, wives outlive husbands. I personally don't want my death to be the advent of untold suffering for the love of my life and our kids.
Well said............thanks
A LITTLE HELP HERE; A LITTLE HELP THERE, MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND! | Posted: at 24-08-2010 12:11 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "solojaro") solojaro at 24-08-2010 12:27 PM (13 years ago) (m) It's only selfish and self centered men who behave like that. As a man I consider it extremely important that my wife is able to support herself and our children even after I'm long gone. We, men, need to work up to the reality that in the majority of cases particularly in Africa, where it's rare for an older woman to marry a younger man, wives outlive husbands. I personally don't want my death to be the advent of untold suffering for the love of my life and our kids.
Yes. dis na true talk. | Posted: at 24-08-2010 12:27 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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It's only selfish and self centered men who behave like that. As a man I consider it extremely important that my wife is able to support herself and our children even after I'm long gone. We, men, need to work up to the reality that in the majority of cases particularly in Africa, where it's rare for an older woman to marry a younger man, wives outlive husbands. I personally don't want my death to be the advent of untold suffering for the love of my life and our kids.
Abi?u make sense.
I will never fade and I will never blend....not here to be ur friend or enemy, i say what i ave to say & i'll be out as soon as i'm done, not hard to find & not here to keep i'm the beauty that you can never sight asleep!  | Posted: at 24-08-2010 12:57 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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What is it with some men who have vowed never to allow their women work?
My late uncle never let his wife work, now she is finding it hard to cope after his death (especially as the old generation bank where her husband banked all his money before his death, has made it difficult for her to withdraw money from that account which she is the 'next of kin').........When he was alife, he would vehemently refuse the wife doing anything. 'What are you lacking?', he would ask. 'I can provide for my family', he would said. Today, she wish she was doing something before he died.
I see this same thing playing out in some families today. Some men are scared of letting their women out of their home. Alright, you dont want her to work for somebody else, why not open up something for her to manage? The time when women sat at home all day, watching Africa Magic, eating and getting fat is fast over.
I ask the men, why would you stop your woman from bringing in fund into the house? What are the men afraid of?
Ladies, would you agree to stay at home all day doing nothing and depending on a man to cater for all your needs? If he refuses to let you do anything, how would you convince him otherwise without being termed 'STUBBORN'?
Most Men dat don't want their wives 2 work just believe that the wife doesn't need 2 go thru the Stress involved in Working Then after all dat Stress, still try 2 keep family chores going It's just their way of Showing Care and Love for the Woman While Some just want d Woman 2 be available everytime they need Her Allow her to work , then if she can't cope with family chores , nobody will tell her to stop working. But dont insist she should not work when she has the ability to do so
I will never fade and I will never blend....not here to be ur friend or enemy, i say what i ave to say & i'll be out as soon as i'm done, not hard to find & not here to keep i'm the beauty that you can never sight asleep! | Posted: at 24-08-2010 12:57 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "onchedu") onchedu at 24-08-2010 01:02 PM (13 years ago) (m) It's only selfish and self centered men who behave like that. As a man I consider it extremely important that my wife is able to support herself and our children even after I'm long gone. We, men, need to work up to the reality that in the majority of cases particularly in Africa, where it's rare for an older woman to marry a younger man, wives outlive husbands. I personally don't want my death to be the advent of untold suffering for the love of my life and our kids.
U've looked at it from one perspective and a healthy one at that and using this as basis for what Ur own preference could be is entirely ur business, but castigating other men that differ in perspective to urs and calling them names is just not right. U aren't married are U? Even if U were, the woman U will call wife won't be the same with the women other men call wife would she? | Posted: at 24-08-2010 01:02 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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hmmmmmmmm, another angle from Onchedu
A LITTLE HELP HERE; A LITTLE HELP THERE, MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND! | Posted: at 24-08-2010 01:06 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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Divine project can u obey dat order and not work after marriage?
I will never fade and I will never blend....not here to be ur friend or enemy, i say what i ave to say & i'll be out as soon as i'm done, not hard to find & not here to keep i'm the beauty that you can never sight asleep! | Posted: at 24-08-2010 01:08 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "onchedu") onchedu at 24-08-2010 01:11 PM (13 years ago) (m) Hmmmm... the way some of U girls sound like U think marriage is a war front with husband and wife fighting on opposite sides trying to out smart the other person makes me wonder where U grew up. Why marry a man that U know loves U and not trust him to take the lead out of love and expect U to follow? | Posted: at 24-08-2010 01:11 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "Michro") Michro at 24-08-2010 01:15 PM (13 years ago) (m) No big deal if proper and solid provision is made for the family. But aside that, it's absolutely nonesense.
I am as gentle as a dove and as wise as a serpent | Posted: at 24-08-2010 01:15 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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Hmmmm... the way some of U girls sound like U think marriage is a war front with husband and wife fighting on opposite sides trying to out smart the other person makes me wonder where U grew up.
Why marry a man that U know loves U and not trust him to take the lead out of love and expect U to follow?
Come on,Onche! Not you, too! I'm really tired hearing all that crap about man leading the woman!  
Live and let live! | Posted: at 24-08-2010 01:17 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "esonu") esonu at 24-08-2010 01:18 PM (13 years ago) (m) peeped
CHILDREN ARE BORN BUT MEN ARE MADE;THE GOLD THAT WILL BE REFINED MUST PASS THROUGH THE FURNACE.WORDS | Posted: at 24-08-2010 01:18 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "onchedu") onchedu at 24-08-2010 01:26 PM (13 years ago) (m) Bittersweet, communication isn't as easy at it seems. We are bound to misunderstand nd be misunderstood. The words lead and submission are not words we see from the same perspective especially on the issue of marriage. Sincerely I don't expect anyone who doesnt understand God's love for mankind to understand what his love for his wife should be like. I also do not expect any woman to understand submission, leadership and followership as it is in the marital context if she hasn't understood what manner of submission and followership Christ in all his boundless love calls on his Church to apply with Him. God said to man, "Come let us reason together." That suggests an elevation to a certain level of equality. Himself called us god's. Now are we to take it that because he called us to be "equals" with Him that we indeed are equal with him? | Posted: at 24-08-2010 01:26 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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Guys abuse God's words and twist them in their advantage! Disappointing!
Live and let live! | Posted: at 24-08-2010 01:30 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "esonu") esonu at 24-08-2010 01:33 PM (13 years ago) (m)  ??
CHILDREN ARE BORN BUT MEN ARE MADE;THE GOLD THAT WILL BE REFINED MUST PASS THROUGH THE FURNACE.WORDS | Posted: at 24-08-2010 01:33 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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Guys abuse God's words and twist them in their advantage! Disappointing!
I will never fade and I will never blend....not here to be ur friend or enemy, i say what i ave to say & i'll be out as soon as i'm done, not hard to find & not here to keep i'm the beauty that you can never sight asleep! | Posted: at 24-08-2010 01:38 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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Divine project can u obey dat order and not work after marriage?
My daddy taught me to fend for myself right from when I was little.........He could afford to look after me, but he made me understand that I dont have to depend on anyone for anything.........The man I must marry must understand that Divine Project doesnt know how to ask for everything............I really hate to depend on any one.............He has to find something for my hands to do.......I dont want to sit at home all day and become a burden to any one!
A LITTLE HELP HERE; A LITTLE HELP THERE, MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND! | Posted: at 24-08-2010 01:39 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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Ok gud but wat if he insists?  .
I will never fade and I will never blend....not here to be ur friend or enemy, i say what i ave to say & i'll be out as soon as i'm done, not hard to find & not here to keep i'm the beauty that you can never sight asleep! | Posted: at 24-08-2010 01:40 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "onchedu") onchedu at 24-08-2010 01:42 PM (13 years ago) (m) Hmmmm... the way some of U girls sound like U think marriage is a war front with husband and wife fighting on opposite sides trying to out smart the other person makes me wonder where U grew up.
Why marry a man that U know loves U and not trust him to take the lead out of love and expect U to follow?
Come on,Onche! Not you, too! I'm really tired hearing all that crap about man leading the woman! Do U believe in Love? Guys abuse God's words and twist them in their advantage! Disappointing! Are U accusing me of doing that? Do U know that the bands of marriage are tighter on the man more than they are on the woman? Do u know that we are not called to just love but also to not bitter against them? All U are called to do is submit. I've talked on thsi issue before and how marriage is first a service to god than it is for our pleasure U take a man/woman, U both agree to go before God to agre to "His term" for the institution He instituted. It's not a Husbands do this if Ur wives do that or wives do this if Ur husband do that affair. It is a God I will do this becuase U say I shoul institution As long as U have agreed to be married before God, U should live the life of a wife or husband as unto God, turning a blind eye to what the other person is doing. This is a long story. Pls check through my posts and see if U can get more insight on previous posts on similar topics or just really take time out to study the bible. No body holy pass and the tasks before each and everyone of us may not be easy but God gives us grace to go through and come out victorious. | Posted: at 24-08-2010 01:42 PM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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