onchedu at 25-08-2010 11:30 AM (13 years ago) (m) Will be back to offer suggestions. For now sha I'll advice U to just try expressing Ur feelings to him about Ur disposition to trusting him and how much u love him and want things to work with him against the odds. Tell it to him like U have told it to us. I hope all works out well for the both of U. That would be really cool cos na naija boy be that and him suppose rep us. Posted: at 25-08-2010 11:30 AM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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hbabe at 25-08-2010 11:33 AM (13 years ago) (f) I will say just sit him down and tell him how you feel about all the issues you have outlined here; you should be free to call your husband anytime you want and he should not browse for too long and fail to give you attention. You both need to sit down and come to an agreement on how to handle things, and you need to give him room, don't be too possessive. It is said that the first few years of marriage are always tough as they are the years the couple try to get used to each other, your husband is still trying to get used to the idea that he is no longer a bachelor but married and accountable to someone. Give it time, put in effort to make him know you care where he is and try to build some form of trust. Good luck
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onchedu at 25-08-2010 11:34 AM (13 years ago) (m) Tassara, this your husband ow well do u know him, wat about his background where does his parent live, is he a nigerian guy studying where u are?
U see there are most mistake we ladies make, we really have to know wat a guy is really is b4 embarking on a journey call marriage with him becos most guys have different motives of getting married/dating a girl
some may want to marry/date a girl coz they love and may start a future together while some may date to achieve a certain aim and once that aim is being achieve the marriage or relationship get soured immediately.
u are very young and so he is, i think if he want to flirt, club or party it should be with u and not with any other girl, but d reverse is the case But try to find out more about him and pray along side with it God help u
A thousand kisses to Ur lips for good advice. So complicated, dear!So complicated! I'm sorry for what are you going through! In this kind of relationships, if u can compromise Big time,it will resist, but if not.....impossible!
I'm impressed. Posted: at 25-08-2010 11:34 AM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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esonu at 25-08-2010 11:35 AM (13 years ago) (m) ??
CHILDREN ARE BORN BUT MEN ARE MADE;THE GOLD THAT WILL BE REFINED MUST PASS THROUGH THE FURNACE.WORDS Posted: at 25-08-2010 11:35 AM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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Tassara, this your husband ow well do u know him, wat about his background where does his parent live, is he a nigerian guy studying where u are?
U see there are most mistake we ladies make, we really have to know wat a guy is really is b4 embarking on a journey call marriage with him becos most guys have different motives of getting married/dating a girl
some may want to marry/date a girl coz they love and may start a future together while some may date to achieve a certain aim and once that aim is being achieve the marriage or relationship get soured immediately.
u are very young and so he is, i think if he want to flirt, club or party it should be with u and not with any other girl, but d reverse is the case But try to find out more about him and pray along side with it God help u
A thousand kisses to Ur lips for good advice. So complicated, dear!So complicated! I'm sorry for what are you going through! In this kind of relationships, if u can compromise Big time,it will resist, but if not.....impossible!
I'm impressed. Hmmmmmm!
Live and let live! Posted: at 25-08-2010 11:39 AM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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sixtyhoney at 25-08-2010 11:40 AM (13 years ago) (f) my dear take heart that is men for you is not because you are white or something 85&percent of nigeria men don't know the meaning of respect so my advice for you is take your time at one precious night and talk to him and if he did stop it hit him with a bottle of beer in his head and take him to the hospital and visit him the following day with a gift of rose and with word of love that you did it because you love him and you are jealous simple. Posted: at 25-08-2010 11:40 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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blessedme at 25-08-2010 11:45 AM (13 years ago) (f) Tassara, this your husband ow well do u know him, wat about his background where does his parent live, is he a nigerian guy studying where u are?
U see there are most mistake we ladies make, we really have to know wat a guy is really is b4 embarking on a journey call marriage with him becos most guys have different motives of getting married/dating a girl
some may want to marry/date a girl coz they love and may start a future together while some may date to achieve a certain aim and once that aim is being achieve the marriage or relationship get soured immediately.
u are very young and so he is, i think if he want to flirt, club or party it should be with u and not with any other girl, but d reverse is the case But try to find out more about him and pray along side with it God help u
A thousand kisses to Ur lips for good advice. Thank u so much for those kisses Posted: at 25-08-2010 11:45 AM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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my dear take heart that is men for you is not because you are white or something 85&percent of nigeria men don't know the meaning of respect so my advice for you is take your time at one precious night and talk to him and if he did stop it hit him with a bottle of beer in his head and take him to the hospital and visit him the following day with a gift of rose and with word of love that you did it because you love him and you are jealous simple.
That didn't sound good at all! It's that true?
Live and let live! Posted: at 25-08-2010 11:46 AM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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@sixtyhoney, pls dont confuse the young lady. Posted: at 25-08-2010 11:48 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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blessedme at 25-08-2010 11:49 AM (13 years ago) (f) my dear take heart that is men for you is not because you are white or something 85&percent of nigeria men don't know the meaning of respect so my advice for you is take your time at one precious night and talk to him and if he did stop it hit him with a bottle of beer in his head and take him to the hospital and visit him the following day with a gift of rose and with word of love that you did it because you love him and you are jealous simple.
not a good one there wat if he dies or something drastic happens to him do u think he will listen to "i did it coz of love and jealousy" common Posted: at 25-08-2010 11:49 AM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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Bismack at 25-08-2010 11:51 AM (13 years ago) (m) trash Posted: at 25-08-2010 11:51 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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@Blessedme, pls help me tell her. @Bs, it doesnt just sound good. Posted: at 25-08-2010 11:51 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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sixtyhoney at 25-08-2010 11:53 AM (13 years ago) (f) @bittersweet belive me is tru and i hate it.they don't know the meaning of respect Posted: at 25-08-2010 11:53 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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SAmyrocko at 25-08-2010 11:53 AM (13 years ago) (m) @poster, marriage is not meant for some boys who are really ready to settle down with one woman. From the look things he still wants to have fun with his friends meaning his ain't ready to marry. . Nevertheless, I won't dispute the fact that you love him so much and you are equally putting your best into the relationship for the sake of not letting him look outside. But my question is: IS HE REALLY GOING TO CHANGE FOR GOOD? Now that you both are married; there are some things he should withdraw himself from doing. For instance: Spending zillions of time in the NET, going out to hunt for his friends when he should be at home with you, (that is when you both are together), doing unnecessary things like going to club alone without you. These things should be put to check if he really wants you two to remain as couples. However, compromise should be reached in other to make out something out of your marriage. And you yourself should try as much as you can to let go of the fact that he has cheated on you before since you have forgiven him and has also accepted him back. Though it’s hard to forget considering the fact you LOVE him so much. Hope it turns out good for you two.
Life is one big road with lots of signs, so when you are riding through th Posted: at 25-08-2010 11:53 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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@Blessedme, pls help me tell her. @Bs, it doesnt just sound good.
I just hope that it was only an exaggeration!
Live and let live! Posted: at 25-08-2010 11:53 AM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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onchedu at 25-08-2010 11:53 AM (13 years ago) (m) my dear take heart that is men for you is not because you are white or something 85&percent of nigeria men don't know the meaning of respect so my advice for you is take your time at one precious night and talk to him and if he did stop it hit him with a bottle of beer in his head and take him to the hospital and visit him the following day with a gift of rose and with word of love that you did it because you love him and you are jealous simple.
Babe I hail U o. 85% of Nigerian men? Where are U sef? Posted: at 25-08-2010 11:53 AM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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@bittersweet belive me is tru and i hate it.they don't know the meaning of respect
Not good news!
Live and let live! Posted: at 25-08-2010 11:54 AM (13 years ago) | Hero | |
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SAmyrocko at 25-08-2010 11:55 AM (13 years ago) (m) @poster, marriage is not meant for some boys who are really NOT ready to settle down with one woman. From the look things he still wants to have fun with his friends meaning his ain't ready to marry. . Nevertheless, I won't dispute the fact that you love him so much and you are equally putting your best into the relationship for the sake of not letting him look outside. But my question is: IS HE REALLY GOING TO CHANGE FOR GOOD? Now that you both are married; there are some things he should withdraw himself from doing. For instance: Spending zillions of time in the NET, going out to hunt for his friends when he should be at home with you, (that is when you both are together), doing unnecessary things like going to club alone without you. These things should be put to check if he really wants you two to remain as couples. However, compromise should be reached in other to make out something out of your marriage. And you yourself should try as much as you can to let go of the fact that he has cheated on you before since you have forgiven him and has also accepted him back. Though it’s hard to forget considering the fact you LOVE him so much. Hope it turns out good for you two.
Life is one big road with lots of signs, so when you are riding through th Posted: at 25-08-2010 11:55 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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sixtyhoney at 25-08-2010 11:56 AM (13 years ago) (f) @onchedu my bros na the tru i be talk oooooooooooo Posted: at 25-08-2010 11:56 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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Bismack at 25-08-2010 11:57 AM (13 years ago) (m) ok Posted: at 25-08-2010 11:57 AM (13 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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