I beg u, 9ja girls and boys...HELP ME! i need some advices :((( (Page 3)

@60honey, pls dont generalize

Posted: at 25-08-2010 11:57 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Yes, we know that it is wrong having multiple relationships.........but whether you agree or not doesnt matter....that is just the situation on ground.  African Men are Polygamous.....that is calling a spade a spade without minding whose ox is gored.........

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Posted: at 25-08-2010 12:01 PM (14 years ago) | Hero

I hope so

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Posted: at 25-08-2010 12:01 PM (14 years ago) | Hero

Which places wey you don travel reach to say this kinda thing ?

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Posted: at 25-08-2010 12:06 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero

The story is dam too long but all the same marriage is for  better or worst. so take it easy dear.

Posted: at 25-08-2010 12:11 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie

thank u

Posted: at 25-08-2010 12:16 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming

@adatto she we take it easy but you men really need to learn how to love and respect women

Posted: at 25-08-2010 12:22 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming

See humanity. Beautiful humanity. Such interesting creatures, those things called humans.

Well, me should keep my mouth shut cause me have never been married. I think I was in my past life.

1. You can't know if he is going to cheat. You can not know. You are not God. So get those thoughts out of your head. You do know that he is capable. Every human is capable of cheating, lieing, murder, etc.

2. You have decided to love him. You saw his flaws and it was a decision you made. He is your baby. And a mother loves her baby unconditionally.

3. You do not need attention from him for survival. He is the one that needs attention. Let him watch his television and spend all his time on things that do not matter. Don't go saying that you want to feel loved and all that. If u want to feel loved then love yourself. If you need attention give yourself attention. Seriously, who can attend to you like you? Who can love you like you can love you?

4. Get pregnant. Ha a haah ahahha.

5. Tell him that you have this constant fear that he will cheat on you and not only catch an infection but also infect you with some disease.

6. Also make him realize that when you ask after him, it is mostly because you care not cause you want to be domineering or something like that. You need to let him know that you respect his freedom and you aint trying to be some dictator. Men, especially Nigerian men hate to be controlled.

All the above being said, how are you doing? I think you should concentrate on becoming rock-solid. Becoming that woman. You know.......The wife that everybody envies. Perfection is a continous struggle.

I keep saying this on this site. I don't know why. And it is like becoming awkward. It kinds of feels like I keep recommending a book for every problem out there. Get a copy of Stephen Covey's "7Habits of highly effective people." That book is a must read for every couple. It covers conflict management, ambition, goal setting, parenting, you name it. I think it can help you guys put things into perspective. Like life is like a boat and time is a sea. So whithout a compass, you guys will like be headed no where and every where. You guys would be like blind and your marriage may hit the rocks.  Stephen is of the opinion that families should have mission statements. I think with that guys philosophy, you guys have a good chance of survival. But, the conciousness of your lifes and your marriage is what will determine if you guys will wake up.

The pain of the world is beautiful. This is life. Ha ah hahahah. So smile. Smile. just smile. This is life. Wow. Hmn! No be small thing.

Once again, you do not need a man's attention to be healthy. There are flowers, books, kitchen, internet, music, ............find something to do. Like me, I prefer a good movie to human company. Ha hahahah. I prefer a good book to human company. I know it is almost wrong, but, hell, this is life. It doesn't mean that I hate humans.

You are the strong one. Be the strong one. Be the pillar.

Posted: at 25-08-2010 12:24 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming

@SAMyrocko no am thanking u

Posted: at 25-08-2010 12:26 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming

if you leave him he will go on with is life. and how are you sure your new man will not be worse ?

Posted: at 25-08-2010 12:32 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming