A petty trader, Mrs. Kate Ude, has narrated to an Ojo Grade ‘A’ Customary Court, Ojo, Lagos, how she begs, cajoles and pleads with her husband to have intimacy with her.
The mother of two who revealed this in a divorce suit she filed against her husband in suit number OCCA/054/2010, added that all her pleas to enjoy her conjugal rights always fall on her husband’s deaf ears.
She said that instead, her husband would turn her into a punching bag at every slightest provocation, a situation she told the court she can no longer put up with.
“He denies me my conjugal rights with him. I have to beg, cajole and plead with him. Yet he would not let me enjoy the warmth of his strong areas around my cold body.
“He does not allow me access to our matrimonial bed any longer. I sleep in the sitting room with the kids while he enjoys the comfort of our bedroom all alone,” she lamented in court.
She said that lack of trust and understanding have destroyed their blissful marriage, while she further accused her husband of not providing for the upkeep of the family.
“My husband does not trust or understand me at all. He suspects every move I make both at home and in my shop. I was once a fashion designer gathering the little money I make to support him financially, but he callously packed my sewing machines and sent them to the village, leaving me empty handed.
“Yet, he would not provide money for me and our kids. I single handedly pay the children’s school fees and then sometimes pay the house rent. I was frustrated when he sent my sewing machines to the village. So, I managed to source for money to start selling foodstuff.
“After all my efforts, my ever jealous husband mistook my contribution as an avenue for me to make money and take over his authority as the head of the family and defy his order. His argument was that when women become richer than their husbands they would start disrespecting them,” she said.
She prays the court to grant her prayers for the dissolution of the marriage and grant her the custody of their two kids for proper motherly care.
In his reaction to all the allegations levelled against him, her husband, Stephen Ude, told the court that he has nothing to say but maintained that he still loves his wife dearly and wants her back by all means.
The court president, Alhaji T. A. Saeed, after listening to both parties, adjourned the matter till a later date for further hearing.
Posted: at 6-10-2010 08:03 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
a man who really love his wife will do anything to pleacs her,your husband sholud be beging you for sex and not the other round,but if it is happening the other round meaning he is seeing someone who no how to do it better then you.so i will say you better improve on your sex skill.so you can hold him back.
Posted: at 7-10-2010 11:22 AM (14 years ago) | Newbie
This story is a perfect example of andropause. Andropause is a condition by which older men’s testosterone hormones sink to very low levels. When this happens, he will experience loss of physical dexterity, mood swings and low libido.If anyone of you is experiencing andropause or male menopause, it's about time you get to a doctor cause there is a solution! Don't allow this condition to ruin your relationship with your family!
Posted: at 8-10-2010 05:23 AM (14 years ago) | Newbie