Maka Why? (Page 16)

hia, u look me finish u tink say i dey find man? abeg oh

i done talk my own oh, from frequently, e go turn to weekly, den daily...i no fit shout abeg

LOL  like play like play you don b wife for free LOL

hehehe u too funny "paulina paulina" u r welcome though

Hmmmmmm

una too plenty for hia wey head no just correct but funny

A close friend of mine sent me an urgent BB message, her message was the sort of BB message that urges you to instantly pick up your phone and call because there must be some major gist! I responded and then called her immediately after that.

Kiru sounded so upset, she could barely speak. She began narrating her story;

She had spent the weekend at her man’s house. It was a 5 day weekend, one of those long weekends that comes once in a while. They had gone to the cinema on one day, enjoyed a romantic dinner on the next day and generally had a great time. On the final night, as they chilled on the coach, sharing a tub of ice cream and stolen kisses while watching an action flick; he suddenly moved away from her, sat up and looked into her eyes.

Kiru was startled, “Do you have a surprise for me?” she teased.

Abiola – “Sweets, you haven’t been taking good care of me”

Kiru – “Umm…Okay…”

Abiola – “We haven’t been having enough sex lately and you don’t even cook for me anymore plus when I asked you to iron my shirt for church on Sunday, you ignored me”

As Kiru described, she didn’t say a word at first. She simply looked into his eyes and then slowly moved her gaze to her “empty” ring finger and then back to him – then she shouted “ANUOFIA!” (This is basically a heavy Igbo insult meaning bush meat). She grabbed her things and stormed out of his apartment.

 As she told me, she spent the next 24 hours – crying, laughing and “thinking about her life”. After 5 years of dating, no ring, yet her man could confidently demand “wifely duties” from her.

Kiru’s experience is not peculiar. A lot of girls act as wives; some cook, some clean, some keep it rolling in the bedroom, some do all three while some go as far as adding motherly duties such as giving him money etc…

 I ask this – what do you make of this phenomenon? One of my conservative (or so I thought!) aunties recently told me that “I must show the guy that I am a wife material otherwise other girls will show him and I will lose out”.

Must i dish out all that is supposedly reserved for my future husband to my boyfriend. In the same vein, should I expect him to act as a husband as well?

Let me  know what you think and also share your girlfriend-wife/boyfriend-husband experiences!