There's nothing wrong about that. hence both of you have the trust on yourselves. Another thing is knowing the kind of club or pub she's hanging out with friends and what time she should return home. People should be free and do things normal, once in a while, as long as is not a daily issue. Give her a chance to develop yr trust more on her... practically !!
hmm DK...well dat na 4 u...to sm men its a no-go area...cos men kw wat they do in pubs n clubs...so they wudnt want their women to be seen there... I kw civilization has turned everyth around...Tell me why a married woman shud be seen in clubs...hmm maybe am sounding old-school, but hmm its not 100% right 4 her. Any man that think otherwise of such request from the wife, Seems to be guilty of something... if both of them understand and know each other very well without any skeleton in their closet.. i don't see the reason why if a wife ask the hubby for at least once in while to hangout with her friends, he will refuse that... Civilization is even what makes it better.. Let me ask, does it mean if yr married, yr man will not be taking u to a pub or club to just hangout sometimes ?? Does it mean been married is automatic Certificate of not doing some certain things again ?? like some Men will not even allow their wife to even go to fitness center but before they got married she was always going there keep fit and staying in shape... Over protective that mean nothing.
I'M THA MAN IN MY CITY YO!!! | Posted: at 21-05-2011 11:08 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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Its not a bad thing...but at the same time i wudnt advice women to engage in it after marriage. U can see each other during the day and gist once in a while. besides only a less busy woman will ve time to hang out at 9t after a hard day's job. But wait oo na who go tk care of the house if she come go hang out 4 9t...hubby mmm  Constant hanging out at night will give the man avenues for hanging his penis out in another Chick. So you women should be careful what you wish for. You might think you're just having fun with your girls BUT the man doesn't see it that way. that's where another woman comes in. Typicalman...U re right...dat's one of the reasons i said i cant advice a married woman 2 hangout. Cos i 4 one wudnt like it if my hubby hangs out alot 9t.   Good Girl. LOl abi i talk lie...na my mind be dat oo...cos the bible says do unto others wat u want them 2 do 2 u na...hahahahah You make sense die.
I'M THA MAN IN MY CITY YO!!! | Posted: at 21-05-2011 11:09 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "thowbee") thowbee at 21-05-2011 11:11 PM (12 years ago)  (f) its no biggie.............hang out whether married or not....... | Posted: at 21-05-2011 11:11 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "dirtykid") dirtykid at 21-05-2011 11:12 PM (12 years ago) (m) There's nothing wrong about that. hence both of you have the trust on yourselves. Another thing is knowing the kind of club or pub she's hanging out with friends and what time she should return home. People should be free and do things normal, once in a while, as long as is not a daily issue. Give her a chance to develop yr trust more on her... practically !!
hmm DK...well dat na 4 u...to sm men its a no-go area...cos men kw wat they do in pubs n clubs...so they wudnt want their women to be seen there... I kw civilization has turned everyth around...Tell me why a married woman shud be seen in clubs...hmm maybe am sounding old-school, but hmm its not 100% right 4 her. Any man that think otherwise of such request from the wife, Seems to be guilty of something... if both of them understand and know each other very well without any skeleton in their closet.. i don't see the reason why if a wife ask the hubby for at least once in while to hangout with her friends, he will refuse that... Civilization is even what makes it better.. Let me ask, does it mean if yr married, yr man will not be taking u to a pub or club to just hangout sometimes ?? Does it mean been married is automatic Certificate of not doing some certain things again ?? like some Men will not even allow their wife to even go to fitness center but before they got married she was always going there keep fit and staying in shape... Over protective that mean nothing. lol DK...Dat dnt mean we cant hang out once in a while...i just dnt support married women hanging out, cos if anyth goes wrong the blame is gonna be on her...no body will blame the hubby cos the society has made it so...the women tk the blame...so i say prevention is better than cure...cos no matter how careful that woman will prove 2 be....smday, smhw, smth will go wrong in that club or pub....i rest my case oo I hear u... seems like the way i understand the post is not the way u understand it. You mention constant clubbing and thats how yr judging it, but i'm viewing it from another angle, like once in a long time thing.. I will never support even a girlfriend clubbing constantly not to talk of wife.. So you can get my side of view clearly. I don't think hanging out with old friends once will just result to whatever... I will also rest my case, everyone has got their own way of doing and seeing things
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !! | Posted: at 21-05-2011 11:12 PM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "Kennee") Kennee at 21-05-2011 11:18 PM (12 years ago) (m) what makes yu think i need it
Cos you are a cheerful giver and that needs to stop. 
WHEN YU DIE YU TAKE NOTHING WITH YU, SO PLS PUT A SMILE ON YUR NEIGHBOR'S FACE | Posted: at 21-05-2011 11:18 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "dirtykid") dirtykid at 21-05-2011 11:31 PM (12 years ago) (m) There's nothing wrong about that. hence both of you have the trust on yourselves. Another thing is knowing the kind of club or pub she's hanging out with friends and what time she should return home. People should be free and do things normal, once in a while, as long as is not a daily issue. Give her a chance to develop yr trust more on her... practically !!
hmm DK...well dat na 4 u...to sm men its a no-go area...cos men kw wat they do in pubs n clubs...so they wudnt want their women to be seen there... I kw civilization has turned everyth around...Tell me why a married woman shud be seen in clubs...hmm maybe am sounding old-school, but hmm its not 100% right 4 her. Any man that think otherwise of such request from the wife, Seems to be guilty of something... if both of them understand and know each other very well without any skeleton in their closet.. i don't see the reason why if a wife ask the hubby for at least once in while to hangout with her friends, he will refuse that... Civilization is even what makes it better.. Let me ask, does it mean if yr married, yr man will not be taking u to a pub or club to just hangout sometimes ?? Does it mean been married is automatic Certificate of not doing some certain things again ?? like some Men will not even allow their wife to even go to fitness center but before they got married she was always going there keep fit and staying in shape... Over protective that mean nothing. Dirty, I am going to disagree with you on this. You and I could agree that CIVILIZATION is breaking homes these days. I am not against a married woman hanging out with her friends but if she must, those her friends should be responsible married women. I can be very comfortable with that. But if these friends are single and probably do not have boifriends or just outright irresponsible, then the problem comes in cos all they will be discussing while at the club is how this guy is sexy and how this other guy makes her wet her pants. But waitoooo, if she really want to hang out with her friends, why not do it during LUNCH period. They could all meet up at a restaurant to have lunch and chit chat. Hanging out at the night clubs should be with HER HUSBAND and no other person. That is very adviceable. You know what they say...'Prevention is better than Cure' Not everything about civilization is breaking homes/relationship... Most have enlighten us and make us see some wrongs done in the past, One thing is sure, everything thing that has advantages also has disadvantages. As long as this post is concern, i don't see anything wrong about a wife asking for at least once in a while to hangout with her friends. Why saying irresponsible friends? They've been friends before you marry her, she's been with them probably before you met her, if they're irresponsible that means the wife is also among... because birds of same feathers flock together, and whatever they're discussing shouldn't be bothering you, as long as you trust yr wife and both of you understand yourself.. of which any normal and good wife will share whatever they discuss in that meeting with the man at home, she will always see anything the single friends are talking as childish thing, because she's above them at that particular time, she's upgraded !! She should be the one to advice them if any will start going off topic.. thats sign of a good wife. After all we ''Men'' Married or not Married discuss about hot and sexy looking girls, how many times will a married man tell the wife of his discussions with other male friends, whether married or not married ones.. Not in our diary of course.. but we do discuss that often and size the girls yansh from behind.... Prevention is better than cure for sure... but that doesn't mean you will not give yr wife freedom and show her practically that you trust her and will always believe her. Why do we preach Love when we really don't see the vital things to do in order to promote Love, trust and tolerance ??
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !! | Posted: at 21-05-2011 11:31 PM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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There's nothing wrong about that. hence both of you have the trust on yourselves. Another thing is knowing the kind of club or pub she's hanging out with friends and what time she should return home. People should be free and do things normal, once in a while, as long as is not a daily issue. Give her a chance to develop yr trust more on her... practically !!
hmm DK...well dat na 4 u...to sm men its a no-go area...cos men kw wat they do in pubs n clubs...so they wudnt want their women to be seen there... I kw civilization has turned everyth around...Tell me why a married woman shud be seen in clubs...hmm maybe am sounding old-school, but hmm its not 100% right 4 her. Any man that think otherwise of such request from the wife, Seems to be guilty of something... if both of them understand and know each other very well without any skeleton in their closet.. i don't see the reason why if a wife ask the hubby for at least once in while to hangout with her friends, he will refuse that... Civilization is even what makes it better.. Let me ask, does it mean if yr married, yr man will not be taking u to a pub or club to just hangout sometimes ?? Does it mean been married is automatic Certificate of not doing some certain things again ?? like some Men will not even allow their wife to even go to fitness center but before they got married she was always going there keep fit and staying in shape... Over protective that mean nothing. Dirty, I am going to disagree with you on this. You and I could agree that CIVILIZATION is breaking homes these days. I am not against a married woman hanging out with her friends but if she must, those her friends should be responsible married women. I can be very comfortable with that. But if these friends are single and probably do not have boifriends or just outright irresponsible, then the problem comes in cos all they will be discussing while at the club is how this guy is sexy and how this other guy makes her wet her pants. But waitoooo, if she really want to hang out with her friends, why not do it during LUNCH period. They could all meet up at a restaurant to have lunch and chit chat. Hanging out at the night clubs should be with HER HUSBAND and no other person. That is very adviceable. You know what they say...'Prevention is better than Cure' Not everything about civilization is breaking homes/relationship... Most have enlighten us and make us see some wrongs done in the past, One thing is sure, everything thing that has advantages also has disadvantages. As long as this post is concern, i don't see anything wrong about a wife asking for at least once in a while to hangout with her friends. Why saying irresponsible friends? They've been friends before you marry her, she's been with them probably before you met her, if they're irresponsible that means the wife is also among... because birds of same feathers flock together, and whatever they're discussing shouldn't be bothering you, as long as you trust yr wife and both of you understand yourself.. of which any normal and good wife will share whatever they discuss in that meeting with the man at home, she will always see anything the single friends are talking as childish thing, because she's above them at that particular time, she's upgraded !! She should be the one to advice them if any will start going off topic.. thats sign of a good wife. After all we ''Men'' Married or not Married discuss about hot and sexy looking girls, how many times will a married man tell the wife of his discussions with other male friends, whether married or not married ones.. Not in our diary of course.. but we do discuss that often and size the girls yansh from behind.... Prevention is better than cure for sure... but that doesn't mean you will not give yr wife freedom and show her practically that you trust her and will always believe her. Why do we preach Love when we really don't see the vital things to do in order to promote Love, trust and tolerance ?? Trust is good BUT NAIVETY is Worse. If she has upgraded, she should be able to turn down their request to hang out at the night club. Night clubs are known as a place for people to misbehave. If she is the kind that has truly upgraded I would think she wouldn't hang out at the night club. A good woman will tell her husband she'll rather stay at home with him and the kids even if the husband gives her the permission to. You and I know that we men are smart when it comes to stuff like that. A man might tell a woman to do something he really doesn't want her to do JUST to see what her reactions would be. About the irresponsible friends, they might not be irresponsible per say BUT their lifestyle is not same as the married woman's. Besides what would a responsible woman be doing at a night club wasting her life and getting tipsy... That is irresponsibility in the highest order.
I'M THA MAN IN MY CITY YO!!! | Posted: at 21-05-2011 11:44 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "dirtykid") dirtykid at 21-05-2011 11:53 PM (12 years ago) (m) You're missing the point Brother !! You don't have to twist it so much... Take it in a straight way, that she insist and requested your permission to hang out with her friends, old good time Friends indeed always remain best of friends. This is where trust, respect to her view plays little role. If you The Man, that said, swtheart, i will be having a dinner meeting with my colleagues after work, I might be coming back little late tonight, she will obediently say ok swtheart, No problem. But now, she's sincere, honest and tell you straight, what she wants, who she's going to be with and where... Why can't you agree with her once you know where she will be hanging out with friend and what time she will be coming back... you should even go and drive her home, in case if she drink. I think we ( Men) should be considerable atimes with the way we see our partners, we shouldn't forget they've been there before we met them, marry them, if she will not be the one, nothing will make her be the one.
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !! | Posted: at 21-05-2011 11:53 PM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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You're missing the point Brother !! You don't have to twist it so much... Take it in a straight way, that she insist and requested your permission to hang out with her friends, old good time Friends indeed always remain best of friends. This is where trust, respect to her view plays little role. If you The Man, that said, swtheart, i will be having a dinner meeting with my colleagues after work, I might be coming back little late tonight, she will obediently say ok swtheart, No problem. But now, she's sincere, honest and tell you straight, what she wants, who she's going to be with and where... Why can't you agree with her once you know where she will be hanging out with friend and what time she will be coming back... you should even go and drive her home, in case if she drink.
I think we ( Men) should be considerable atimes with the way we see our partners, we shouldn't forget they've been there before we met them, marry them, if she will not be the one, nothing will make her be the one.
Dk...like i said b4...once in a while is ok...when it become a re-occuring thing dats whr the problem is. these points of urs re vital. | Posted: at 22-05-2011 12:00 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "truenaija2") truenaija2 at 22-05-2011 12:05 AM (12 years ago) (f) @Dirtykid u r making a lot of sense about trust and freedom of expression @TYPICAL u r making a lot of sense that people should b careful and not sentimental , u both make sense but as dirtykid said once in a while is really no big deal and going to club doesnt mean u r going to b irresponsible, infact it is only when u dont give ur wife the attetion she needs and she is sex starved dat will make her start admiring other guys, i used to hangout with friends in the club when we were bored to dance drink and go back home , soo dat u go to club has nothing to do with being irresponsible or doing something bad as dirtykid said irresponsibility is in the person and not in the going to the club so if u know ur wife not to b irresponsible , if she wanted to be irresponsible then she wouldnt tell u atall, she doesnt need to go to club to be irresponsible | Posted: at 22-05-2011 12:05 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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You're missing the point Brother !! You don't have to twist it so much... Take it in a straight way, that she insist and requested your permission to hang out with her friends, old good time Friends indeed always remain best of friends. This is where trust, respect to her view plays little role. If you The Man, that said, swtheart, i will be having a dinner meeting with my colleagues after work, I might be coming back little late tonight, she will obediently say ok swtheart, No problem. But now, she's sincere, honest and tell you straight, what she wants, who she's going to be with and where... Why can't you agree with her once you know where she will be hanging out with friend and what time she will be coming back... you should even go and drive her home, in case if she drink.
I think we ( Men) should be considerable atimes with the way we see our partners, we shouldn't forget they've been there before we met them, marry them, if she will not be the one, nothing will make her be the one.
Well, the difference here is that the man is having a dinner meeting with his colleagues at work, NOT hanging out with his home bois at the bar drinking or clubbing. It is not about the PERSON, it is about the ENVIRONMENT in which the person is putting their-selves in. I do not have a problem if my wife asks for permission to hang out with her friends at a restaurant for dinner, which by the way she has several times and all these women but 1 of them are married and I know them personally. But I would have a problem if she mentions night club cos she knows it will not be granted. And besides since 2 and a half years of marriage, she has never even requested to do such thing. If she wants to club, she always want me to go with her.
I'M THA MAN IN MY CITY YO!!! | Posted: at 22-05-2011 12:07 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "truenaija2") truenaija2 at 22-05-2011 12:09 AM (12 years ago) (f) You're missing the point Brother !! You don't have to twist it so much... Take it in a straight way, that she insist and requested your permission to hang out with her friends, old good time Friends indeed always remain best of friends. This is where trust, respect to her view plays little role. If you The Man, that said, swtheart, i will be having a dinner meeting with my colleagues after work, I might be coming back little late tonight, she will obediently say ok swtheart, No problem. But now, she's sincere, honest and tell you straight, what she wants, who she's going to be with and where... Why can't you agree with her once you know where she will be hanging out with friend and what time she will be coming back... you should even go and drive her home, in case if she drink.
I think we ( Men) should be considerable atimes with the way we see our partners, we shouldn't forget they've been there before we met them, marry them, if she will not be the one, nothing will make her be the one.
u took the words right out of my mouth true talk, if u even pick her up is love and u know she is coming home with u,it is also romantic monitoring , DK u will b a very good father to ur teenage kids cos they will feel free to tell u everything  | Posted: at 22-05-2011 12:09 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "dirtykid") dirtykid at 22-05-2011 12:09 AM (12 years ago) (m) You're missing the point Brother !! You don't have to twist it so much... Take it in a straight way, that she insist and requested your permission to hang out with her friends, old good time Friends indeed always remain best of friends. This is where trust, respect to her view plays little role. If you The Man, that said, swtheart, i will be having a dinner meeting with my colleagues after work, I might be coming back little late tonight, she will obediently say ok swtheart, No problem. But now, she's sincere, honest and tell you straight, what she wants, who she's going to be with and where... Why can't you agree with her once you know where she will be hanging out with friend and what time she will be coming back... you should even go and drive her home, in case if she drink.
I think we ( Men) should be considerable atimes with the way we see our partners, we shouldn't forget they've been there before we met them, marry them, if she will not be the one, nothing will make her be the one.
Dk...like i said b4...once in a while is ok...when it become a re-occuring thing dats whr the problem is. these points of urs re vital. I also said it before... if is a frequent thing, I will not permit that. but for once in a while.. common we should all be considerable, Life is meant to be living it, not caging someone !!
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !! | Posted: at 22-05-2011 12:09 AM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "dirtykid") dirtykid at 22-05-2011 12:14 AM (12 years ago) (m) @Dirtykid u r making a lot of sense about trust and freedom of expression @TYPICAL u r making a lot of sense that people should b careful and not sentimental , u both make sense but as dirtykid said once in a while is really no big deal and going to club doesnt mean u r going to b irresponsible, infact it is only when u dont give ur wife the attetion she needs and she is sex starved dat will make her start admiring other guys, i used to hangout with friends in the club when we were bored to dance drink and go back home , soo dat u go to club has nothing to do with being irresponsible or doing something bad as dirtykid said irresponsibility is in the person and not in the going to the club so if u know ur wife not to b irresponsible , if she wanted to be irresponsible then she wouldnt tell u atall, she doesnt need to go to club to be irresponsible
I'm so glad you understand what i mean. Thank you for mentioning the highlighted words. thats where i was about to touch now.
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !! | Posted: at 22-05-2011 12:14 AM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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@Dirtykid u r making a lot of sense about trust and freedom of expression @TYPICAL u r making a lot of sense that people should b careful and not sentimental , u both make sense but as dirtykid said once in a while is really no big deal and going to club doesnt mean u r going to b irresponsible, infact it is only when u dont give ur wife the attetion she needs and she is sex starved dat will make her start admiring other guys, i used to hangout with friends in the club when we were bored to dance drink and go back home , soo dat u go to club has nothing to do with being irresponsible or doing something bad as dirtykid said irresponsibility is in the person and not in the going to the club so if u know ur wife not to b irresponsible , if she wanted to be irresponsible then she wouldnt tell u atall, she doesnt need to go to club to be irresponsible
Honey, going to the club in itself is Irresponsible.
I'M THA MAN IN MY CITY YO!!! | Posted: at 22-05-2011 12:15 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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There's nothing wrong about that. hence both of you have the trust on yourselves. Another thing is knowing the kind of club or pub she's hanging out with friends and what time she should return home. People should be free and do things normal, once in a while, as long as is not a daily issue. Give her a chance to develop yr trust more on her... practically !!
hmm DK...well dat na 4 u...to sm men its a no-go area...cos men kw wat they do in pubs n clubs...so they wudnt want their women to be seen there... I kw civilization has turned everyth around...Tell me why a married woman shud be seen in clubs...hmm maybe am sounding old-school, but hmm its not 100% right 4 her. Any man that think otherwise of such request from the wife, Seems to be guilty of something... if both of them understand and know each other very well without any skeleton in their closet.. i don't see the reason why if a wife ask the hubby for at least once in while to hangout with her friends, he will refuse that... Civilization is even what makes it better.. Let me ask, does it mean if yr married, yr man will not be taking u to a pub or club to just hangout sometimes ?? Does it mean been married is automatic Certificate of not doing some certain things again ?? like some Men will not even allow their wife to even go to fitness center but before they got married she was always going there keep fit and staying in shape... Over protective that mean nothing. Dirty, I am going to disagree with you on this. You and I could agree that CIVILIZATION is breaking homes these days. I am not against a married woman hanging out with her friends but if she must, those her friends should be responsible married women. I can be very comfortable with that. But if these friends are single and probably do not have boifriends or just outright irresponsible, then the problem comes in cos all they will be discussing while at the club is how this guy is sexy and how this other guy makes her wet her pants. But waitoooo, if she really want to hang out with her friends, why not do it during LUNCH period. They could all meet up at a restaurant to have lunch and chit chat. Hanging out at the night clubs should be with HER HUSBAND and no other person. That is very adviceable. You know what they say...'Prevention is better than Cure' Not everything about civilization is breaking homes/relationship... Most have enlighten us and make us see some wrongs done in the past, One thing is sure, everything thing that has advantages also has disadvantages. As long as this post is concern, i don't see anything wrong about a wife asking for at least once in a while to hangout with her friends. Why saying irresponsible friends? They've been friends before you marry her, she's been with them probably before you met her, if they're irresponsible that means the wife is also among... because birds of same feathers flock together, and whatever they're discussing shouldn't be bothering you, as long as you trust yr wife and both of you understand yourself.. of which any normal and good wife will share whatever they discuss in that meeting with the man at home, she will always see anything the single friends are talking as childish thing, because she's above them at that particular time, she's upgraded !! She should be the one to advice them if any will start going off topic.. thats sign of a good wife. After all we ''Men'' Married or not Married discuss about hot and sexy looking girls, how many times will a married man tell the wife of his discussions with other male friends, whether married or not married ones.. Not in our diary of course.. but we do discuss that often and size the girls yansh from behind.... Prevention is better than cure for sure... but that doesn't mean you will not give yr wife freedom and show her practically that you trust her and will always believe her. Why do we preach Love when we really don't see the vital things to do in order to promote Love, trust and tolerance ?? Trust is good BUT NAIVETY is Worse. If she has upgraded, she should be able to turn down their request to hang out at the night club. Night clubs are known as a place for people to misbehave. If she is the kind that has truly upgraded I would think she wouldn't hang out at the night club. A good woman will tell her husband she'll rather stay at home with him and the kids even if the husband gives her the permission to. You and I know that we men are smart when it comes to stuff like that. A man might tell a woman to do something he really doesn't want her to do JUST to see what her reactions would be. About the irresponsible friends, they might not be irresponsible per say BUT their lifestyle is not same as the married woman's. Besides what would a responsible woman be doing at a night club wasting her life and getting tipsy... That is irresponsibility in the highest order. @ typicalman, true talk. With marriage old things have passed away and everything has become new. If she continues with her old life of partying and clubbing she will make a poor wife and the marriage will not last. What thrill does a married woman seek in a night club without her husband? She can accept to be either married with moral restictions or she can choose to remain single and enjoy life in a club house till thy kingdom come, its her cup of tea. | Posted: at 22-05-2011 12:18 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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![-]( "truenaija2") truenaija2 at 22-05-2011 12:19 AM (12 years ago) (f) @Dirtykid u r making a lot of sense about trust and freedom of expression @TYPICAL u r making a lot of sense that people should b careful and not sentimental , u both make sense but as dirtykid said once in a while is really no big deal and going to club doesnt mean u r going to b irresponsible, infact it is only when u dont give ur wife the attetion she needs and she is sex starved dat will make her start admiring other guys, i used to hangout with friends in the club when we were bored to dance drink and go back home , soo dat u go to club has nothing to do with being irresponsible or doing something bad as dirtykid said irresponsibility is in the person and not in the going to the club so if u know ur wife not to b irresponsible , if she wanted to be irresponsible then she wouldnt tell u atall, she doesnt need to go to club to be irresponsible
I'm so glad you understand what i mean. Thank you for mentioning the highlighted words. thats where i was about to touch now. no it takes a lot of understanding humility wisdom , to b in the same shoes with someone in a different situation as yours , i am surprised that a man understands this , thats great wisdom like this u can get along with ur teenage kids like buddies with no problems | Posted: at 22-05-2011 12:19 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "dirtykid") dirtykid at 22-05-2011 12:19 AM (12 years ago) (m) You're missing the point Brother !! You don't have to twist it so much... Take it in a straight way, that she insist and requested your permission to hang out with her friends, old good time Friends indeed always remain best of friends. This is where trust, respect to her view plays little role. If you The Man, that said, swtheart, i will be having a dinner meeting with my colleagues after work, I might be coming back little late tonight, she will obediently say ok swtheart, No problem. But now, she's sincere, honest and tell you straight, what she wants, who she's going to be with and where... Why can't you agree with her once you know where she will be hanging out with friend and what time she will be coming back... you should even go and drive her home, in case if she drink.
I think we ( Men) should be considerable atimes with the way we see our partners, we shouldn't forget they've been there before we met them, marry them, if she will not be the one, nothing will make her be the one.
u took the words right out of my mouth true talk, if u even pick her up is love and u know she is coming home with u,it is also romantic monitoring , DK u will b a very good father to ur teenage kids cos they will feel free to tell u everything Thank u so much, You're a darling  .. I will love to make that my top priority, show them love and teach them how treat people with Love and respect. I believe if the wife and kids are been shower with love and care, They will never hide anything from you, You will always be their shoulder to lean on anytime, Number one person to know when they're in difficulty, listen to them and help them sort it out.
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !! | Posted: at 22-05-2011 12:19 AM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "dirtykid") dirtykid at 22-05-2011 12:25 AM (12 years ago) (m) You're missing the point Brother !! You don't have to twist it so much... Take it in a straight way, that she insist and requested your permission to hang out with her friends, old good time Friends indeed always remain best of friends. This is where trust, respect to her view plays little role. If you The Man, that said, swtheart, i will be having a dinner meeting with my colleagues after work, I might be coming back little late tonight, she will obediently say ok swtheart, No problem. But now, she's sincere, honest and tell you straight, what she wants, who she's going to be with and where... Why can't you agree with her once you know where she will be hanging out with friend and what time she will be coming back... you should even go and drive her home, in case if she drink.
I think we ( Men) should be considerable atimes with the way we see our partners, we shouldn't forget they've been there before we met them, marry them, if she will not be the one, nothing will make her be the one.
Well, the difference here is that the man is having a dinner meeting with his colleagues at work, NOT hanging out with his home bois at the bar drinking or clubbing. It is not about the PERSON, it is about the ENVIRONMENT in which the person is putting their-selves in. I do not have a problem if my wife asks for permission to hang out with her friends at a restaurant for dinner, which by the way she has several times and all these women but 1 of them are married and I know them personally. But I would have a problem if she mentions night club cos she knows it will not be granted. And besides since 2 and a half years of marriage, she has never even requested to do such thing. If she wants to club, she always want me to go with her. Men do it and the women never complain about it ? Men hangout with old bois, friends, old mate that came in town and so on and so forth.. The wife will never complain because we know how to paint it better. Mind you the kind of club to hang out with her friends and gossip is not going to be all that hip hop and noisy type, if it is, I doubt they will even had any conversation.
DirtyKid is a Happy Kid !!.....FATHER !! I've cast my bread on the waters long time ago. Now it's time 4u to return it, well buttered !! | Posted: at 22-05-2011 12:25 AM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "truenaija2") truenaija2 at 22-05-2011 12:27 AM (12 years ago) (f) @Dirtykid u r making a lot of sense about trust and freedom of expression @TYPICAL u r making a lot of sense that people should b careful and not sentimental , u both make sense but as dirtykid said once in a while is really no big deal and going to club doesnt mean u r going to b irresponsible, infact it is only when u dont give ur wife the attetion she needs and she is sex starved dat will make her start admiring other guys, i used to hangout with friends in the club when we were bored to dance drink and go back home , soo dat u go to club has nothing to do with being irresponsible or doing something bad as dirtykid said irresponsibility is in the person and not in the going to the club so if u know ur wife not to b irresponsible , if she wanted to be irresponsible then she wouldnt tell u atall, she doesnt need to go to club to be irresponsible
Honey, going to the club in itself is Irresponsible. it isnt honestly believe me , it depends on what u go there to do that is what is irresponsible not going to the club or the person going to the club, thats the mistake some people make they judge u maybe by your dress n say he is poor rich or irresponsible,, ofcourse u can tell me that there r irresponsible people that go to club ,but these same people go to church mosque offices , so does that make them different no they remain thier irresponsible self , but does not mean everybody in the club is irreponsible or in the church or offices are responsible , its a personality and not in the club she is going to | Posted: at 22-05-2011 12:27 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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