![-]( "yods") yods at 22-09-2011 04:49 PM (12 years ago)  (f)
Spoken like a true intellectual. The poster has insecurity issues cos I see no reason why the refusal of his wife to allow their son to be sent to a boarding school is proof that he is not their son...I went to a boarding school myself, this made me worse in all manners. I became a terror and got suspended 8 times and finally expelled, I even beat up my senior boarding house mistress. I had no courtesy for anyone and when the wanted to discipline me, I would tell them they weren't my parents. The truth of the whole issue is that I feared my parents more than any teacher, but they did not know how to work on that and instead of disciplining me themselves, they sent me to the wrong people and expected those ones to do their job for them. Boarding school makes children worse cos they are far from parents and feel they are free at last, your kid could even be beaten to death. Be wise
You case is a sad one. Sending a child to a dormitory does not mean imprisonment. depends on the objective of your parents in sending you there. Mine is to train my boy on independance and being able to defend himself in my absence. He is not out of control as you may want to see but pampering from his mother + play at home is helping him lose the intelligence he has.
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I dont think you read what I wrote well, I said sending him there will give him more freedom to do whatever he likes, it will make him feel he is free at last.Sending your kid to school will not make him independent. Boarding schools are not what they used to be. My kids has been doing better since she left boarding and has also added more weight. You are bent on doing what you feel is right in your mind, no need asking for advice when your mind is already made up. Your child could get bullied and even killed and nothing will be done about it. Discipline your child at home and that way you can watch him closely. You wont do him or urself any good by sending him to strangers who dont give a f*uck about him...If he plays too much, sit him down and talk to him. One parent will always be the good cop...You be the bad cop by not pampering. She cant stop you from disciplining your child. | Posted: at 22-09-2011 04:49 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "sobeit") sobeit at 22-09-2011 05:00 PM (12 years ago) (m) Una see me trouble oh! I enrolled my 15yr old boy into a boarding school. The guy is indeed stubborn-that's way I enrolled him there!
Spending only three months there and coming home, my wife cries the boy has cut down in weight and that her boy will not go to the dormitory again. She claims the boy is being punished unneccesarily.
He must go is my stand. Now the family is divided- the boy buying his mother's stand but I am adamant! My wife even told me this could lead to a divorce if I insist.
Now many things are coming up. I am becoming to suspect this boy may not be mine. I am becoming to suspect this woman hadn't any intention to marry me.
Should I submit or stand my ground?
Help me please!
first of all mr poster, don't even think that by enrolling your son to boarding school will bring a change of attitude.nope! it can even worsen his behavior.besides which boarding school are you talking about? Nigerian boarding school is a mess! and i won't recommend parents to take their children to any.pal the best discipline a any child can get,is that from the parents.you missed out in the early stage to understand and discipline your child ,which prompted this negative behaviors .there is this "ill attitude" most nigerian fathers always put on that make me sick..if a child is misbehaving they'll put the whole blame to the mother but if he/she is doing according to their expectation then, they'll be fast to claim the whole praises.. pal sit your wife down,communicate with her and resolve this issue like two well grown adult.all hope is not lost, your son is still a teenager that's gradually heading to adulthood.a child has stages in life that also needs different approaches.don't expect to treat a 15yrs old kid like that of 6-8yrs and expect a change of attitude,it won't work.try and know you child,get that fatherly connection to him then you will be able to re-shape his current behavior.for me no child is stubborn it all depends how he/she was raised.even the Bible said it in the book of proverbs 22vs 6. Train up a child in the way he should go,and when he is old,he will not depart from it. so pal start now and engage in your responsibility as the head of the house.goodluck! Spoken like a true intellectual. The poster has insecurity issues cos I see no reason why the refusal of his wife to allow their son to be sent to a boarding school is proof that he is not their son...I went to a boarding school myself, this made me worse in all manners. I became a terror and got suspended 8 times and finally expelled, I even beat up my senior boarding house mistress. I had no courtesy for anyone and when the wanted to discipline me, I would tell them they weren't my parents. The truth of the whole issue is that I feared my parents more than any teacher, but they did not know how to work on that and instead of disciplining me themselves, they sent me to the wrong people and expected those ones to do their job for them. Boarding school makes children worse cos they are far from parents and feel they are free at last, your kid could even be beaten to death. Be wise my dear your case is a typical example why i'm against boarding school in Nigeria.i did witness your kind of case right from my own time in school,even some innocent ones get spoiled and corrupt.seriously it's not advisable mostly now nigeria education system is in shamble. | Posted: at 22-09-2011 05:00 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "sobeit") sobeit at 22-09-2011 05:32 PM (12 years ago) (m)
Spoken like a true intellectual. The poster has insecurity issues cos I see no reason why the refusal of his wife to allow their son to be sent to a boarding school is proof that he is not their son...I went to a boarding school myself, this made me worse in all manners. I became a terror and got suspended 8 times and finally expelled, I even beat up my senior boarding house mistress. I had no courtesy for anyone and when the wanted to discipline me, I would tell them they weren't my parents. The truth of the whole issue is that I feared my parents more than any teacher, but they did not know how to work on that and instead of disciplining me themselves, they sent me to the wrong people and expected those ones to do their job for them. Boarding school makes children worse cos they are far from parents and feel they are free at last, your kid could even be beaten to death. Be wise
You case is a sad one. Sending a child to a dormitory does not mean imprisonment. depends on the objective of your parents in sending you there. Mine is to train my boy on independence and being able to defend himself in my absence. He is not out of control as you may want to see but pampering from his mother + play at home is helping him lose the intelligence he has. [/quote] you see, the highlighted words is where some parents(if not most) always get it wrong.if that's your reasons of putting him in a boarding school then i'm afraid you're getting it wrong.i could still remember during my own time.my Dad was having this same myopic view,not that i got issues but he thought if i become a day student i won't able to make the kind of results they expect from me.i wasn't feeling it at all,at the end of the day he reasoned with me and allow me with my choice which paid off at last..so you are in the position in disciplining your child whether in terms of independence or well mannered not a stranger. the choice is yours pal | Posted: at 22-09-2011 05:32 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "interpo77") interpo77 at 22-09-2011 06:16 PM (12 years ago) (m) ma simple advice is to maintain ur stand if really u need that ur son to go back boarding, ur wife,s attitude at this point is a mere threathen, as if she do not know the implications of divorce, talk things down with her, she knows how sturbon ur son was and allowing him home may worsten his character, remember women can do anything to get their word done, but stay ur stand | Posted: at 22-09-2011 06:16 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "mantarazy") mantarazy at 22-09-2011 06:27 PM (12 years ago) (m) If d boi is dat stubborn send him 2 a military skul or barracks | Posted: at 22-09-2011 06:27 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "kebella") kebella at 22-09-2011 07:22 PM (12 years ago) (f) lols
my name is kebella  ........yu already no that  ...heheh...if yu wanna smell what kebella is cooking........bring it up!! | Posted: at 22-09-2011 07:22 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "kebella") kebella at 22-09-2011 07:24 PM (12 years ago) (f) give her a divorce n' marry me huh u be woman wrapper? no man wrapper  
my name is kebella ........yu already no that ...heheh...if yu wanna smell what kebella is cooking........bring it up!! | Posted: at 22-09-2011 07:24 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "lyk911") lyk911 at 22-09-2011 08:22 PM (12 years ago) (m) Marriage don suffer!
Every lil wahala na divorce!
Chei!
Anyway,me i no knw hw Emmandazie take get 15yr old pikin,so yes,no be ur pikin!
No tell ur wife say na me talk am o!
Dis one na husband and wife matter,i no fit put mouth.
U DON PUT MOUTH FINISH! this is sm serios shit anywys:   | Posted: at 22-09-2011 08:22 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie | |
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![-]( "proly") proly at 22-09-2011 09:23 PM (12 years ago) (f) emma na nwan gi be dat | Posted: at 22-09-2011 09:23 PM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "danpatrick") danpatrick at 23-09-2011 12:38 AM (12 years ago) (m) Stand your ground. The boy will learn discipline in the boarding school, including when to do homework, when to go to bed, and general care of himself. Your wife will not be there in later life to care for the boy if he is spoilt and does not succeed in life. | Posted: at 23-09-2011 12:38 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming | |
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![-]( "mallorca") mallorca at 23-09-2011 12:55 AM (12 years ago) (m) Take you stand and send the boy to the boarding house, it is for his own good when he grows up, more over you pay the fees not your wife.
HOPE IS MY ROAD,VICTORY IS MY DESTINY | Posted: at 23-09-2011 12:55 AM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero | |
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![-]( "onyiis") onyiis at 23-09-2011 08:02 AM (12 years ago) (f) Pas si grave, elle envisage déja une divorce na [/quote] Elle a rien fait ................c'est toi qui pense mal par-ce-que t'a les yeux vers une autre femme 
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing". | Posted: at 23-09-2011 08:02 AM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "onyiis") onyiis at 23-09-2011 08:03 AM (12 years ago) (f) ouch!!ne sois pas triste..mais emm emm tu savez son epouse? @emma-arreter de penser sales ok! [/quote] dit le !!! 
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing". | Posted: at 23-09-2011 08:03 AM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "onyiis") onyiis at 23-09-2011 08:08 AM (12 years ago) (f) ouch!!ne sois pas triste..mais emm emm tu savez son epouse? @emma-arreter de penser sales ok! Demande-la. Est-ce-qu'elle connais mon épouse? En tout cas, je reste fidéle à mon épouse! [/quote] heheheheheeeeeeeeee !!! tu me fait rire !! .je la connait pas mais je tu voir en train de draguer une autre femme devant mes yeux et tu pense que je vais faire "bouche B"?
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing". | Posted: at 23-09-2011 08:08 AM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "onyiis") onyiis at 23-09-2011 08:10 AM (12 years ago) (f) ouch!!ne sois pas triste..mais emm emm tu savez son epouse? @emma-arreter de penser sales ok! Demande-la. Est-ce-qu'elle connais mon épouse? En tout cas, je reste fidele a mon epouse! qui est le temoin pour les mots en rouge ci-dessus [/quote] Merci mon frère !!! je besion une reponse très solide !!
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing". | Posted: at 23-09-2011 08:10 AM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "onyiis") onyiis at 23-09-2011 08:11 AM (12 years ago) (f) Mais tu est témoin non!
moi?! je saute et passe.je ne suis pas a la maison >>>>>>>>> heheheheheheeeeeeeeeeeeee !!! saute et passe ? fait attention !!!!
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing". | Posted: at 23-09-2011 08:11 AM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "onyiis") onyiis at 23-09-2011 08:13 AM (12 years ago) (f) Mais tu est témoin non!
moi?! je saute et passe.je ne suis pas a la maison >>>>>>>>> Reviens ici tout de suite! Sinon j'engage un procès contre toi! je suis au coin !!! pour voire que-ce-que ça va donner !!
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing". | Posted: at 23-09-2011 08:13 AM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "onyiis") onyiis at 23-09-2011 08:19 AM (12 years ago) (f) If d boi is dat stubborn send him 2 a military skul or barracks
true talk sha
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing". | Posted: at 23-09-2011 08:19 AM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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![-]( "Emmandazie") Emmandazie at 23-09-2011 08:26 AM (12 years ago) (m) Mais tu est témoin non!
moi?! je saute et passe.je ne suis pas a la maison >>>>>>>>> Reviens ici tout de suite! Sinon j'engage un procès contre toi! je suis au coin !!! pour voire que-ce-que ça va donner !! Attention, le regard peut t'impliquer dans une affaire seriouse. Est-tu prêt? | Posted: at 23-09-2011 08:26 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac | |
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![-]( "onyiis") onyiis at 23-09-2011 08:35 AM (12 years ago) (f) Mais tu est témoin non!
moi?! je saute et passe.je ne suis pas a la maison >>>>>>>>> Reviens ici tout de suite! Sinon j'engage un procès contre toi! je suis au coin !!! pour voire que-ce-que ça va donner !! Attention, le regard peut t'impliquer dans une affaire seriouse. Est-tu prêt? Prêt pour tout, mais mefie-toi des apparence !!!!
"Those who will say nothing in the face of tyranny must endure the rule of idiots . All that you need for evil to triumph is for the good people to keep quiet and do nothing". | Posted: at 23-09-2011 08:35 AM (12 years ago) | Hero | |
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