Why is marriage soo important to nigerian ladies!

Whatever happened to BUILD YOUR LIFE BEFORE YOU BECOME SOMEONE'S WIFE! Out the window I guess....it seems like every other second on facebook someone updates their status from SINGLE to IN A RELATIONSHIP to ENGAGAED and finally the M word MARRIED. Then they proceed to change their last names and upload photos of their three day ceremony. lol...

I am not hating or anything...I worry that marriage in Nigeria is more of trend than a sacred union...everyone is sooo caught up in the ceremony that I fear a lotta folks are signing up for wayyyy more than they can handle!
What do y'all think? 

Posted: at 19-02-2010 09:13 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie

AND ABOVE ALL MARRIAGE IS HONOURABLE......

Posted: at 20-02-2010 10:53 AM (15 years ago) | Upcoming

Marriage is d only way out

Posted: at 20-02-2010 01:01 PM (15 years ago) | Upcoming

sometimes, the only way out is IN

Posted: at 22-02-2010 12:47 PM (15 years ago) | Upcoming

i dont no

Posted: at 22-02-2010 01:38 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

In Nigeria, when u are married, u look responsble

Posted: at 23-02-2010 05:20 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie

Marriage is the only mark of civilization i know of that  allows one to take up responsibilities  developing  oneself as a parent and  acquiring  love through give and take. This eventually bestows  a richer worthwhile lifetime .

 The benefits of Marriage are also seen at old age when the seeds of the marriage return the  love showered on them . 

Yes Nigerian Ladies are worthy examples of a civilized people as most of their counterparts in the developing world , Its  a  different story in most other parts of the developed world  tho

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Posted: at 24-02-2010 03:11 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Depends on how u define civilization   If the ultimate aim is to gain more love that allows you to leave the world a better place than you find it  then by all means . Do what is necessary to achieve that love . 

A genuine marriage is not the same as those arranged paper getting marriages or one entered into for specific gains they bring more trouble than love and thats a special category by itself not belonging to the expected norm that may foster love and advance the individual and either one party or both are already of their joke and their expections from the word go

All things are relative to different people and it takes a certain state of consciousness to imbibe the truth.

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Posted: at 24-02-2010 06:14 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac

My Answer to the Original Post:

Because I make an effort not to make Baseless Generalizations without statistical information to support or refute, then I stick to the specifics of making and informed perspective.  Since the Original Post narrowed down Marriage being important to Nigerian ladies and she included a referential point about Nigerian Ladies back home, I would say that One's Culture, Environment, and Family Dynamics plays an important part in the decision(s) the individual will employ.  To speak on Nigerian Women back home I would agree there is far more pressure for them to be married and with child by a certain age and standard.  Outside of Nigeria, I'd state that All women desire to be married by a certain age although this may not preclude them from achieving the societal reinforced notion that Marriage Signifies Happiness. 

I don't think there is any marker that places a bull's eye on just Nigerian Women if one were to look at Women as a Whole and not a select group.  Just my 2 cents!
Thaigboprincess

Posted: at 24-02-2010 06:31 AM (15 years ago) | Upcoming

thank u princess
your  royal ward ...  <blushing..>  !! 

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Posted: at 24-02-2010 09:44 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac