In this 21st century of enlightenment, most marriages haven't been lasting more than a short play. This starts from the strength of highly publicized celebrity marriages to that of normal members of the society. An embattled husband whose marriage is just a week old has open up on their stumbling blocks as they could be heading to court for a divorce if it's not properly managed. The story was published on a popular online forum in Nigeria and it is currently attracting diverse comments. Read his story below: Dear members...I am of the type that says NO to bringing marital shortcomings to the social media but I just realized why others do so. I formerly got married on Tuesday 18th April but we are already headed for a bitter divorce. To cut the story short, the whole issue started at the ground of our traditional marriage (Igba Nkwu). On arriving her dad's compound, I was stunned to realize her mother didn't make the provisions of which I paid her for. The DJ wasn't on ground, the canopies were just 3 and looking dirty, the chairs were not up to half of what i paid for. There was no light, no microphone, no decorations, the few food cooked were not served to guest and I was devastated. Out of anger and disappointment, I started lashing out at my wife and she broke down in tears begging me for forgiveness. We managed to forge ahead till the the ceremony ended and we headed for my house. As our tradition demands, the newly married bride sees off her 'Aso Ebis' and return in the evening same day to welcome visitors. But alas, my wife went and never came back till Friday evening. I queried her on her where-about only for her reply in a harsh manner saying "where do you expect me to be", "don't make me angry" God!! I couldn't believe it as it made me more mad in anger so I asked her to return to wherever she's coming from and leave our son behind (yes we already had a year and 10 months old son). I actually made this decision to save face else how do I clarify the absence of my wife and son to visitors and well-wishers trooping in to see them? She hurriedly dashed into the room and picked her phone and stormed out of the house. Now her mother is accusing me of taking her daughter's son from her and stripping her of her belongings. Now my wife is saying she's no longer interested in the marriage likewise her people (her father is late). I am still fuming with anger that I am at loss of what to do. I am not prepared to raise my son alone neither do I want him to be raised by her mother alone. Should I initiate a peace move and apologize to her or should I move on with life.....I am seriously confused and fuming with anger that I was shortchanged and offended and still expected to offer apologies.
Posted: at 26-04-2017 02:36 PM (8 years ago) | Addicted Hero
Brother it was in the olden days they says " marriage is a must until death do you part, now adays its " marriage is not by force ". If you are to apologize and continue with her for the sake of your kid, her mum will scatter everything sooner or later. You better let her go and continue with your peaceful life.
Posted: at 26-04-2017 03:02 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
bishopdon at 26-04-2017 03:10 PM (8 years ago) (m)
If this tory is true, I will advice u to make peace and keep making peace for the sake of ur child. Since u know its not correct for ur son to be raised by single parent, the only option is to tolerate her mom and grand mom for his sake. It may be hard, it worth it.
Posted: at 26-04-2017 03:10 PM (8 years ago) | Upcoming
Platinum1982 at 26-04-2017 03:11 PM (8 years ago) (m)
Yea! Woman will always act foolishly, if for only her i would say just apologise n let peace rain in ur house cos of ur son but the fact that her people are backing her my brother,d earlier d better, if u dont let her just go now dey will end up making u miserable, mark my word, once a wife has d fmly backing at any foolish tin she does den u d man u ar finished since yesterday.
Posted: at 26-04-2017 03:11 PM (8 years ago) | Upcoming
It's even better off like this,,,,it's never too late, just call it off and let her be,,,,,for d kid, just play ur own role and give ur kid best education,,,that's all,,,,,abi na by force???
Posted: at 26-04-2017 04:04 PM (8 years ago) | Hero
femfem12005 at 26-04-2017 06:09 PM (8 years ago) (m)
From experience. If a woman make up her mind not interested in marriage, pls don't beg her if you do she will do worst. I will appriciate if you can reach me on [email protected] on your kid,, please take the baby and look for how to take care of him. Thanks
Posted: at 26-04-2017 06:09 PM (8 years ago) | Newbie
Man I'll suggest you let her uncles know what transpired then if they can't call the lady to order; I'll say you'll need to take some hard decisions. Because if you suck up now you will continue to suck up to her for the rest of your married life.
Posted: at 26-04-2017 07:37 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Otikadinje at 26-04-2017 11:05 PM (8 years ago) (m)
Marriage means taking the shit most of the time and since you are just starting you are welcome on board but please buckle up for more shit as you paddle along
Oscardeejay
Posted: at 26-04-2017 11:05 PM (8 years ago) | Gistmaniac
shinenoyi at 27-04-2017 08:17 AM (8 years ago) (m)
if she cant explain where she went to n her people backing her my dear this is for a life time ,think twice .remember its better to build house without roof n endure the rain than to be with a nagging woman
Posted: at 27-04-2017 08:17 AM (8 years ago) | Newbie