CONDOMS! (Page 7)

Receiving bride price is an act of foolishness on its own,its like selling ur daughter.my Dad doesn't accept it

Yesterday, my friend and I happened on a topic which I found very disturbing.  We were prompted by a young pregnant lady with two malnourished kids.  These two kids were sparsely spaced, same with the unborn child.  The lady herself wasnt looking healthy, she needed some rest from the last pregnancy but here she was pregnant again.

So I was wondering why they couldnt space their kids.  My friend told me that a lot of men wont use condom with their wives.  She gave me various real life examples, saying that those men said that after using condom with their mistresses, why would they use condom with their own wives! I went ahead to argue asking: why wont my husband use condom in other to help protect me?  Isnt their refusal to use condom one of the reasons we have so many abortion amongst married couples?  Isnt their refusal selfish?

My question:

As a man, would you refuse to use condom with your wife, especially if that would help in spacing your child and helping your wife health wise?  And why do some men refuse to use it with their wives?

As a woman, how would you convince your husband to wear condom without seeming to cause problem in the home? (My friend told me I was just making noise, that the men would not bulge).....

And generally, isnt it the duty of both partners to ensure that their kids are well spaced?