I beg u, 9ja girls and boys...HELP ME! i need some advices :((( (Page 7)

Sorry dear! I couldn't read your lengthy article in spite of your pleas.

Posted: at 26-08-2010 12:34 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming

Well,let's just don't take their crap!

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Posted: at 26-08-2010 12:46 PM (14 years ago) | Hero

i know how u fell girl becos i can say that i have also been in this kind of situation once but thank God today i can laugh again,girl i will really tell u is not easy getting married to a young guy becos if u do then u have to be very patient,apply wisdom and pretend as if u dont see some things and at the same time dont say without him my life is not completed, if possible keep ur self busy with some things like facebook,giving comments on naija or any other enlightrning site on computer just to wipe away ur time if u are felling lonelly,fine time to go out with freinds and family just to avoid being alone,if  possible involve ur self in church activities etc. infact  u need to be very strong for urself now.if the guys here like it or not i am saying that unless with the grace of God and some really GOD fearing one africa men are really difficult some time when it comes to marrige becos most of them still belive in exrta maritals afair even after their marrige since africa culture permit it even though our bible those not.i dont say that u should not love ur man oh but i will advice not to show him too much again,second if u are the type that will not sleep untill he is back i beg stop that for now,thirdlly stop calling him every now and then again on the phone,i am saying this becos some men will change only when u buggle up a bit with them.just like some one said before if there is any special things  that u always pamper him with thinking that u wants to satisfy him pls stop it then u will see the changes.i try some of this thing and it works for me.

Posted: at 26-08-2010 12:57 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

quite a pity but would like to advice that ur very foundation in marriage matters a gr8 deal,this is an institution u guys r into bliv me,u have to deal with d challenges as the union is still very young and this s d age where the youth in d man speaks very loud.its gonna b fyn jst hold on,patience is d only virtue needed to keep u going.

Posted: at 26-08-2010 01:29 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie

Live is funny and sometimes we are entangled in a thing for a purpose, your experience is quiet dishearteing cause i just pray the guy loves you as you love him. Most of us don't like possession and someone snooping around to know what were doing, but i will assure you that every man has a time when his heart is open or rather vulnerable at this point you can talk with him  and make him see reasons please be objective no man likes accusation or pre-emption that you know something he dosen't know.

Go through the book of Proverbs there you will find wisdom.

Posted: at 26-08-2010 02:54 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie

too long well help yourself

Posted: at 27-08-2010 04:22 AM (14 years ago) | Upcoming

Marriage is a choice. Thank God u studied him, adjust and pray over it, its only God that can change a cheating husband. Pray and use tact to handle him.

Lets know wen thngs get beta.......am praying for you.

Posted: at 27-08-2010 02:58 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie

He who first present his case seems right,  but until someone else comes to examine it. It´s a big shame bringing ur matrimonial home issue to an open market because u believe ur husband is cheating on u when there´re family thearapist in ur vicinity or to secretly seek advice from ur husband Nigerian wives who are married to Nigerians. Who knows what u´ve done to him that makes him get loose! I was once married to a German woman and i know what i am talking about.

Posted: at 27-08-2010 05:47 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming

mostly right. dont let the things u cant control or see determine yr happinness. he's- not abusive, willin to be there, provide, and father yr kids & even cries- u have more than  most Nigerian women uses for a lifetime eventful marriage .

Posted: at 28-08-2010 05:40 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie

hmmm true u dey talk

Posted: at 28-08-2010 06:06 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero