BRIDEPRICE FROM WOMEN. RIGHT OR WRONG? (Page 4)

Quote from: Won1 on 27-10-2010 11:36 AM

Before i believe the woman should assist the man with any other things but not the bride price bc the man may tell you 2morrow that he was not ready but u forced him.

But in a situation whereby the woman is desperate, age is not also on her side and the man really wants to settle down with her but have no money. Giving her man money to pay the bride price should't be a problem since she needs this marriage more than the man.

Good. But suppose none of them have age worries, love themselves and man is down but needs her & she gives, could that form a basis of arrogance from her part or inferiority complex from the man?

Posted: at 27-10-2010 11:41 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

there is nothing wrong in assisting the guy,but the bride prize even if its hundred Nair a it will come from his pocket,simple

Posted: at 27-10-2010 12:43 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming

Yeye man, make my daughter give you money 2 dowry her? kobbo sef you no get.

Posted: at 27-10-2010 02:12 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

IF IT IS BRIDE PRICE IT IS A MAN RESPONSIBILITY UNLESS YOU WANT TO CHANGE IT TO GROOM-PRICE WHICH MAY NOT BE A BAD IDEA BUT I WILL PREFER ME MARRYING MY WIFE THAN MY WIFE TO MARRY ME

Posted: at 27-10-2010 02:24 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

not gud 4 a woma to pay nor assit in payin her own bride prize..it is d sole responsibility of a man...but she can assit in oda way round...i mean as per weddin stuff...

Posted: at 27-10-2010 03:47 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

For me, i won't accept that but if she insists to, i will allow her help with other things but not the bride price.

Posted: at 28-10-2010 02:12 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming

I think some of y'all are making a big deal out of nothing. Whats so bad for the lady which you are about to marry helping you with money for bride price simply because you dont have any to pay. you guys ought to get over yourselves with the prideful nature because you cant accomplish anything that way. Letting your partner knows that you dont have doesnt make you weak, moreover it doesnt mean everyone has to know that your husband to be paid your bride price if you keep your mouth shut. Why does simply things have to have so much drama in it? your husband is not going to treat you less or higher just because you are the one who paid the bride price, if you are not acting all bossy. Whether I(lady) pay my bride price its no big deal, as long as i dont forget what my role in the relationship is. As long as, I dont let it ride me and boast and put him down because I paid my own bride price. At times, its not even that deep as we make it seem.

Posted: at 28-10-2010 02:31 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

A man that cannot afford to pay the brideprice of his bride I wonder how he can take care of the new family he want to start.

Posted: at 28-10-2010 02:43 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Thank you.Tht's soooooooo true.I mean even if the brideprice is too much for him,he can allys negotiate with his inlaws.Sit them down and tell them wat you can afford and wat you cant afford,they will allys listen.You dont need to do everything on that list.

Posted: at 28-10-2010 02:49 PM (14 years ago) | Hero

Dont tell me you cant afford to pay 5000naira or 10000naira for my brideprice?.And why dont we wait until you can afford it,why the rush?.My family will allys be there.And instead of giving you my money to come pay my brideprice,i will rather we both use that money to start sum lil business and do sum investment.Or you start a lil business of your own and trust me i will stand behind you 24/7 whenever you need me.Hmmmmm and if you cant afford brideprice,wat's the point of having a wedding?.Why dont we save all the money and invest,invest,invest and invest.Maybe sumday you might be like DANGOTE.

Posted: at 28-10-2010 03:03 PM (14 years ago) | Hero