Women: who comes first between your child and your husband? (Page 4)

a women,should choose a child over
anyone no matter the race,colour,breed,
u can always find another man.
but ur kids are ur life
having carried them for 9mths

Posted: at 6-02-2011 12:05 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie

YOU GOT IT RIGHT GIRL, I HOPE YOU KEEP IT ON, MY KIND OF WOMAN.

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Posted: at 6-02-2011 04:44 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Our society in Nigeria as a whole is still way behind time and behind many countries in realism and standards.  OUR CHILDREN should always be #1 at any time, any place and as a matter of fact all the time.  Children are our future, and they need to be nutured, taken care of, raise properly, guided, fed well, because they are our replacement.  For example, in our culture, 99% of the time, when the food are fixed, it is the husband that always expected to be served first with a big chunk of the meal and usually the left overs or what maybe left of the food is given to the child or the children.  This is a very wrong concept; because why bring the child to the world when you cannot show love, show proper care and adoration and he or she is always the last to be considered or seen in the household.  This is one of the critical reasons we are grossly under-developed in Africa, especially in the Equitorial Region of the world.  Most learned people of our society that are well read and have traveled to developed countries would have noted and seen that their children are the very first to be fed, show much love and be taken care of.  We are still doing majority of our things in Nigeria and other countries of Africa backwards and we are in a gross state of confusion and we'll be wondering why are we not progressing??  We are not progressing and lacking in growth in so many areas because we do not give the ultimate love and respect to our children because we treat them as 2nd and 3rd class people.  We need to break that barrier of making our children top most and we will start seeing remarkable achievements and changes in our attitudes and behavior.  It is absurd to even be thinking or comparing who should come first.  Common Sense should tell any progressive and right thinking individual that this is the best and the righteous way to go.  It is not a matter of competition, but the husband/father should be the one to initiate in the household that the child should be seen, fed, nutured properly before him.  The child is not a subject or object to be treated as a slave or 2nd class citizen and even slaves and other people are supposed to be treat EQUAL with standards that should be above and beyond.  This is where your glory will lie as an able leader, father, mother and head of household.  Let all of us try to begin thinking at this level and the next generation of people to come will evolve as champions at greater magnitude and will become loving, caring and effective parents and leaders.  Our Nigeria is a great nation, we all just need to start re-focusing on our priorities.  OUR CHILD/CHILDREN SHOULD ALWAYS COME FIRST BEFORE THE HUSBAND and THE HUSBAND/FATHER SHOULD CHAMPION THIS CAUSE.  If your food is prepared for you first, tell her to feed your children first.  They are our future and you will be so proud.

Posted: at 6-02-2011 05:08 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie

It is refreshing to see that there are men that know that everything does not revolve around them alone.  How can grown men say that they come first before their before their children    thats really something . I know that some women can go to the extreme and focus on only their children and forget their husbands, I believe there should be balance but for men to say that they come first before their children is shameful. I thought the question was ridiculous, its not something you ask  you just know and especially at certain age children can be very the demanding,  but I find some of the answers more ridiculous. Man vs child, man says I come first  ...very disturbing.

Posted: at 6-02-2011 05:34 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming

man i dey confuse

Posted: at 6-02-2011 06:31 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie

INTERPOLL77, Thank you very much for your aknowledgement. i was in my mid twenties i got married since 2003 immediately after my N.Y.S.C.  i have been happily living in the system for quite sometime now, by his special GRACE, i will continue till the close of my age as propose by almighty GOD.

Posted: at 6-02-2011 11:31 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Wise but still wrong, you children will grow up and leave you it is your husband that will be with you in the old age, and without him there will be no children in the first place.

Posted: at 7-02-2011 03:37 AM (14 years ago) | Newbie

BOTH OF THEM.........IF YOUR WIFE DIE YOU GO CRY AND FEEL AM.....................IF YOUR CHILD DIE TOO YOU FEEL AM AND CRY.......NA THE SAME FEELING OF LOST AND LOVE

Posted: at 7-02-2011 05:30 AM (14 years ago) | Upcoming

70% and 25%, 70% goes for d child while 25% 4 d husband...

Posted: at 7-02-2011 09:06 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac

........equal

Posted: at 7-02-2011 12:54 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie