Guys remember I posted a gist about the Unilag graduate that commited suicide because her boyfriend dumped her, well there have been different version and claims of what led (or didnt lead) to her death by people who replied to that post. I will just take three of the theories for us to work out which one is the truth.
First of all, I actually know the decaesed and she did not end her life bcos of a man as is being reported. she suffered from acute depression and a break up with her Bf amongst other things added to her depression. she had alot going for her and was always a bubbly extroverted girl, full of life. she went to jand last year for her masters and started feeling very low and depressed alot but no one thot it to be anything serious. she later defferred and moved back to naija. on her return she cut off from her friends, deleted almost all her bb contacts and would not return anyones calls, she hardly left her house and just felt detached and abandoned. she craved attention but no one had her time really. most of her best friends are scattered round the globe and the few here had issues of their own. she lived with her sister and soon later started giving her attitude which caused a rift between them. she didnt want people knowing she was back in the country and kept to herself. Nobody thot anything of it.
On saturday she said she was going to a friend's house and instead locked herself in her room and hung herself. her body was only discovered yesterday Monday. Funny how people center on one aspect of ur life and focus on it. while the break up obviously added to her depression, it was not the sole cause of her suicide. she had family problems, had an operation to remove a cyst and was just generally disturbed by alot of things. she was to start a new job with MTN yesterday monday and her father had recently bought her a new car. i do not like to speak ill of the dead or judge anyone. Its between her and her maker now. But people please understand that depression is a silent killer and very real in our society. here we dont have the tools to treat it so its often overlooked but the truth is alot of people are walking around feeling depressed. it not just about having a bad day, or a bad week; depression is a mental illness and we dont have therapists or drugs here for it. Its not only Oyinbos that suffer from it. and there are signs. People can have everything in the world and still be unhappy, still feel sad. Being someone who has been depressed b4 i know how she must have felt and the only way we can deal with it here is to verbalize. Talk to someone, reach out... bcos keeping it all in is what drives people insane. I guess she got to the level where she felt no one cared and no one would even notice if she were gone. I mean she was dead for 2 days before she was even found. I feel suicide is a selfish act and an easy way out of life. People suffering from depression should be monitored and always around positive energy cos if not, u are silently killing yourself and its only a matter of time before they start thinking of evil, that why some people have to be kept on suicide watch becos they are a danger to themselves and they have reached the stage of not giving a f**k about anything or anyone. So please people, get the facts right and everyone is entitled to their own opinion but i implore you never to speak ill of the dead or judge. We will all die one day and the question is what will people say about you when you are not there to defend yourself?
Theory 2 - She Had her womb removed, too much abortion?
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Pretty 26yr old Motunrayo Agbara's corpse was discovered hanging from the ceiling of her sister’s residence on Allen Avenue on Monday July 18, 2011.
They say she committed suicide because her lover jilted her, but her family members have disputed this.
Late Motunrayo had an operation last year that affected her uterus (Cyst), her womb was removed, so that contributed to her depression, which she complained a lot about and even attempted to kill herself last year but was rescued. Guess she succeeded this time around. So sad!
She finished from Queens College in 2001, was a graduate of Economics, University of Lagos and an ex-employee of Access Bank. She was buried yesterday Tuesday 19th of July at Vaults and Garden Cemetery, Ikoyi. May her soul rest in peace...amen.
Theory Three - Her "Sugar Daddy Dissapointed her"
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Huhuonline.com checks reveal that Motunrayo allegedly hung herself with a rope after she was jilted by her “sugar daddy”. Huhuonline.com sources reveal that the deceased had served as a longtime mistress to a well-known business tycoon (Name Withheld), who resides in Lagos with his wife and children. However trouble started when the business man ended the relationship because his wife had discovered that he was having extramarital affairs, and threatened to divorce him. The late banker, Motunrayo, had hoped to become his second wife, but the wife of businessman, who is alleged to be heavily invested in his business, threatened him with divestment, and turned his home into a battle ground. Thus, in order to deescalate the tension in his home, he reluctantly dumped Motunrayo. However, according to family sources, Motunrayo did not take the rejection well, "Since then, she had not remained herself as a result of the incident. She had done everything to bring back the man to no avail. She could not control the emotional trauma and so ended up taking her life,” a family member affirmed. Huhuonline.com learnt that Motunrayo, a graduate of Mass Communication from the University of Lagos, had fallen deeply in love with the married man, who was very instrumental to her growth at the banking sector. He ensured she always got colossal deposits from himself and other business associate; hence she always met her target. "She was sponsored by her lover (The business tycoon) to pursue her Master’s degree abroad," a source added.
What led to Motunrayo's death?? Somebody tell me
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Posted: at 20-07-2011 11:45 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
divineproject at 20-07-2011 12:00 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Reacting to the 1st theory:.............Extroverted people hardly give in to depression.............but having her womb removed is enough to get anyone depressed........but taking one's life is never an option.............I can NEVER take my life becos of any man, becos NO MAN is worth my life
A LITTLE HELP HERE; A LITTLE HELP THERE, MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND!
Posted: at 20-07-2011 12:00 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
deboalabi262 at 20-07-2011 02:21 PM (13 years ago) (m)
@Poster, all the above 3 theories are interconnected. Loss of her womb is the real cause of her depression coupled with an affair with a married man who subsequently jilted her to save his family. All these factors led to her suicide act. RIP.....
Who Jah Blessed, No Man Cursed......
Posted: at 20-07-2011 02:21 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
mallorca at 20-07-2011 02:34 PM (13 years ago) (m)
Quote from: divineproject on 20-07-2011 12:00 PM
Reacting to the 1st theory:.............Extroverted people hardly give in to depression.............but having her womb removed is enough to get anyone depressed........but taking one's life is never an option.............I can NEVER take my life becos of any man, becos NO MAN is worth my life
>:(even me?
HOPE IS MY ROAD,VICTORY IS MY DESTINY
Posted: at 20-07-2011 02:34 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
interpo77 at 20-07-2011 02:45 PM (13 years ago) (m)
the second theory has most part in the cause of her hanging,may be knowing truely that the operation which her womb has being terminated was caused may be because of several abortion from her lover whom has promised to marry her has dumped her, all that can easly cook her up and she can easly detest emotionally and emotional detest is the major factor to depression b4 her death, she considered herself a looser and has no choice to life bad decission
Posted: at 20-07-2011 02:45 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
divineproject at 20-07-2011 03:01 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: mallorca on 20-07-2011 02:34 PM
Quote from: divineproject on 20-07-2011 12:00 PM
Reacting to the 1st theory:.............Extroverted people hardly give in to depression.............but having her womb removed is enough to get anyone depressed........but taking one's life is never an option.............I can NEVER take my life becos of any man, becos NO MAN is worth my life
>:(even me?
Yes, even faceless you..........
A LITTLE HELP HERE; A LITTLE HELP THERE, MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND!
Posted: at 20-07-2011 03:01 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
mallorca at 20-07-2011 03:08 PM (13 years ago) (m)
Quote from: divineproject on 20-07-2011 03:01 PM
Quote from: mallorca on 20-07-2011 02:34 PM
Quote from: divineproject on 20-07-2011 12:00 PM
Reacting to the 1st theory:.............Extroverted people hardly give in to depression.............but having her womb removed is enough to get anyone depressed........but taking one's life is never an option.............I can NEVER take my life becos of any man, becos NO MAN is worth my life
>:(even me?
Yes, even faceless you..........
Hahahaha yu was once faceless like me , Nne d fear of Yahoo girls here is begining wisdom for me...i remain faceless for now
HOPE IS MY ROAD,VICTORY IS MY DESTINY
Posted: at 20-07-2011 03:08 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
bomsiluv at 20-07-2011 03:35 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: divineproject on 20-07-2011 12:00 PM
Reacting to the 1st theory:.............Extroverted people hardly give in to depression.............but having her womb removed is enough to get anyone depressed........but taking one's life is never an option.............I can NEVER take my life becos of any man, becos NO MAN is worth my life
Exactly DP. No man is worth my tears not to talk of my life.
Posted: at 20-07-2011 03:35 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
divineproject at 20-07-2011 03:48 PM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: bomsiluv on 20-07-2011 03:35 PM
Quote from: divineproject on 20-07-2011 12:00 PM
Reacting to the 1st theory:.............Extroverted people hardly give in to depression.............but having her womb removed is enough to get anyone depressed........but taking one's life is never an option.............I can NEVER take my life becos of any man, becos NO MAN is worth my life
Exactly DP. No man is worth my tears not to talk of my life.
My dear......which of the planet have you been?.....its good to see you again
A LITTLE HELP HERE; A LITTLE HELP THERE, MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND!
Posted: at 20-07-2011 03:48 PM (13 years ago) | Hero