Ladies: When Is It OK To Go Back To A Old Relationship?

Date: 22-04-2012 10:50 pm (11 years ago) | Author: Daniel Bosai
[1] 2 3 4 5
- at 22-04-2012 10:50 PM (11 years ago)
Online (m)
It can be tempting to revisit old ground when it comes to relationships, particularly when loneliness kicks in. While romances end for a reason and the decision to get back together should never be taken lightly, these examples reveal there are times where a second chance might just be the best idea…




When you’re now living closer
If a long-distance relationship didn’t work out, it might be worth getting back in touch if one of you moves closer. Be upfront about how you’re feeling and explain to your ex that things might be different now you’re in the same city, and you’re willing to give it another go. It’s amazing how much easier being on the same bus route can make things.  If all that was holding you back was logistics, a change of circumstances can make a world of difference.

When you’ve both grown up
Couples can break up because they’re too young to appreciate what they’ve got and haven’t yet got the maturity to deal with the demands of a relationship. On top of that, the upheavals of young life – university, new jobs, changing circles of friends – can get in the way. Once life has settled down and you’ve spent significant time apart, you may realise exactly what you were missing. It’s a cliché, but you don’t always know what you had until it’s gone. Age changes people in different ways though, so take it slowly and don’t have unrealistic expectations.

When he’s dealt with his problems
If a relationship didn’t work the first time, you can guarantee old problems will rear their ugly head again unless something has really changed. If your ex has truly confronted the issues that drove you apart – he might have put a stop to his all-night benders or finally plucked up the courage to speak to his boss about his unreasonable hours – things might run a lot more smoothly between you. But let him show you he’s definitely changed before you take the plunge.

When you’ve forgiven him
Some sins are easier to overlook than others – you may find it hard to get over his cheating, for example. But if he’s sincerely sorry for past mistakes, and you can honestly say you’ve forgiven him, by all means give it another go. However, if you find you’re still reading his emails, glancing through his phone and verifying his stories, the trust has probably gone for good. Test your feelings by taking his word at face value and refusing to check up on him. If you’re left anxiety-free, you could be on to a good thing.

When everyone else says you should
Ultimately, it’s the couple’s decision whether you should get back together. But if the people you trust the most are screaming that you’re perfect for one another, it could be worth looking at the situation from their perspective. They say your mother knows best, and if your mother, sister, best friends and auntie all reckon you’re an ideal match, give reconciliation some serious thought. Ask them to give you specific reasons, make a list and see if you’re convinced.


Posted: at 22-04-2012 10:50 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero
- mariofavour at 22-04-2012 11:08 PM (11 years ago)
(m)
madam no beg am again,,,just come tonight
Posted: at 22-04-2012 11:08 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie
Reply
- Solidstonez at 22-04-2012 11:13 PM (11 years ago)
(f)
BRB

Posted: at 22-04-2012 11:13 PM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero
Reply
- wilat at 22-04-2012 11:15 PM (11 years ago)
(f)
Oops,this one long no be short chai,make I go chop come back

Posted: at 22-04-2012 11:15 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Reply
- wilson200 at 22-04-2012 11:17 PM (11 years ago)
(m)
Quote from: mariofavour on 22-04-2012 11:08 PM
madam no beg am again,,,just come tonight
CIAO AMICO.SI VEDE CHE SEI PROPRIO UN TESTA DI CAZZO.
Posted: at 22-04-2012 11:17 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
Reply
- kattie77 at 22-04-2012 11:18 PM (11 years ago)
(f)
So long a letter
Posted: at 22-04-2012 11:18 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Reply
- open_reality at 22-04-2012 11:23 PM (11 years ago)
(f)
When you run out of options. Grin Grin Grin

Posted: at 22-04-2012 11:23 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Reply
- Tyahaya at 22-04-2012 11:35 PM (11 years ago)
(m)
When boko visit your house 2 plead on behalf of him..! Smiley
Posted: at 22-04-2012 11:35 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Reply
- wilat at 22-04-2012 11:55 PM (11 years ago)
(f)
Quote from: Tyahaya on 22-04-2012 11:35 PM
When boko visit your house 2 plead on behalf of him..! Smiley
That one na death sentence na  Shocked

Posted: at 22-04-2012 11:55 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Reply
- SAINTKITTS at 23-04-2012 12:28 AM (11 years ago)
(m)
............... relationship between man and woman either you gain or loose...................

Posted: at 23-04-2012 12:28 AM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
Reply
- brownteddy at 23-04-2012 12:38 AM (11 years ago)
(m)
Quote from: wilson200 on 22-04-2012 11:17 PM
CIAO AMICO.SI VEDE CHE SEI PROPRIO UN TESTA DI CAZZO.
Si,hai ragione,e lui e molto stupido.
Posted: at 23-04-2012 12:38 AM (11 years ago) | Newbie
Reply
- SAINTKITTS at 23-04-2012 12:40 AM (11 years ago)
(m)
Quote from: wilson200 on 22-04-2012 11:17 PM
CIAO AMICO.SI VEDE CHE SEI PROPRIO UN TESTA DI CAZZO.

 Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin

Posted: at 23-04-2012 12:40 AM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
Reply
- solony at 23-04-2012 12:40 AM (11 years ago)
(m)
Na today!
Posted: at 23-04-2012 12:40 AM (11 years ago) | Newbie
Reply
- southpool16 at 23-04-2012 12:43 AM (11 years ago)
(m)
if conji hold you Grin
Posted: at 23-04-2012 12:43 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Reply
- SAINTKITTS at 23-04-2012 12:46 AM (11 years ago)
(m)
Quote from: brownteddy on 23-04-2012 12:38 AM
Si,hai ragione,e lui e molto stupido.

................................confermare ragazzo stupido.........................

Posted: at 23-04-2012 12:46 AM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
Reply
- SAINTKITTS at 23-04-2012 12:48 AM (11 years ago)
(m)
Quote from: southpool16 on 23-04-2012 12:43 AM
if conji hold you Grin

 Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin

Posted: at 23-04-2012 12:48 AM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
Reply
- GreenBee at 23-04-2012 12:49 AM (11 years ago)
(m)
Ladies affairs
Posted: at 23-04-2012 12:49 AM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
Reply
- ikwo1 at 23-04-2012 01:06 AM (11 years ago)
(m)
Quote from: brownteddy on 23-04-2012 12:38 AM
Si,hai ragione,e lui e molto stupido.
hay gentle men,this is 9jar site not italian,spanish nor purtugal.
Posted: at 23-04-2012 01:06 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Reply
- aso4life1 at 23-04-2012 01:11 AM (11 years ago)
(m)
Quote from: Tyahaya on 22-04-2012 11:35 PM
When boko visit your house 2 plead on behalf of him..! Smiley
That one na die oo

Posted: at 23-04-2012 01:11 AM (11 years ago) | Hero
Reply
- Senegal at 23-04-2012 02:08 AM (11 years ago)
(m)
Where is hi master Huh?
Posted: at 23-04-2012 02:08 AM (11 years ago) | Hero
Reply
[1] 2 3 4 5