My Husband No Longer Desires Me segxwally

My husband and I have been married for 17 years and have 3 children - 15, 12 and 10. We have been going to marriage counseling since he announced 6 months ago that he no longer finds me attractive and feels that we are more like best friends.



For the past 10 years, I have been the one to initiate our love making, this has made me feel like sex is a chore, and over time I simply gave up trying so much. It has now led to an almost non-existent sex life. In counseling we have covered many areas that have affected our relationship, and have been able to work on building a stronger level of trust and respect. It has also helped my husband share his feeling more easily with me. Last night, I discovered that he has another facebook account that he uses to chat to other women (mainly Asian women - since visiting China a few times for business, he seems to have become "obsessed". He has had pics of asian girls on his laptop). He says his chats are not segxwal, but that he finds the conversations stimulating. He has also discussed our relationship with these strangers. When I asked him about it, he was open and honest with me (I think). I feel so angry and lost, as I have no idea where our relationship is headed. He once again said that he no longer desires me segxwally and that our relationship feels more like a friendship. When we have made love he said he simply doesn't feel anything for me - this hurt immensely. When I asked him if he was attracted to Asian women, he could not answer, and honestly was not sure. He still enjoys my company and loves to cuddle (but that's about the depth of our intimacy). I am confused, because if I keep my distance from him, he notices and complains that I do not cuddle him anymore? He told me he would  try and make our marriage work, but I do not know how much longer I keep feeling this way.

What Do I Do, I am Confused---Help Me!  

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Posted: at 28-06-2012 01:24 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero

Serious case...well, the man feels that way because he is lusting after young girls ..to makes he feel like a young man..nature..meanwhile, what can I really say now..only God can restore her man back to her..she have to be strong in prayer..and she should not file for a divorce..she have spent 10years of her life with this man..she shouldn't let that just go just like that..thank God she had a children for the man..she should force on the children more now.

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Posted: at 28-06-2012 01:39 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero

Men oooooooooooooooooooooooooooo, where are you ppl.  One of you have started again oo, if this woman goes outside to satisfy her segxwal life, you ppl in NP will come and tag all the women "ashawos".  Make una call one of u to order oo before the case pass "be careful"  I rest my case

Posted: at 28-06-2012 02:12 PM (12 years ago) | Hero

In this case, the man will have himself to blame if she goes out there to satisfy herself segxwally.

Posted: at 28-06-2012 02:17 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac

 

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Posted: at 28-06-2012 02:25 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero

 pity †ђξ woman sha, but some commet can be frustrating

Posted: at 28-06-2012 02:28 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie

You are right.

Posted: at 28-06-2012 02:33 PM (12 years ago) | Hero

 

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Posted: at 28-06-2012 03:04 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero

If you ask me, i fink prayer is the key here because the man has said it himself that he doesnt desire the wife segxwally n i dont fink the woman can start putting on make-ups or wearing skimpy wears to get the man's attention

Posted: at 28-06-2012 05:04 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac

 

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Posted: at 28-06-2012 05:14 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero