Empathy doesn’t come naturally for everyone and there are many reasons for this including attachment trauma and other challenging family of origin experiences where you weren’t modeled empathy. Men are often not socialized to be empathic to the degree that women are. The bottom line is that if empathy is a struggle it can be practiced, learned and integrated into your relationships. If trauma is part of your story, you may need to begin with empathy for yourself before you can demonstrate it outwardly.
What is empathy? Empathy is the ability to recognize another person’s beliefs and emotions; to not only put yourself in another person’s shoes but respond to their needs. So men, we’re looking for behaviors that demonstrate empathy to your partners so they feel your emotional engagement. Let’s look at some of the ways you can do this:
1. Follow up and ask her about something that was bothering her.
2. Ask her about her day. Listen for the emotional content under the facts and dig deeper with her.
3. During an argument listen without interruption and validate her feelings.
4. Recognize that she is separate from you and is justified to have separate feelings and desires.
5. Refrain from always having to be right.
6. Let her see you practicing empathy in other areas of your life.
The presence or lack of empathy shapes all of us from our earliest attachment relationships with our parents or primary givers. It’s an important skill to hone in all of your relationships. Men or women can struggle with empathy. It’s also important to note that the the more men and women try to be empathetic to their partner’s feelings, the happier they are.
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