segxwal problem

a colleague asked me a question but i dont know what to say bcos am confused on the right thing to say. she really love her boyfriend and dont want to cheat on him. Two people in a relationship for almos a year, she loves and would like to settle with the guy if he asks but there is one problem which is sex. The guy doesn't satisfy his girlfriend and he thinks he has good moves....question is how do you tell your boyfriend that he does not satisfy you segxwally without hurting his feelings. he demands sex all te time and cant go for more than one round.

please it is important and your suggestions will help me to answer her question.

Posted: at 23-10-2012 03:04 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac

whichever one,just what do u think?

Posted: at 23-10-2012 03:58 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac

If ask me, na who I go ask? The matter way dey for grand don tee! No be me go talk am.

Posted: at 23-10-2012 06:20 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Sweetie.. its not hard just take theses steps--i bet u will like it
1. Honey, I need to talk to you about our intimacy. It has always taken me a long time to reach orgasm, what do you think about looking into ways to extend our lovemaking so I can reach orgasm." Make it seem like it is your fault… I know sounds crazy but… this way you are not hurting his ego while at the same time letting him know you are not satisfied.

and den if he cant hit ur G-spot

2. Honey, I have always had a difficult time reaching orgasm, do you think we can try some different positions or possibly try some toys. I was reading some blog and it made some suggestions that could help me reach orgasm"
thou, doing it this way makes it your fault, it's totally about the fact that YOU can't reach orgasm and NOT that he is doing anything wrong. This way you leave his ego intact and now you are experimenting with new ways to help you reach that wonderful "O" 

I am a greedy woman when it comes to my orgasms; I love to have them and try to have as many as possible in single session. So if my man wants to try something new I am totally up for it and he listens to me when I say, "Hey… that didn't work or… Damn, that s--- was the bomb.    -- Ok so… now how do you introduce erotica and toys into the bedroom? I think with each situation it is different so know your man can think about what might be the best approach for you… but for now let me share with you what I did.

Very early in the relationship I let my man know I liked watching porn, fortunately he did too and I suggested we watch get a few movies together. In my room I have books on display such as the Kama Sutra, Tantric Secrets, Zane novels, Daily Sex,Position of the Day Playbook and many more. I have a statue replica of a sex position -- (shocked i guess, u dont hv to be )... Having these type of items in my room sets the tone for what I like. If you don't currently have some type of erotic books or toys in your possession start purchasing some  . I suggest you start with a book; leave it on the nightstand where he can see it. Again, tell him sophie told you that this was a good book for segxwal positions and you wanted to read it. I guarantee you he will want to look at it with you and now you can begin discussing and experimenting with different positions that may be pleasurable for both of you. While you are out running errands together or after a date, ask him to stop by the adult toy store  . You can tell him you want to buy some lingerie to wear for him when you get home. While you are there, draw his attention to the toys. Walk around, look at them and see what his reaction is. Start out by buying something simple like pleasure gels, edible body paints, or some handcuffs. Every month go back to the store and try to graduate to a new toy that is a little more erotic. Going to the store with your man will spark conversation and it will give you a feel for what he is open to. Do not be scared to tell him what you would like to try… all he can do is say NO. You might find your man going to the store by himself and surprising you with new toys before long.

Side Note
If your man is not open to pleasing you, you may want to take a step back and check your relationship. I strongly believe that if your man really likes you, he will be open to discussing your intimacy issues and be willing to make the needed changes ensure your satisfaction. However, remember it is a two way street, you need to be open to him saying he needs changes from you as well.

In the meantime, Have Great Sex…     ---- AM A BAD BABE ISNT IT? Have a great ride gurl 

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Posted: at 23-10-2012 09:47 AM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero

i dont know how her boyfriend will react but thanks so much for the words. i really appreciate u taking ur time to explain it.

Posted: at 24-10-2012 03:13 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac

Guy wey no know am no know am,so learn it before u start feeling like hit man on the bed.

Posted: at 24-10-2012 11:45 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac

 

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Posted: at 24-10-2012 05:54 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero

Then tell ur bf wht to do now..all men will act like expert on d bed
but d truth is, it is not all of dem wey sabi do am, neither did they all hav so much experience,
nd last no b evry woman wey like d same moves.... So just let ur man knw wot u like in a sweet way
wey no go offend am.

Posted: at 27-10-2012 08:37 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero

Babe i hav bin busy no b small, but back for more  So how hav u bin?

Posted: at 28-10-2012 12:29 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero