Ok, i dont know the deal with naija parents when they get here. It is just my parents or everyone's else that you are not allowed to have a boyfriend, or bring them home, cos u not 30 yet? and u not allowed to leave the house and get ur own house becos u not married yet. how can u marry when they dont allow u to have a boyfriend. sound crazy! ok make ur suggestions, and life event.
Posted: at 20-08-2007 06:16 AM (16 years ago) | Newbie
perhaps they are just a lil bit old fashioned and expect any guy comming to their house should be commin with palm wine(marriage proposal) thats exactly how my parents are also and the only guy that ever came looking for my sis came wit palm wine and dats exactly how they expect my situation to be, and of course ill oblige them...its much easier!
Posted: at 21-08-2007 03:44 AM (16 years ago) | Gistmaniac
myragonza at 23-08-2007 06:01 AM (16 years ago) (f)
i am still leaving with my parents....yeah i don't get much freedom coz they feel that i will "spoil"....but no matter what,we will still get spoilt as in when they control us too much,we tend to lie to them and do stuffs behind their back...adding to that i only have one younger sister so its just the two of us so my parents feel that if i start staying alone,we as family are so called separated and there won't be much of a family bonding....but sometimes i do fight back as long as i get what i want...of course not to the extreme...luckily for me,i do bring back my guy friends when my parents are at home so as to let them know who i am going out with....at least they do not expect any palm wine from them...hehehehe....but its just 2 guys to be exact....if i were to bring more,it might raise eyebrows though....but whatever it is,i think parents should "bend a little" and gives us space....let us do mistakes so that we can learn from our mistakes...controlling us means like covering us in a shell and never let us find out our surroundings....let us know more about life...the only thing that they can do is to advise us or perhaps warn us....and as their children,we should not betray that trust that they gave to us or disappoint them too much....
i am still leaving with my parents....yeah i don't get much freedom coz they feel that i will "spoil"....but no matter what,we will still get spoilt as in when they control us too much,we tend to lie to them and do stuffs behind their back...adding to that i only have one younger sister so its just the two of us so my parents feel that if i start staying alone,we as family are so called separated and there won't be much of a family bonding....but sometimes i do fight back as long as i get what i want...of course not to the extreme...luckily for me,i do bring back my guy friends when my parents are at home so as to let them know who i am going out with....at least they do not expect any palm wine from them...hehehehe....but its just 2 guys to be exact....if i were to bring more,it might raise eyebrows though....but whatever it is,i think parents should "bend a little" and gives us space....let us do mistakes so that we can learn from our mistakes...controlling us means like covering us in a shell and never let us find out our surroundings....let us know more about life...the only thing that they can do is to advise us or perhaps warn us....and as their children,we should not betray that trust that they gave to us or disappoint them too much....
Wow........nice speech there....can we give a waving ovation for myraginza
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Posted: at 23-08-2007 05:31 PM (16 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Lol...........cant beleieve dat whole lecture was free....but it was really SINcere........trust me....1ce again, a standing ovation to the chairlady herself!..
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Posted: at 24-08-2007 11:21 PM (16 years ago) | Gistmaniac
myragonza at 5-09-2007 04:22 AM (16 years ago) (f)
yes u are right madukaomo.....to tell u the truth,even when i have kids....especially daughters,i will be restricting her movements too...i will guide her as how my mum guides me but i will be flexible too.....coz i know what i went thru and how i lied to my parents and stuffs....i have to give mt kids the benefit of a doubt....but also i do not want them to forget their culture and heritage values even if i were to married a westerner(but of course not).....
myragonza at 18-09-2007 08:26 AM (16 years ago) (f)
i think we have to listen to a bit of both....sometimes we are right but parents are always right...its just that their conditions and way of achieving things are different and more typical....
I think it all depends on the parents and their perception of life. Sometimes in trying to protect us from 'evil' they just make 'evil' seem more attractive to us! My parents gave my sisters and I relative freedom probably because they spend most of their time at work and because they have their own style of raising us...you know a kinda, 'let a dog roam and he will find its way home' thing... luckily for us we did all the things that kids do and we out grew those things at an early stage and fortunately no permanent damage was accrued. Now we are older and wiser and relatively more responsible than our age mates! For me the resultant effect of this kind of parental style is that I find most of my peers boring...afteral they are doing those things that I did a long time ago! However I think we were just lucky we turned out so well...it could have been the other way round..you know?
Posted: at 19-09-2007 09:30 AM (16 years ago) | Upcoming
lol thats their own perception about life prior to marriage. u must have to accept since u still under their supervision, regardless of this fact; u can still nurture a relationship without their knowledge, we all know that and could still lead to marriage which when the marriage time comes the lucky guy would still be embraced into your their home. thats ur parents principles & u must have to abide to it; u can go contrary but concealing any glimpse but yet play ur own game bcos i bet u if u wait till 30 b4 thinkin that u ll b too old to enjoy marital life.
Posted: at 23-09-2007 12:47 PM (16 years ago) | Gistmaniac
humblenrof at 21-10-2007 08:06 AM (16 years ago) (m)
I thought it was just me on the run for such. My father wants to know where I'm going and what I'm doing at all times. Tell him I'm going for a party . I am not even allowed t o leave the house at night. He will tell you how how people kill the innocent in the party and all sorts of stories. Well he can't keep me from having a boyfriend even though I can't bring him to the house. Seems to me they are worse when in America. What a culture but I still obey them as much as I can.
Posted: at 21-10-2007 08:06 AM (16 years ago) | Newbie
Ok, i dont know the deal with naija parents when they get here. It is just my parents or everyone's else that you are not allowed to have a boyfriend, or bring them home, cos u not 30 yet? and u not allowed to leave the house and get ur own house becos u not married yet. how can u marry when they dont allow u to have a boyfriend. sound crazy! ok make ur suggestions, and life event.
it depends on wat urs think of u ma is go out n come back on time
Posted: at 5-06-2008 12:13 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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