sweetnsassy1 at 12-04-2010 01:43 AM (15 years ago)
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I gave my love a call, but he didn't sound too happy to hear my voice. Was like nothing at all really as if we talk all the time. He said he was sleepy...tired from work. Granted he has half a world away, but he is not messaging me etc. I think there is another woman and he keeps saying no there isn't. I think really he is a big flirt. The thing is I work all the time, am going to school and trying to get my life back in order after was in my previous terrible relationship. So, I don't know...it seems he wants me when it is convenient for him, but I am no longer going to be around as much because I go back to work and school soon....so he said he want to marry me but I am really not sure....if he is a player or not....what to do and how to know....
Posted: at 12-04-2010 01:43 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie
Mambaman at 12-04-2010 02:09 AM (15 years ago) (m)
When a guy cuts down on the calls & the messaging the flame is most likely dying. However, It does not neccessarily mean there's someone else though. Sometimes outta sight is outta mind. It's easy for guys to say they will marry u, so that's not enough. I don't know the last time you met and had sex, if it wasn't too long then call him up and tell him you're pregnant, be attentive for his first reaction, even on phone you'll be able to sense & discern his position with u. Sorry Sweetnsassy, I hope I'm entirely wrong. But if not then to hell with it and go out there and have some fun & raunchy carefree sex, phyuk! (but be safe). Go wild, it helps to forget.... Now don't tell the guys I told u all this. Cheers.
Posted: at 12-04-2010 02:09 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie
sweetnsassy1 at 12-04-2010 02:35 AM (15 years ago) (f)
Thanks...I now realize I feel foolish for posting this because I know he isn't like that...I'm just overly emotional these days...a lot to handle here on my own with my family and him being so far away....He is not a bad guy...he is always very attentive when we speak and he always has a way to make me laugh...just he is busy a lot and so am I but I guess I just need him more these days and he can't be here for me....my mom is dying a slow death and I am not able to do anything....my dad is distraught...and I am alone trying to take care of them both because my siblings don't want to be around "the depression and sadness"....but someone has to take care of them, cook and clean for them and it is falling to me....and I can't really talk to him about it because we don't really have time - I'm trying to work and go to school and have a child to care for as well...it isn't easy....and I guess I just really am feeling like I need him and I got a little stupid....as for your advice...I can not go out and be wild like that...it is not something I would do...and I especially wouldn't do it to him...and as for pregnant - it would be great to have some little new life growing here...
**** I'm sorry if you see this babe, forgive me...I think you know I am just really needing you right now and I know you work hard...I just wish you weren't so far away right now because I really need you...I need your smile, your hugs, your kisses...I need your companionship because without it, it is so hard!
Posted: at 12-04-2010 02:35 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie
Isnt it possible that Ur insecurities are getting the better of U? I feel u should take it easy and let the scars from Ur mentioned previous terrible relationship heal and not mingle the bile from that with the honey of this.
Cut the guy some slack. If that doesn't work, back off from him nice and easy i.e, carry out a conscious withdrawal from the things he myt have become accustomed to U doing. If he doesn't up his game, and resume his role in Ur relationship then u could say something is wrong.
See unlike most girls girls, with guys, there isn't always another woman when we go dormant or inactive. Sometimes we are really just to busy and at such times all we need is for u to trust us. U expressing that trust in us puts us in a positionof accountability. Paranoia on Ur part on the other hand could give us ideas if U do it so much we start feeling trapped and untrusted.
Posted: at 12-04-2010 09:05 AM (15 years ago) | Hero
Mambaman at 12-04-2010 10:08 AM (15 years ago) (m)
Now u tell me.... You've got quite an emotional load and too much responsibility on u. But you werent foolish with your post, how else would u find a solution? I very much like what Onchedu said, quite honest he was. But u really have too much to handle I wonder how u cope.
I am sincerely sorry about your mother, that's enough to lose ur mind. I dont know this guy you're talking about but I think if he cant be there with u he should be on the phone every five minutes. It's very important u know where he stands with u cos it seems you're not sure. Even if I was working at a Telephone Exchange Switch Board I would still have time to call her. I think u should both get those bluetooth headsets. And as for your siblings "depression and sadness" phyuking flimsy excuse!
I honestly wish I could help u but take it easy okay? Cheers.
I hope it all gets better for u, of course it will eventually and have a little hope for your mom, it works sometimes.
Posted: at 12-04-2010 10:08 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie
myragonza at 12-04-2010 02:04 PM (15 years ago) (f)
Quote from: sweetnsassy1 on 12-04-2010 01:43 AM
I gave my love a call, but he didn't sound too happy to hear my voice. Was like nothing at all really as if we talk all the time. He said he was sleepy...tired from work. Granted he has half a world away, but he is not messaging me etc. I think there is another woman and he keeps saying no there isn't. I think really he is a big flirt. The thing is I work all the time, am going to school and trying to get my life back in order after was in my previous terrible relationship. So, I don't know...it seems he wants me when it is convenient for him, but I am no longer going to be around as much because I go back to work and school soon....so he said he want to marry me but I am really not sure....if he is a player or not....what to do and how to know....
u need strong evidence before making any decisions....but of course ur future is more important....concentrate on ur studies and work coz thats gonna get u somewhere later....
Bazemaster at 13-04-2010 03:39 PM (15 years ago) (m)
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Posted: at 13-04-2010 03:39 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
sweetnsassy1 at 14-04-2010 02:32 AM (15 years ago) (f)
Am upset...found something he wants to explain to me on his facebook page...I guess we will see what games and drama lie ahead...
Thing is ...I have enough drama at home...don't need no more...I'm giving benefit of doubt at this point - but how do you explain telling someone else you love them and you will be with them forever and talkin marriage? I dunno - We will see....
When I turn my back it is for good...and I won't look back...this better be good at least interesting.....
Posted: at 14-04-2010 02:32 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie
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