What will u do if a guy tells u, his parents are first in his heart (Page 2)

I'm just going to tell you what I think. If the husband here tells the wife his family -mother, father, etc. come first in his heart even if the mother in law is a nagger, and irritates you give of yourself....accept what he said if you want to make it work. If you are generous of yourself and do the best that you can to keep the mother in law happy, your husband will be happy. Also keep in mind, any small little thing you do for the family is like giving charity and will benefit yourself in the long run. You will be blessed for all you do...Your husband is the head of the house, and his feelings should be respected...but at same time, marriage is also a compromise and a wise husband if he sees how hard you are trying will learn to bend....and no matter how difficult it is do it with a smile and from your heart....

I was thinking tonight on my way home from hospital how best to make my future husband's mother happy as I really do want her to be comfortable and happy because if she is, then I know my husband will be happy which in turn will make me happy as well and our family will reap the benefits of his joy...

Thanks to all that gave opinions/advice to my previous question, am grateful to yah! thanks in a million.

My question now is, "As a fiancee with a child to this guy whom happens to open just one of the secrets in his heart that the parent are placed first in his heart, secondly his brother before fiancee" which spoken with authority attached.

U must have laughed at the statement of "open just one of the secrets in his heart" because if these statment was said she wont ve gone to the extent of havin a baby for him and the mom which has been a nail in the ass as u all know...

These words of being first in heart is known to the parents which gave them boldness to call ... trash

Guys what is this guy truly saying, please compare to the previous "naggin mother inlaw"

Correction He wouldn't tell his wife. She alone (allow) cannot.

The bible says that a man should leave his parents home and cling to his wife. This doesn't mean that he should desert his family members but in the same breathe the man shouldn't abandon his wife because of his family members either. There has to be a balance. What this wife need to do is understand her role in the household and this is where Proverbs 31 comes in.

None of us can run our lives without Christ help and it is time we come to acknowledge this. Whatever relationship her husband has with his family she should not get involved in it. Whether it be a love/hate one that isn't her business. Her role is to run her husband household there he should be happy. Putting herself in between is wrong.

First, I am not Christian so I do not live as Christ being the head of my household - I live with God in my control of all aspects of my life. God comes before all but my husband is the head of my house and even though you are trying to disagree with me, you are saying  the same thing. I never said get in between the relationship with her husband's family. However, being that he is her husband they will most certainly be around each other and it would be better for her if she were to do her best to make the mother in law happy because by doing so her husband will be happy in his home. If she is making her husband happy in his home how can she be doing wrong - she will have done her job as his wife. Yes some are meddling mother in laws - but in the eyes of her husband she will look that much better by trying to make him happy.




Some mother-in-law does it. I remember my ex Mother asking him if both of us were drowning who he would save. He told her me from that day she hated me. I still played my role has a daughter in law to her. I don't care why he said that but he has his reasons that is where both of them should trash it out. Daughters and son in laws must know that their role is not to be equal with the parents or sibling. Their roles is to love the individual in their lives and care for them.


Yes they should love the individual in their lives and this is what I am saying. It benefits you to do your best to be good to the in laws no matter what because the husband has eyes, ears, and will knowing what is going on. If you are doing your best to keep the peace in your home for your spouse by being good to his family no matter how they feel about you - you will reap the benefit of love and gratitude from your husband for keeping peace and making his home a comfortable and happy place to be for him.