Help! I'm torn in between the of them. I'm at a cross road!

I use to date dis gal all the way from college and its been 9 yrs now. Before the tail end of 2009, we had had series of arguements ranging from we have stayed for too long,we are not getting any younger, you are not caring enuff, you dont luv me, i'm convinced you cant be there for me etc. I met her a virgin then.  My job has been putting me at a stand still and i'm seriously working on either a better offer or leave d country for further studies. Before long her family became involved and there was undues influence when it comes to decision making about us. i have pleaded for patience so much dat i felt i lost my ego, respect and priniples as a man. We were meant to have an introduction in december, things went sour cos of constraints i ran into just for a trip b4 we cud finalize arrangements. lo and behold she started by telling me she cant marry herself to a man. i wondered what could have made her think dat way but to no avail. Before u know it i felt she was begining to misinterpret my position and bum, d intro failed in December. She refused picking my calls for 4 good weeks which made me go thru hell. It lasted for 5 months with her setting conditions for me to follow cos she has a banking job and i'm a bloody civil servant. The road became clearer to me and i decided on an alternative painfully and gainfully.I use to know her for like 3 years now but we were on and off for the sake of my first girl. Now that things had become complicated with my passion, love and regards for her being lost, i felt i shud approach her one last time to know if she was still interested or not in view of the duration of our relationship so dat we dont depart in rancour. Just when i was begining to fall in a safe haven for the other lady, she came up and said she was still interested. I looked at the humiliation i suffered  with her and dont think its worth it as she has had me exposed to her people with ridicule. This other lady is much younger and in her final year. Just the kind of woman i would need now for my understanding. i love her and would want to proceed with her but i reckon its too early. i need a life saver on this

Posted: at 19-06-2010 09:33 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie

ALERT! ALERT!! ALERT!!! Some sensible person has logged onto Xters page.

@Poster, U wan dey idealize present rubbish past shey? In my opinion U be slacker, making excuses why U cant marry the woman U love. I wouldn't let a guy like U marry any girl that is precious to me.

Na money dem dey take marry? Shey her people have accepted u and said U should come. ur not serious.

Posted: at 19-06-2010 09:50 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

May U have many more weekends o...

Posted: at 19-06-2010 10:18 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

Wine pls, chilled exotic red wine. I don't drink beer.

Posted: at 19-06-2010 10:34 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

Beer? Nah... That really isnt my thing. I dont have anything against people that drink it sha. I have a sweet tongue. It thinks anything that's bitter is a drug and my internal organs have gotten a restraining order from my brain to keep my tongue from ingesting drugs that aren't prescribed by my doctor.

Even the wine sef na occasionally.

Ice cream no bad sha. (This is the part where U go: "Chei, this guy is crazy")

Posted: at 19-06-2010 10:43 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

I cant chose for you poster.......but do what you think is right...........probably, this time you need to set the records straight...........somehow you are begging to compare: this one is young, this one is old; this one is good, this one is bad; this one is all I want, this one is not...............well remember that new things (relationships inclusive) dey shak....

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Posted: at 19-06-2010 11:50 AM (13 years ago) | Hero

take d first one cus, i think u both understand each orda 4 u 2 last like 9yrs.

Posted: at 20-06-2010 08:23 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

good advice

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Posted: at 21-06-2010 02:43 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

follow ur heart

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Posted: at 20-11-2011 10:51 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero

follow ur heart.......n don't get confused cos no matter what we tell u here,u still gonna follow ur heart!but if na me sha,i ll marry d 1st one

Posted: at 2-08-2012 02:47 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac