GUY: Should You Date Your Friend?

This is a problem that commonly comes up in friendships between men and women, whether they are young or old.

It can be agonizing or confusing if you have a friend that you are attracted to, but you don't know whether or not that person likes you back. You don't know if the two of you are really just good friends or if you should try to ask them out on a date.

You want to have a romantic relationship with this person, but you are worried that they will reject you if they don't feel the same way about you. What if you ask that person for a date and they turn you down? What if they say that classic dreaded line, "I just want us to be friends".

What should you do if you realize that you are romantically attracted to one of your friends? Should you risk embarassment and heartache by asking your friend on a date? What are the pitfalls of admitting to your friend that you are attracted to them?

Here is another possibility you need to think about - what if the two of you date for a while and then you break up? Then you've lost both a lover and a friend.

          Lets go there

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Posted: at 23-11-2010 11:58 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

I dey come,make i go cal love doctor.

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Posted: at 23-11-2010 12:05 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

I'm an illiterate in this.

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Posted: at 23-11-2010 12:07 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac

really?

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Posted: at 23-11-2010 12:13 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

Yes,sweetie!
They use to trip na!

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Posted: at 23-11-2010 12:15 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

Well...i know how to go about it If i have any feelings for my bff... I mean i wouldnt want him to start looking at me in a diff way if eventually he doesnt feel the same way.

Posted: at 23-11-2010 12:18 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

What if He's not very good at understanding those signals of attraction?

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Posted: at 23-11-2010 12:21 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero

I've been there done that. I risked it and was turned down on the fact that "i was late"! She said, what have you been waiting for all these yrs, i found me a boyfriend now, so? We are friends till tomorrow....and she's married now.....and she still mock me badly for being coward....


My advice: if you are attracted to your friend, tell him/her on time. It doesnt break friendship. It will break friendship if you know he/she has a good relationship with another person already....

Posted: at 23-11-2010 12:26 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming

hmmmmm!!!!

Posted: at 23-11-2010 12:33 PM (13 years ago) | Hero

You are assuming and thats where the confusion lies. If your friend see you as his/her friend, no matter what you say/do to them they tend to overlook it.....they will correct you if you are wrong. Those are the people i call friends. Do whatcha wanna do and get it done with once and for all...ive turned a gf down be4, yet we're cool all the way.....

if you cant turn shame to joke, pls dont do it!

Posted: at 23-11-2010 12:45 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming