This is a problem that commonly comes up in friendships between men and women, whether they are young or old.
It can be agonizing or confusing if you have a friend that you are attracted to, but you don't know whether or not that person likes you back. You don't know if the two of you are really just good friends or if you should try to ask them out on a date.
You want to have a romantic relationship with this person, but you are worried that they will reject you if they don't feel the same way about you. What if you ask that person for a date and they turn you down? What if they say that classic dreaded line, "I just want us to be friends".
What should you do if you realize that you are romantically attracted to one of your friends? Should you risk embarassment and heartache by asking your friend on a date? What are the pitfalls of admitting to your friend that you are attracted to them?
Here is another possibility you need to think about - what if the two of you date for a while and then you break up? Then you've lost both a lover and a friend.
Lets go there
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 23-11-2010 11:58 AM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
MissyBarbie at 23-11-2010 12:18 PM (14 years ago) (f)
Well...i know how to go about it If i have any feelings for my bff... I mean i wouldnt want him to start looking at me in a diff way if eventually he doesnt feel the same way.
Posted: at 23-11-2010 12:18 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
sophiebaby at 23-11-2010 12:21 PM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: MissyBarbie on 23-11-2010 12:18 PM
Well...i know how to go about it If i have any feelings for my bff... I mean i wouldnt want him to start looking at me in a diff way if eventually he doesnt feel the same way.
What if He's not very good at understanding those signals of attraction?
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 23-11-2010 12:21 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
I've been there done that. I risked it and was turned down on the fact that "i was late"! She said, what have you been waiting for all these yrs, i found me a boyfriend now, so? We are friends till tomorrow....and she's married now.....and she still mock me badly for being coward....
My advice: if you are attracted to your friend, tell him/her on time. It doesnt break friendship. It will break friendship if you know he/she has a good relationship with another person already....
Posted: at 23-11-2010 12:26 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
sophiebaby at 23-11-2010 12:32 PM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: samboko on 23-11-2010 12:26 PM
I've been there done that. I risked it and was turned down on the fact that "i was late"! She said, what have you been waiting for all these yrs, i found me a boyfriend now, so? We are friends till tomorrow....and she's married now.....and she still mock me badly for being coward....
My advice: if you are attracted to your friend, tell him/her on time. It doesnt break friendship. It will break friendship if you know he/she has a good relationship with another person already....
What if both people are acting very much as if there is no romantic undertone whatsoever to the relationship?
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 23-11-2010 12:32 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
I've been there done that. I risked it and was turned down on the fact that "i was late"! She said, what have you been waiting for all these yrs, i found me a boyfriend now, so? We are friends till tomorrow....and she's married now.....and she still mock me badly for being coward....
My advice: if you are attracted to your friend, tell him/her on time. It doesnt break friendship. It will break friendship if you know he/she has a good relationship with another person already....
What if both people are acting very much as if there is no romantic undertone whatsoever to the relationship?
You are assuming and thats where the confusion lies. If your friend see you as his/her friend, no matter what you say/do to them they tend to overlook it.....they will correct you if you are wrong. Those are the people i call friends. Do whatcha wanna do and get it done with once and for all...ive turned a gf down be4, yet we're cool all the way.....
if you cant turn shame to joke, pls dont do it!
Posted: at 23-11-2010 12:45 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
sophiebaby at 23-11-2010 12:50 PM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: samboko on 23-11-2010 12:45 PM
Quote from: sophiebaby on 23-11-2010 12:32 PM
Quote from: samboko on 23-11-2010 12:26 PM
I've been there done that. I risked it and was turned down on the fact that "i was late"! She said, what have you been waiting for all these yrs, i found me a boyfriend now, so? We are friends till tomorrow....and she's married now.....and she still mock me badly for being coward....
My advice: if you are attracted to your friend, tell him/her on time. It doesnt break friendship. It will break friendship if you know he/she has a good relationship with another person already....
What if both people are acting very much as if there is no romantic undertone whatsoever to the relationship?
You are assuming and thats where the confusion lies. If your friend see you as his/her friend, no matter what you say/do to them they tend to overlook it.....they will correct you if you are wrong. Those are the people i call friends. Do whatcha wanna do and get it done with once and for all...ive turned a gf down be4, yet we're cool all the way.....
if you cant turn shame to joke, pls dont do it!
are u trying to say in essence that; Each time you go out on one of these "mini-dates", tell the other person freely how much you have enjoyed their company. After one or two successful mini-dates, ask the other person if they would like to do more dating, or whether they wish to remain simply friends with you.?
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 23-11-2010 12:50 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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