I met this guy sometime back when i needed help from their office, and we became friends, we talk once in a while not until now he started getting more serious, talking about his personal life and his past relationship, which i felt sorry for him. The problem now is, he is trying to own me already, he talks to me as if we are dating, he calls all the tym and stay on phone ova 1 to 2 hrs talking abt how the future is goin to be with me, before i thought it was a joke but now it's getting serious everyday. am so afraid cos i don't want the commitment and i don't love him, the problem is, i don't know how to stop him from this to avoid hurting him.
1daful Is a Blessed Child..
Posted: at 6-03-2011 01:30 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
If you don't Love him, Don't give him hope,,, start given him signs of not been interested, if possible change your Cell phone number like *deboalabi262* Suggested... Staying on the phone with him for hours is a sign of Hope to him, Communication seems to be one of the most important step in relationship, if you can cut it down, he will start thinking why and it will help him to come back to his sense, he will also be able to figure it out or ask you why... then you can make him understand that you don't want any serious relationship with him. Don't crush his heart by hitting the nail at the point immediately, take it easy and slowly.. but make him know you don't Love him to that extent he's heading to.
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Posted: at 6-03-2011 01:46 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
Dan_Fulani at 6-03-2011 01:48 AM (13 years ago) (m)
Quote from: 1daful on 6-03-2011 01:30 AM
I met this guy sometime back when i needed help from their office, and we became friends, we talk once in a while not until now he started getting more serious, talking about his personal life and his past relationship, which i felt sorry for him. The problem now is, he is trying to own me already, he talks to me as if we are dating, he calls all the tym and stay on phone ova 1 to 2 hrs talking abt how the future is goin to be with me, before i thought it was a joke but now it's getting serious everyday. am so afraid cos i don't want the commitment and i don't love him, the problem is, i don't know how to stop him from this to avoid hurting him.
Oh sister 1daful..you are having your first experience with a victim of "thunderbolt". Thunderbolt is a condition that often strike some lonely men when a lady is nice and friendly to them. They go into this fantasy world and start dreaming ....she likes ..loves...me....she will make a great girlfriend...no, a good wife..
Soon they get delusional thinking their dreams are real. Lady stop all communications with this guy. Do not worry about hurting his feelings. Think of your safety first.
dan fulani
Posted: at 6-03-2011 01:48 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
mediaexcell at 6-03-2011 01:48 AM (13 years ago) (m)
well u have to show him some signs that u re not interested in him, since hes not made his intentions known yet, u can aswell ignore his calls and give him reasons why u wont go out with him should he ask u for any outing..(but think u might love him in the future)
Posted: at 6-03-2011 01:48 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
bittersweet at 6-03-2011 08:36 AM (13 years ago) (f)
Sweetie, learn to say NO from now on!When a guy starts to behave the way that one did,and if you're not interested, grab the bull by the horns even from the day one,and you'll save both of you of future complications! In the case you are now,it's impossible to get out without hurting the dude, because he imagined a lot of things already, but the sooner you do it,the better! Good luck!
Live and let live!
Posted: at 6-03-2011 08:36 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
bittersweet at 6-03-2011 08:37 AM (13 years ago) (f)
Quote from: Dan_Fulani on 6-03-2011 01:48 AM
Quote from: 1daful on 6-03-2011 01:30 AM
I met this guy sometime back when i needed help from their office, and we became friends, we talk once in a while not until now he started getting more serious, talking about his personal life and his past relationship, which i felt sorry for him. The problem now is, he is trying to own me already, he talks to me as if we are dating, he calls all the tym and stay on phone ova 1 to 2 hrs talking abt how the future is goin to be with me, before i thought it was a joke but now it's getting serious everyday. am so afraid cos i don't want the commitment and i don't love him, the problem is, i don't know how to stop him from this to avoid hurting him.
Oh sister 1daful..you are having your first experience with a victim of "thunderbolt". Thunderbolt is a condition that often strike some lonely men when a lady is nice and friendly to them. They go into this fantasy world and start dreaming ....she likes ..loves...me....she will make a great girlfriend...no, a good wife..
Soon they get delusional thinking their dreams are real. Lady stop all communications with this guy. Do not worry about hurting his feelings. Think of your safety first.
dan fulani
Live and let live!
Posted: at 6-03-2011 08:37 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
Sweetie, learn to say NO from now on!When a guy starts to behave the way that one did,and if you're not interested, grab the bull by the horns even from the day one,and you'll save both of you of future complications! In the case you are now,it's impossible to get out without hurting the dude, because he imagined a lot of things already, but the sooner you do it,the better! Good luck!
thanks
1daful Is a Blessed Child..
Posted: at 6-03-2011 03:53 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac