Extended family gave an Ultimatum "Get Married or Else..." Part 2 (Page 2)

maybe they girl na wowo dats y her elders are forcing her to get married
due to her light brain she wouldn't understand.
her elders should leave her alone cos she will coming back begging them to find anyhow man for her
by then it will be too late.

na she sabi

People, I hope you remember my previous post (Extended family gives an Ultimatum "Get Married or Else..."). Pls bear with me cos its a little long. Just in case u don't I have the link pasted here underneath:


http://www.naijapals.com/modules/naijapals/relationships-romance/extended-family-gives-an-ultimatum-'get-married-or-else-'/

The lady in question saw all ur posts and wants to thank a couple of people that gave her worthwhile advise and comments. She did say I should let u guys know that she is aware of how difficult it will be to arrive at a compromise cos of the general African/Nigerian mentality, but she say this is her life that is to be decided. She also said someone in the forum asked if she had dated before to answer that she had some years ago. She dated a Nigerian briefly in the UK for 5 months. She loved him so much until he proposed. They started wedding plans but then she found out he kept trying to turn her in2 a house wife, kept trying 2 discourage her from finishing her law degree so just before she graduated she called off the wedding (reason she gave was due to incompatibility).

The whole story though has taken a dramatic turn of events. The new situation is that, she was invited by the extended family to lay her case. This was after she rejected the 3 men the family brought 4 her. She went quietly to the gathering and did not speak all through the event. When they finally called her to speak, after saying all they had 2 against her.
She started by saying something close to " my elders, uncles, Parents, brothers, my family. I have always been docile, I listen to elders talk and I follow advise. I have never raised my voice against my seniors, I have always taken care of my parents. All these I have done cos I knew it was my duty 2 do it. The matter at hand, the matter that we are here 4 is something that concerns me, I am here given an ultimatum 2 marry someone I don't know, I don't even know how he smells. The ultimatum also includes my being ostracized from my own family if I refuse. My answers, is NO.
I will not be blackmailed 2 marry someone I don't know, haven't even seen and don't know if I'll like him. In order 2 stress how serious I am on this issue, I will with immediate effect move out of the house I stay with my parents (the house I renovated) and get a place of my own. I will definitely go ahead with my education, cos marrying 4 me means nothing. Marriage holds no thrill 4 me, and so I will not bother. If at the end of the day I require a child, I do know how to get one, but that would be my decision and not my family.
If my family decides 2 go ahead and ostracize me then so be it cos my mind if made up. I have already gotten a place and I will be leaving the country in a few weeks 4 my PhD.

The whole place was in uproar after she finished her statement but she just walked out.....she said " with her decision intact"
I told her it was a little selfish but what do u guys think?
Comments pls