No one can say what the whole future will be. I know a girl who had the very same situation you're in, she is white dating a Nigeria guy,her family disapprove thier relationship,she turn them down and move on with her man they have 2kids... i was in thier house sunday all i see is LOVE i was really happy for them... Why does't your family approve? it's strictly because of the race issue? If that's the case then don't worry about what they think. If they don't approve because of who he is in general (personality etc.) then maybe you should hear them out.. Yes that is a tough choice, but there are a few issues here to consider
If this guy is of good character and your parents are prejudice of him because he is white, then I think you need to take a stand against this form of hate and discrimination that exists in society. Your family needs to be confronted with their racism and if you back down, they may never resolve this flaw within themselves.
We have to stand against hatred and bigotry if we ever want to see this world change to see all people treated with the dignity and respect they deserve. I know this is your family we’re talking about, but it doesn’t justify their behavior. They are trying to control you and you are an adult, free to make your own choices with your life.
I think that they will back down once they realize you love this guy and are not going to be manipulated by them. I’m sure they love you and don’t want to lose you so in time they’ll probably come around. Just be the bigger person and keep the doors of communication open even during the rough patch.
So the lessons to learn here are to always stand up for what you believe in and people who are being mistreated as well as never let anyone manipulate or control you. I know you’ll do the right thing and your family will learn how to be better people through your example. by the way i'm in Interracial marriage too
my husband is canadian.
All the best!
Posted: at 25-10-2011 09:31 AM (12 years ago) | Upcoming |
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