It's pretty common for guys to disappear after sex. I hear it a lot. There are a number of reasons for this, but mainly it boils down to really not having much to do with the fact that he just had sex with you. Of course there are guys out there that are only looking to score, but it's up to you to learn to distinguish the difference. Guys can tell why you have sex with them. If you are doing it just to please him, he senses it. This spells desperation to him. A guy would rather you have sex because you wanted to. Otherwise he feels as if it's some ploy to trap him. Often women start putting off the vibe that they think they are now in a relationship. Sex does not equal a relationship. If the TRUTH be told, he was probably going to disappear if you slept with him or not. Many are under the belief that guys see them as easy when they sleep with them to soon. There may be some truth to this, but if the guy is into you to start with, it's not going to matter. Where women screw up with this is that once they sleep with a guy, they are ready to now invest their hearts. This is where the easy comes into play in reality. A man likes to work for your heart. If you give it away quickly, he doesn't see it's value. He thinks he isn't anything special.
If a guy disappears after you have had sex, it's one of two/three things.
1. He wasn't that into you in the first place. It's really no one to blame here. We can't help who we are or aren't into. I imagine you too have felt like disappearing on a guy after you had sex. Maybe you did it in a moment of weakness and you really didn't like the guy. Maybe you were drunk, who knows, but it happens. We all do it or have done it (YES' be Sincere). That is one reason why he disappeared.
2. The second reason is how you behave afterwards. If you start acting like a girlfriend before he has made that move, it's a turn off. If you got all emotional, well you made him feel guilty. Guilt and sex don't go together. If you expect it to mean something special to him, he will sense it. Most men don't see sex as something special, at least not in the early dating stage.
3. Then of course there is the chance that you aren't that great in bed. If you were more focused on pleasing him and not focused on allowing him to please you, this is not good. Men feel good when they make you feel good. Picture Tarzan beating his chest and you will get the idea.
BE WISE!!!
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 30-07-2012 10:07 AM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
Emmandazie at 30-07-2012 10:16 AM (12 years ago) (m)
Let them that dissappear stop dissappearing!
Posted: at 30-07-2012 10:16 AM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
The theory has already menssion some reasons why some guys and some girls may disappear.... and that also aplicable with some ladies with chains of disire who are not realy ready for a strong relationship becouse of their disire for material things..... it happons and we all need to be careful,whatever we come across in life may stnigs us if we realy dont understand the laws guiding human approch and charaters.
Posted: at 30-07-2012 10:53 AM (12 years ago) | Newbie
sophiebaby at 30-07-2012 10:58 AM (12 years ago) (f)
Quote from: emyriz on 30-07-2012 10:53 AM
The theory has already menssion some reasons why some guys and some girls may disappear.... and that also aplicable with some ladies with chains of disire who are not realy ready for a strong relationship becouse of their disire for material things..... it happons and we all need to be careful,whatever we come across in life may stnigs us if we realy dont understand the laws guiding human approch and charaters.
Interestingly enough, even guys themselves often don’t know what they want from the woman they are seeing. Their vision might be blurred by a strong lust to the degree where they themselves don’t know what they want until after they satisify their segxwal urges. a guy who thinks that he is interested in dating a certain woman, might change his mind immediately after having sex with her, realizing that he wants nothing else from her but what he just received again a one-night stand, but the one that he didn’t plan to have. It can be painful and unfair to women, but he doesn’t really have a control over that.
Life is 2short to wake up in the morning with regrets. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS*SOPHIEBABY* :*
Posted: at 30-07-2012 10:58 AM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
Eddysafe at 30-07-2012 11:34 AM (12 years ago) (m)
Quote from: sophiebaby on 30-07-2012 10:58 AM
Interestingly enough, even guys themselves often don’t know what they want from the woman they are seeing. Their vision might be blurred by a strong lust to the degree where they themselves don’t know what they want until after they satisify their segxwal urges. a guy who thinks that he is interested in dating a certain woman, might change his mind immediately after having sex with her, realizing that he wants nothing else from her but what he just received again a one-night stand, but the one that he didn’t plan to have. It can be painful and unfair to women, but he doesn’t really have a control over that.
What do you expect when a lady thinks giving in to segxwal demand would secure her a place in a guy's heart and thereafter starts nagging and choking the guy up with demands and ownership stuffs? Ladies should understand that a guy looking for a lasting relationship would not pressure her for sex and if she 'bribe' him with sex when they barely knew each other, she is DOOMED. On the other hand, a guy who pressure a lady for sex has shown what he wanted, so why hunt in an already conquered territory? My submission is that a lady is the architect, to a very large extent, of whatever happens to a relationship after sex is given and taken.
Posted: at 30-07-2012 11:34 AM (12 years ago) | Newbie
?? 
whats ur own view about the me who get away just like that 
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