Love Torn Apart... I need help (Page 10)

I already replied to dis on d confession page, but now dat av read ur full story, i fill lk crying coz its so tourching. U no wat? I know its not easy but delete her completely 4rm ur mind... Now face ur life squarely, its part of ur experience so in future relationships u'll know better. Mark my words: dat guy would eventually dump her, she would then think about d wa. Dont ever, i repeat EVER try taking her back. U're so soft-hrtd. God would bless u with ur own wife, just b patient.

Posted: at 2-08-2012 09:59 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

@monye, i no fit fall in love now, i've being through it a lot of times, dats y e dey pain me 4 dis guy. He too soft n d girl take am 4 granted

Posted: at 2-08-2012 10:15 PM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

@OP, for your peace of mind, I suggest you adopt a zero bullshit tolerance when it comes to girls, giving them no quater until they PROVE they want to be with you.

I read your story and I see your actions are governed far too much by emotions, and a negligible amount of logic.
As a man, it should be the other way round.

Some pointers for you going forward:

- Respect your time
   Time is an unrenewable resource. A thing you cannot get back. At a point in your life, that ish becomes more precious than gold even. So do not waste it on shady, fruitless and selfish individuals who give you nothing but pain.

- Stop with the "No Problem"s
   It's a VERY big problem if a girl agrees with you that she will do something and then FAILS. If it was you on the other end of that interaction, you can be assured that it won't be a case of "No problem". Make it a big deal as much as you need to.  
If a child repeatedly does something wrong, do you tell it "No problem" all the time?

- Don't always be the one to get in touch
    NEVER phone/text a girl any more than she does you. If you feel that mugu gene creeping up on you to call/text her 5 times without her having the respect to hit you back, it just means you need to have a lot more girls on your phone. Hit the lounges or parties and freshen up your phonebook with new and far-more interesting things. Your attention must be celebrated & appreciated....NOT tolerated.

- Don't be so eager to respond when she finally does
     Don't be that dog that instantly starts licking his mistresses fingers the second she deems it fit to extend them to him.
Obviously she feels hungry for your attention if she out of the blue remembered to contact you now. Would be best to starve her some more. Let her texts sit for a while. Let her rings go straight to voicemail. Besides, you have other more important things doing (don't you?).

- Cut the "I can't live without you" speeches
   This is just for you personally, cuz it seems your type may let it get to your head given your sensitive nature and you actually start BELIEVING that ish. EVERY girl is expendible if she cannot keep to certain boundaries.

- Keep an eye out for BALANCE
   If you are the only person reaching out and trying and buying gifts in a relationship, then that really isn't a relationship at all then is it? It's slavery. Are you a slave?   Make sure the other person is as invested in it as you are. People are generally less likely to take things seriously if they got it all for free without any stress. But they will take something serious that they too have invested in considerably.

- Generally speaking, Respect yourself
No self-respecting man would have allowed anyone take them through 1/16 of what you report this silly she-thing put you through.
Feel free to ignore tramps you intend on having nothing to do with, but if you intend on making someone your long-term wahala, she has to know the rules and understand the consequences for breaking them.

Posted: at 2-08-2012 10:44 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie

 

Posted: at 3-08-2012 11:37 AM (11 years ago) | Hero

@dickman what did u see?

Posted: at 4-08-2012 11:51 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac

just forget about it and move on he or she is not worth it

Posted: at 4-08-2012 10:31 PM (11 years ago) | Newbie

ok na..

Posted: at 7-08-2012 08:22 AM (11 years ago) | Addicted Hero