Are Kindness and Tenderness Signs of Weakness? "If I cry in movies people will think I’m weak." "If I’m kind, people will take advantage of me." "If I'm gentle, people will see me as weak instead of powerful." "Is Being emotional a sign of weakness?."
It is always sad to me when I hear people say this. I can easily identify with them, as I was also brought to believe that kindness, tenderness, and deep feelings were signs of weakness. Is it strength or weakness to have your heart open, rather than closed and protected against your fears of rejection? Is it a sign of personal power or a sign of weakness when you put up walls of anger and judgment to protect yourself from being taken advantage of?
Please advise me?
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Posted: at 22-02-2013 12:23 PM (12 years ago) | Addicted Hero
destinlily at 22-02-2013 03:47 PM (12 years ago) (m)
thanks @50cent 4 this topic, people do take advantage of kindness and tenderness, just imergen my own junior brother i use my hard earn money to plan is life give him good advice that made him who he is today,he look into my eyes and told me he kick away every thing that i have don 4 him and insult me along with it, i was angry and told him to leave my house he simply pick up is things and tell me that he know me that i will be the one to come and look 4 him, so i vow never to find him and that i did and i am very happy i was able to stand by my word ,i believe this will make him to see me as is senior brother and know my value too, as he stands on is own, is good to be strong hearted some times becouse people are taking too much advantage of meakness and kindness, i have been there i know what i am saying,...
Posted: at 22-02-2013 03:47 PM (12 years ago) | Upcoming
donhenry4uall at 22-02-2013 04:35 PM (12 years ago) (m)
If you have those two attributes, then rejoice brother because you have been able to keep your heart where it should be, i grew up in Owerri where kindness is measured by how much you can bring, i nearly allowed it to take a better part of me, but trust me, God helped me to understand that i have got some thing which is not seen every where. My guy, for every kindness you show, the reward awaits you here on earth and will not pass you. I am a testimony to that, imagine getting a job in a telecom through some body i ran into and may never see again, the world will try to change that unique aspect of you, i beg you on my knees, don't give up, it will make you proud.
Posted: at 22-02-2013 04:35 PM (12 years ago) | Newbie
trolling at 22-02-2013 09:35 PM (12 years ago) (m)
Is it a sign of personal power or a sign of weakness when you put up walls of anger and judgment to protect yourself from being taken advantage of? That is called a facade,its a defense mechanism in a way to protect one's heart or image but its also a form of pretense.It's a veil people put over their face so people wont be able to figure out their emotions,sometimes they even liar when people ask them about their welfare,they'll say they are great and all that stuff when they are hurting deep down,depressed or bored.if something hurts you dont bottle it in just express it through tears in your private or share it with someone who cares about you who would help heal and strenghten you.A woman is the weaker vessel and she needs a real/strong man or even true friends to strenghten her but they like faking the funk to hide their emotions because they dont want people to see their weakness.There's a reason why women fake being a tomboy or a stud,dem kind of women are the emotionally weak ones,its all a front,its a facade.
Posted: at 22-02-2013 09:35 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac
trolling at 22-02-2013 09:41 PM (12 years ago) (m)
kindness and tenderness are not sign of weakness but being emotional/sensual is weakness,men and women inheried this trait or attribute from Adam's flesh,and the woman that is taken out of a "Man" is also "strong" as him.
Posted: at 22-02-2013 09:41 PM (12 years ago) | Gistmaniac