Why Long Distance Relationship Will Never Ever Work (Except When They Do)

Date: 04-09-2014 10:27 am (9 years ago) | Author: Bayo Nelson
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In real life, long-distance relationships don't work. The reason that they don't work is that, like Jamie and Aurelia's relationship, they are a fantasy. Long-distance relationships often masquerade as real relationships. They can be passionate, intense and loving. But what they can't be is battle-tested. Developed romantic relationships require commitment, contact with reality, but most of all they require action. Because the majority of the time spent together in long-distance relationships is precious, most problems are ignored. As a result, long-distance relationships usually exist in a suspended "honeymoon state," where everything is shiny and happy but devoid of the reality that is necessary to determine if the relationship will ultimately sink or swim. This is why many long-distance relationships fail.

There are some exceptions to the rule. Let's consider these:

Relationships that are forced to become long-distance for a defined period of time (e.g., because of time-limited school, economic or military commitments) generally do not fall into the fantasy trap because they are actually very much based in the realities and practicalities of life, these types of relationships thrive.

From  experience, successful long-distance relationships appear to have four factors in common:

1. Prioritization
When you consciously prioritize your long-distance partner above nearly all of your local social commitments, you will be less likely to resent the effort required to make the relationship work.

2. Commitment
Commit to spending more than just weekends together. The more time you spend the greater, the chance to deepen the bonds between you and the more opportunity you have to really get to know each other.

3. Sharing
If you are in a long-distance relationship, make sure that you don't just spend the time you have together alone. Share your social/family worlds with each other. We are all part of communities. When we cut our partners off from our communities they don't really get to know who we are.

4. Planning
If you are serious about the relationship begin planning for a time (in the not to distant future) when the relationship will no longer be long-distance but when the two of you will be together in the same place. This will allow the relationship to have some forward movement so that it doesn't exist in a suspended state for too long.

If you are currently in a long-distance relationship or are considering getting into one, I strongly encourage you to consider how to apply these elements to your relationship. If you do, you and your love just might end up like Jamie and Aurelia -- happily ever after (sigh).


Posted: at 4-09-2014 10:27 AM (9 years ago) | Addicted Hero
- bankadetoun at 4-09-2014 10:49 AM (9 years ago)
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hmmmmmmm
Posted: at 4-09-2014 10:49 AM (9 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Wysetots at 4-09-2014 11:04 AM (9 years ago)
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Correct
Posted: at 4-09-2014 11:04 AM (9 years ago) | Hero
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- Iyajison at 4-09-2014 11:49 AM (9 years ago)
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I see... Roll Eyes
Posted: at 4-09-2014 11:49 AM (9 years ago) | Newbie
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- schmit at 4-09-2014 11:55 AM (9 years ago)
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But some dey work
Posted: at 4-09-2014 11:55 AM (9 years ago) | Hero
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- HOPEA23 at 4-09-2014 12:06 PM (9 years ago)
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It depends

Posted: at 4-09-2014 12:06 PM (9 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- morgrawl231 at 4-09-2014 12:12 PM (9 years ago)
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Posted: at 4-09-2014 12:12 PM (9 years ago) | Hero
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- dickman2 at 4-09-2014 12:38 PM (9 years ago)
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 Lips Sealed Lips Sealed Lips Sealed Lips Sealed Lips Sealed
Posted: at 4-09-2014 12:38 PM (9 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- DrSoba at 4-09-2014 01:37 PM (9 years ago)
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Ok
Posted: at 4-09-2014 01:37 PM (9 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- dareper at 4-09-2014 03:23 PM (9 years ago)
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Kinda
Posted: at 4-09-2014 03:23 PM (9 years ago) | Hero
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- seveneleven at 4-09-2014 03:28 PM (9 years ago)
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lie joor
Posted: at 4-09-2014 03:28 PM (9 years ago) | Upcoming
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- beneno at 4-09-2014 03:28 PM (9 years ago)
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 Roll Eyes  Roll Eyes  Roll Eyes  Roll Eyes
Posted: at 4-09-2014 03:28 PM (9 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- petmanuel4loura at 4-09-2014 04:17 PM (9 years ago)
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great
Posted: at 4-09-2014 04:17 PM (9 years ago) | Upcoming
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- deboalabi262 at 4-09-2014 04:22 PM (9 years ago)
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Love can surmount any distance/circumstances.... Huh?

Posted: at 4-09-2014 04:22 PM (9 years ago) | Hero
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- iamDonc at 4-09-2014 05:16 PM (9 years ago)
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Story!!!
Posted: at 4-09-2014 05:16 PM (9 years ago) | Upcoming
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- paulohking at 4-09-2014 05:21 PM (9 years ago)
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OK  ....
Posted: at 4-09-2014 05:21 PM (9 years ago) | Hero
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- christianity at 4-09-2014 06:11 PM (9 years ago)
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poster,dats ur own point of view.
Posted: at 4-09-2014 06:11 PM (9 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- daveobahon at 4-09-2014 08:04 PM (9 years ago)
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ur opinion
Posted: at 4-09-2014 08:04 PM (9 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Ritabrenice at 5-09-2014 10:58 AM (9 years ago)
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Love doesn't measure d distance
Posted: at 5-09-2014 10:58 AM (9 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- osamabinladin at 15-09-2014 05:22 AM (9 years ago)
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Noted !
Posted: at 15-09-2014 05:22 AM (9 years ago) | Hero
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