We Cannot Marry Because My Grandmother & His Mother Are From Same kindred

Date: 01-03-2015 2:56 pm (7 years ago) | Author: chisom
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- at 1-03-2015 02:56 PM (7 years ago)
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Good day my brothers and sisters



please i need your advice

My fiance and i got engaged last December. he is a truly amazing man and posseses all the good qualities of a husband. he is from Enugu state mgbowo village and im from Anambra state.

normal family investigations were conducted. it was found that his mother and my maternal grandmother are from the same family/kindred. the basis of our affinity is that we share a common ancestry so the tradition according to the elderly women say that my fiance and I are forbidden to marry, that if we have kids they will die. our alternative is to do a ritual to break our so called blood link.  the elders refuse to listen to us despite the fact that im not from my fiances village and the fact that my mother married outside of mgbowo village

my fiance and i are christians and will not partake in the ritual. iv told my pastor and he said he sees no close link between us that we can go ahead and marry because even in the bible the list of forbidden relationships among family members does not include my fiance and i . my parents advise i end things with him but i believe this man is my God sent husband and we are ready to fight this. if we were close cousins i would understand but our family tie is far. my theory is, if something is forbidden there should be no alternative. i need advice

Posted: at 1-03-2015 02:56 PM (7 years ago) | Newbie
- TABONTE at 1-03-2015 05:30 PM (7 years ago)
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I advice you look for another man except you are too old for the wait. A less controversial marraige will yeild more joy than a controversial one
Posted: at 1-03-2015 05:30 PM (7 years ago) | Upcoming
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- victorstic1 at 1-03-2015 09:07 PM (7 years ago)
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GO BACK TO UR VILLAGE AND TELL THEM I ASK U TO MARRY AND NOTHING WILL HAPPEN TO UR CHILDREN THEY SHALL NOT DIE BUT LIVE
Posted: at 1-03-2015 09:07 PM (7 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- deray4real at 1-03-2015 09:38 PM (7 years ago)
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respect d traditional
Posted: at 1-03-2015 09:38 PM (7 years ago) | Newbie
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- DRraze at 1-03-2015 09:43 PM (7 years ago)
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LIES!
Posted: at 1-03-2015 09:43 PM (7 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Nwanaku at 1-03-2015 10:03 PM (7 years ago)
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Urs iz even a small case while mine iz my grandmother n ha grandmother is from d same kindred still tradition didn't permit us to marry. So my advice iz u guys shud go ur separate ways
Posted: at 1-03-2015 10:03 PM (7 years ago) | Upcoming
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- chealseafc at 1-03-2015 10:13 PM (7 years ago)
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Quote from: TABONTE on  1-03-2015 05:30 PM
I advice you look for another man except you are too old for the wait. A less controversial marriage will yield more joy than a controversial one

i wish she will listen to your advise. but children of nowadays na wa.
Posted: at 1-03-2015 10:13 PM (7 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Soso356 at 1-03-2015 10:35 PM (7 years ago)
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My dear obedient is better than sacrifice.
Posted: at 1-03-2015 10:35 PM (7 years ago) | Newbie
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- dickman2 at 1-03-2015 11:05 PM (7 years ago)
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ok..forget that and go grab another man..anyway men no dey market  now...but just try....try no mean say na to go grab okada man...just grab something..anything man...but not  ajanni ..
Posted: at 1-03-2015 11:05 PM (7 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- dickman2 at 1-03-2015 11:07 PM (7 years ago)
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she dey miss the dick..
Posted: at 1-03-2015 11:07 PM (7 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- babafero at 1-03-2015 11:25 PM (7 years ago)
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Marry Him... No PROBLEM..
Posted: at 1-03-2015 11:25 PM (7 years ago) | Upcoming
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- walexyta at 1-03-2015 11:50 PM (7 years ago)
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 Cool Cool Cool Cool Cool Cool Cool
Posted: at 1-03-2015 11:50 PM (7 years ago) | Newbie
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- peter37 at 2-03-2015 12:26 AM (7 years ago)
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Please look for another man and God will provide you new lovely husband.
Do not create everlasting problem for yourself or generation to come.
Truth is bitter but try to understand.
Peace be with you Amen.
Posted: at 2-03-2015 12:26 AM (7 years ago) | Newbie
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- beneno at 2-03-2015 02:19 AM (7 years ago)
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 Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes Roll Eyes
Posted: at 2-03-2015 02:19 AM (7 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- chigozieduru at 2-03-2015 06:24 AM (7 years ago)
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my dear sister ,as you said you are a christian,read the book for leviticus chapter 20 vs 1 - 27,you get your answer from there
Posted: at 2-03-2015 06:24 AM (7 years ago) | Newbie
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- paulsmit at 2-03-2015 07:02 AM (7 years ago)
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I have heard stories like this. In facts, it happened to one of my close nephew, but they decided to do the traditional ceremony to untie the link according to custom and it works.  The traditional is normally simple that involve a white chickens. My nephew and his wife has been living together today and had 5 grown children.  They are a very good Christians too, but they obey their parents and did the traditional custom according to their parents to order to marry each other. 
Posted: at 2-03-2015 07:02 AM (7 years ago) | Upcoming
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- paulsmit at 2-03-2015 07:06 AM (7 years ago)
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So if you two really want to marry each other, just obey your parents and do the traditional custom according to them and proceed with your marriage.  It will not prevent you from being a christian that you are. Just give cesser what bring to cesser and God what brings to God and you are good.
Posted: at 2-03-2015 07:06 AM (7 years ago) | Upcoming
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- abbey999 at 2-03-2015 07:22 AM (7 years ago)
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listen to the word of the elders because they knows more than you did
Posted: at 2-03-2015 07:22 AM (7 years ago) | Newbie
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- nametalkam at 2-03-2015 08:18 AM (7 years ago)
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What sort of stupid ritual or evil tradition is that, dont they realize that everyone came from Adam and Eve? so technically everybody in this world is brothers and sisters depends on how you look at it. Anyway, your call, but surely all the ritual and dont marry thing sounds wrong in so many ways.

Posted: at 2-03-2015 08:18 AM (7 years ago) | Hero
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- Ecto at 2-03-2015 08:23 AM (7 years ago)
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Then is the way it is. Reroute
Posted: at 2-03-2015 08:23 AM (7 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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