naija spinsters visit many prayer
houses to seek spiritual guide and
advice just to be a mrs and while so
many will quickly come out to say
they are unperturbed,the truth is
that deep inside of them they hope
that they just find the “right man”
fast enough and start raising a
family before reaching their
menopause age.
Many ladies do not need prayer and
fasting and in most cases,there is no
spiritual attack from anywhere but these ladies are their
own pitfalls and the simple truth is that 90% of unmarried
ladies in their late 20s and 30s have no business still
remaining single.
Considering the present global socio economy siituations
expecially in a country like ours,here are 5 very vital
questions to ask yourself as a lady and the more you give a
NO to each of these 5 questions the harder it may be for
you to get a man to marry you.
1.Can you start a life with a man in one room ?:
Many ladies have boyfriends who live in this type of
apartment and infact they have spent some nights with him
in that same one room apartment and the guy has lost
count of how many times he has scr*wd you in any
imaginable ways but when it comes to marriage you will
foolishly say you can’t marry into one room apartment.
Sorry is your second name and i strongly pity you. Most
men who own mansions today started their lives in one
room so if you are ok being scr*wd in one room but you
can not marry same man living in one room then you are
not only clueless but foolish and be ready to be dumped
after he has really had you to his fullness.
2.Can you marry a struggling man who has no regular
job?:
Oh i can imagine some ladies answering LAI! LAI!,MBA
NUNU! GOD FORBID and so on to this particular question
but please let me ask you”why date a struggling guy or
allow him srw you at will yet cant marry him?” strange and
foolish i must say.
It is important to know that as long as that man is not
lazy,his break through will come and must come.How many
ladies have given up an affair because they feel the guy has
no job just to realize a year latter that he is gainfully
employed or he has started a profitable business and they
start feeling bad for not being patient enough.Ok what is
even the guaranty that the ones who have good jobs or
business can not experience a crazy turn around? many
ladies have lost their chance with a vibrant vision driven
man just because they are waiting to say yes to a man who
has a job rather than for them to also find something doing
that will make them financially independent while the guy
has enough space to pursue his dreams.Believe it or not
95% of the rich or successful guys you see today have
passed through a struggling phase.
3.Can you have a very low budget wedding?:
Now i want every reasonable lady reading this to
understand that marital union and marriage ceremony are
2 different things.
Most times when you hear words like “my guy is not ready
yet for marriage” what this simply implies is that the guy is
NOT READY FOR A BIG MARRIAGE CEREMONY and not
that he is not mentally,psychologically and emotionally
ready but because our young ladies are overwhelmed with
that one day celebration,they will never ever plan any
wedding with a man who does not have the money to give
them a flamboyant wedding and this is one major reasons
why many ladies remain single for a very long time.Have
you looked around to see many graduates still struggling in
their 30s with no assurance that a job or business will come
up tomorrow? Are you among the myopic ladies who get
carried away by a flamboyant wedding ceremony rich
parents organize for their children?
Who says you can’t have a marriage ceremony with
N50,000 budget where a man pays the bride price and
proceed to the registry with you and when the money starts
coming in you two can do another big time wedding
ceremony so why put yourself in bondage of having a
compulsory big time wedding before you can be a mrs?
Why are you giving that guy a good reason to continue
using you,saying he is not ready for marriage ceremony but
doing all the imaginable things a man will do to a wife on
you.For my igbo sisters i will advice you to appeal to the
elders at home to understand that the fact that few of you
are lucky to have a guy pay so much or spend so much on a
marriage ceremony against all odds does not erase the fact
that countless number of Igbo girls are been courted but
not married in a timely manner due to the high expenses
involved.
4.Can you marry a man who loves you but is not your
preferred spec?:
Yes there is nothing absolutely wrong in having a picture of
who you want and while some ladies are very fortunate to
find such,many have lived in a fantasy world hoping to
meet that man who has those qualities they dream of just
to wait and wait until they become old waiting for an “ideal
man”
In marriage there is nothing like a bad or good choice
neither do we have an ideal or non ideal man but its about
your choice.Many ladies want a tall,cute,rich.GOD
fearing,romantic guy and its so amazing how some ladies
will never shift ground and when that short caring and
loving guy comes their way they hush him and start running
after a prince charming that feels nada for them,what a
shame.Stop having this myopic belief that there is an ideal
man out there,no man has it all and all you need to look
out for is a man who truly desires and deserves you. If you
like keep waiting and screening until you become the object
of screening yourself. Be wise.
5.Can you marry a man with a wide age gap to you:
This is one of the most dangerous mistakes many ladies
make. For crying out loud, except a lady just wants to play
around,i do not see why a teenage girl will be dating a
fellow teenager or a lady in her early twenties will be dating
a guy of just a year or two older than her because when
she eventually becomes ripe for marriage, in most cases
this guy is still jumping around and fulfilling his segxwal
fantasies.
Yes age is nothing but a number but in most cases, ladies
who date or court guys with wide age gaps like 8years or
more tend to end up as a wife to the guy while most ladies
who at their young ages started an affair with guys of close
age proximity are usually left heart broken latter in life
because most guys in the 20s are probably still playing
around and not even psychologically ready for marital
union.So when i hear a 23 year old lady telling a guy in his
30s that he is too old for her i just laugh at her ignorance. If you are a teenager reading this or a lady in your early
twenties,i will advice that except you just want to play
around,you should date or court guys with wide age gap to
avoid had i known. YES THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS to this but
most times my assertion holds true.
Lol, not actually as it appears, but hope this
write up make sense?
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