A close friend of mine who is African American just got engaged last week to her boyfriend who is Nigerian. She is very concerned that his parents will not receive her very well because she is no longer a virgin. She lost her virginity at the age of 30 to the guy that she was dating at the time. Since then the only other person that she has slept with is her fiance. Please if some one could shed some light in regards to marital customs within the Nigerian culture. Is my friend considered to be not worthy of marriage because she is no longer a virgin? Please somebody respond, because she is driving us crazy!
Posted: at 19-04-2010 08:59 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie
is the man complaining?..if no tell her to stop botherly herself...moreover not every married women enter or get marry as a virgin..some were already disvirgin slept with plentyof men before they got married.....
LOVE COMES TO THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN IT...LET TALK ABOUT LOVE.
Posted: at 19-04-2010 09:04 PM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
moneyinbrakemi at 19-04-2010 09:06 PM (15 years ago) (m)
Quote from: HOPEA23 on 19-04-2010 09:04 PM
is the man complaining?..if no tell her to stop botherly herself...moreover not every married women enter or get marry as a virgin..some were already disvirgin slept with plentyof men before they got married.....
I tire O...If he is not complaining why is she bothering herself... Goodnight Lovely Hope
Posted: at 19-04-2010 09:06 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
is the man complaining?..if no tell her to stop botherly herself...moreover not every married women enter or get marry as a virgin..some were already disvirgin slept with plentyof men before they got married.....
I tire O...If he is not complaining why is she bothering herself... Goodnight Lovely Hope
a yea good nite
LOVE COMES TO THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN IT...LET TALK ABOUT LOVE.
Posted: at 19-04-2010 09:09 PM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
savvybap at 19-04-2010 09:12 PM (15 years ago) (f)
Quote from: savvybap on 19-04-2010 08:59 PM
A close friend of mine who is African American just got engaged last week to her boyfriend who is Nigerian. She is very concerned that his parents will not receive her very well because she is no longer a virgin. She lost her virginity at the age of 30 to the guy that she was dating at the time. Since then the only other person that she has slept with is her fiance. Please if some one could shed some light in regards to marital customs within the Nigerian culture. Is my friend considered to be not worthy of marriage because she is no longer a virgin? Please somebody respond, because she is driving us crazy! What she wants to know is , is virginity strongly encouraged within the Nigerian culture in 2010 even if the women is older?
Posted: at 19-04-2010 09:12 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie
If d loss of her virginity is her main source worry....Then its no trouble at all... Diz dayz in Nigeria,i rily dont fink much emphasis is placed on gurlz bein virgins b4 dey get married,anylonger...
Posted: at 19-04-2010 09:18 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
ksurrina at 19-04-2010 09:22 PM (15 years ago) (f)
Writer is she your friend or you are the individual. Anyway what does being a virgin has to do with the marriage and his parents. Just make sure that the man love you and that he is not looking for someone to rescue him.
Godly WISDOM is to Fear God. His UNDERSTANDING is to resist the devil.
Posted: at 19-04-2010 09:22 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Do Naija parents give a hoot about out virginity? As long as she can bear grandkids for them and she loves their son I don't think there's a problem here. Besides this woman U speak of has been with just one other person @30 and she was involved with him. She needs not fear.
But what part of Naija is the guy from sha?
Posted: at 20-04-2010 08:42 AM (15 years ago) | Hero
kudos 2 ha 4 kipin haself dat long.I tink it's guilt...she must b tinkin 'l was dis close' 2 getin married as a virgin.No kwalms though,she shuldn't b so workd up.
Posted: at 20-04-2010 10:13 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
Bazemaster at 20-04-2010 10:15 AM (15 years ago) (m)
wetin concern me for this matter?
I report from ma BAZEHOOD, niggaz feeling ma BAZESWAG 'cos it's hooded like my nigga HOODEDSWAG coming from BAZESQUAD in da BAZESTUDIOS UNITED.... I AM BAZEMASTER
Posted: at 20-04-2010 10:15 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac