Hi, i am going to Nigeria in may and am wondering what to bring for the family... i already bought plenty of sweets for the kids, but i really don't know what shall i get mor my brother in law (never met him yet, only talked on the phone), sister and mother in law (i have met both of them) and of course my husbands dad, i haven't met him nor talked to him yet. Is just something to show i was thinkin of them...does anyone have a good idea? thanks for ur help -Ifufe-
Posted: at 24-04-2010 05:04 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie
ksurrina at 25-04-2010 02:45 AM (15 years ago) (f)
You brought sweets for the kids. What you leaving them with bad teeth lmao lmao. Why not purchase educational materials like books, etc. Give to the children and leave the in laws out of it. Anyway that is always my focus I look out for the children in my spouse life. I give the parents a pocket money. The sisters and brothers I took them to KFC when am about to leave them. That's what I do but the children are always my focus and I always give educational tools.
Godly WISDOM is to Fear God. His UNDERSTANDING is to resist the devil.
Posted: at 25-04-2010 02:45 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
You bought sweets for naija children? Sorry for you. Get them lots of clothes, even if they're fairly used, get some perfumes for your sister and mother inlaw, then get your father inlaw some shirts and a walking stick. Make sure the perfumes are well packaged, and buy them lots of irish spring soaps (if you're coming from the US) to give to other relations. You can also get handbags for the ladies. If you give those kids only sweets......
Hey, I didnt mean to say that......slip of tongue
Posted: at 25-04-2010 04:29 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
here's what happened: last time i went, my husband went to the market the following day to buy chocolate, coz i didn't bring any.when i asked him why, he said its a normal thing for visitors to bring sweets, anything to share...so he did and said it was from me! i was very ashamed as i asked him what to bring and he said oh dnt worry nothing.so now i am really confused! pls what is spring soap? am from germany.
Posted: at 25-04-2010 07:51 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie
Just get them small gift items like towels, shaving sticks, small handbags, etc for the extended family, cos those ones dont really need much from you, except that they'll be bothering your husband for money. The sweets might also come in handy for them. You have a lot of work to do, cos in naija, the family consists of the nuclear, extended families and all the kindred.
Hey, I didnt mean to say that......slip of tongue
Posted: at 25-04-2010 08:38 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
myragonza at 25-04-2010 03:01 PM (15 years ago) (f)
Quote from: ifufe on 24-04-2010 05:04 PM
Hi, i am going to Nigeria in may and am wondering what to bring for the family... i already bought plenty of sweets for the kids, but i really don't know what shall i get mor my brother in law (never met him yet, only talked on the phone), sister and mother in law (i have met both of them) and of course my husbands dad, i haven't met him nor talked to him yet. Is just something to show i was thinkin of them...does anyone have a good idea? thanks for ur help -Ifufe-
may a couple of liquor bottles for the elders.....and perhaps handbags for the women.....
moneyinbrakemi at 25-04-2010 03:06 PM (15 years ago) (m)
I think you will increase your conversation on the cell phone with them. And try as much as possible to trick them into knowing what they would like you to buy them.Provided you can afford anything within their demands.
Posted: at 25-04-2010 03:06 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
ksurrina at 25-04-2010 09:27 PM (15 years ago) (f)
Quote from: HOPEA23 on 25-04-2010 03:02 PM
Buy them nutting...just give them money.:.let them use it to buy what they want.
Agree with this too. Forget the hassle of carrying luggage and give money according to the age group. Well you already have the sweets for the kids. Just give the money according to the age group and concentrate only on the parents, sister and brothers. Forget about the grandparents, cousins etc leave that responsibility to your husband.
Godly WISDOM is to Fear God. His UNDERSTANDING is to resist the devil.
Posted: at 25-04-2010 09:27 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
ksurrina at 25-04-2010 10:00 PM (15 years ago) (f)
Quote from: brightossy on 25-04-2010 09:33 PM
How much money?
What you mean how much money? Did they send her any where? My girl don't pressure yourself and go back home as a pauper because you want to look good in the eyes of the in laws. Put aside $1000 euro and split it amongst them. Those who want to be like the children of Israel and murmur then there will be no blessings because they are not murmuring against you but what God has provided for them. Sister just don't pressure yourself ok. Give what you can because you are only doing it out of your generosity of your heart. It is the responsibility of the man to look after his parents and siblings.
Godly WISDOM is to Fear God. His UNDERSTANDING is to resist the devil.
Posted: at 25-04-2010 10:00 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
TRENDING GISTS 
-Ifufe-
What you mean how much money? Did they send her any where? My girl don't pressure yourself and go back home as a pauper because you want to look good in the eyes of the in laws. Put aside $1000 euro and split it amongst them. Those who want to be like the children of Israel and murmur then there will be no blessings because they are not murmuring against you but what God has provided for them. Sister just don't pressure yourself ok. Give what you can because you are only doing it out of your generosity of your heart. It is the responsibility of the man to look after his parents and siblings. 
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