Saying NO can be very difficult. People with low self-esteem very often have a lack of assertiveness and think they have to meet the expectations of everyone. It is very hard for them to set limits with others. They sometimes feel ashamed or guilty if they would say NO. But to do things against your will and possibilities will end up in feeling used and resentful.
A simple and direct "NO, I am not able to help you with that" is the best solution. If you want to (have to) give an explanation you should keep it simple:"NO, I have already made an another appointment for this time" or "NO, sorry. I am afraid I have to decline because I have no spare time."
Other ways of saying NO:
* I can´t do this right now. * NO, thanks. Not this time. Thank you for asking. * Sorry, but NO. * Please accept that I cannot come. * I´d rather not.
To say an assertive NO you should:
* Start the sentence with the word NO * Shake your head and use nonverbal assertiveness to underline your NO. Your voice should be clear and direct. Keep eye contact.
If someone makes a request it is fair to ask for time to think it over. The decision should be up to you, but sometimes it is difficult to say NO right now. You can try to use an empathic NO, if you would have helped under different circumstances:
"Sorry, no. I would have kept your cat next weekend. But my husband and I will be off for visit. I know it will be hard to find someone to take care off the cat. I will try to help you next time." Remember : Saying NO is a very honourable response. You have the right to say "No"!
Live and let live!
Posted: at 30-06-2010 08:55 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
diplomatik at 30-06-2010 08:59 PM (14 years ago) (f)
NO! i'm not gonna read all of this
u've seen me right? i look kool right? ???but don't send me mails asking for my add or phone no. and don't give it to me either , i'll ask u if i want it ..ok...kool
Posted: at 30-06-2010 08:59 PM (14 years ago) | Addicted Hero
Umbrella at 30-06-2010 10:10 PM (14 years ago) (f)
Interesting! Some ppl do find it difficult to say no esp to their friends. personally, i no send!!! highest u can do it cut off all form of contact with me if i dnt wna do it i dnt wna do it. end of!
Posted: at 30-06-2010 10:10 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
Interesting! Some ppl do find it difficult to say no esp to their friends. personally, i no send!!! highest u can do it cut off all form of contact with me if i dnt wna do it i dnt wna do it. end of!
r u sayn u wont mind if ur closest of friends cut off all contact wiv u?
Men are like bank accounts, without a lot of money, we dont generate a lot of interests
Posted: at 30-06-2010 10:21 PM (14 years ago) | Upcoming
bittersweet at 1-07-2010 06:59 AM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: Umbrella on 30-06-2010 10:10 PM
Interesting! Some ppl do find it difficult to say no esp to their friends. personally, i no send!!! highest u can do it cut off all form of contact with me if i dnt wna do it i dnt wna do it. end of!
Yes! Sometimes ppl take advantage of the inability of ppl who can't say No!There's the problem
Live and let live!
Posted: at 1-07-2010 06:59 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
priceless87 at 1-07-2010 08:21 AM (14 years ago) (f)
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Quote from: bittersweet on 1-07-2010 06:59 AM
Quote from: Umbrella on 30-06-2010 10:10 PM
Interesting! Some ppl do find it difficult to say no esp to their friends. personally, i no send!!! highest u can do it cut off all form of contact with me if i dnt wna do it i dnt wna do it. end of!
Yes! Sometimes ppl take advantage of the inability of ppl who can't say No!There's the problem
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yes I agree with you, sometimes pple take advantage of ones inability to say NO for weeakness or low self esteem. Talking from experience.
the perfect solution is saying a capital NO, before it gets out of hand
Posted: at 1-07-2010 08:21 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
bittersweet at 1-07-2010 08:23 AM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: priceless87 on 1-07-2010 08:21 AM
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Quote from: bittersweet on 1-07-2010 06:59 AM
Quote from: Umbrella on 30-06-2010 10:10 PM
Interesting! Some ppl do find it difficult to say no esp to their friends. personally, i no send!!! highest u can do it cut off all form of contact with me if i dnt wna do it i dnt wna do it. end of!
Yes! Sometimes ppl take advantage of the inability of ppl who can't say No!There's the problem
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yes I agree with you, sometimes pple take advantage of ones inability to say NO for weeakness or low self esteem. Talking from experience.
the perfect solution is saying a capital NO, before it gets out of hand
Agree!
Live and let live!
Posted: at 1-07-2010 08:23 AM (14 years ago) | Hero
i look kool right? ???but don't send me mails asking for my add or phone no. and don't give it to me either 
, i'll ask u if i want it ..ok...kool 
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