Is marriage in the 21st century toxic to women? (Page 5)

Date: 05-07-2010 12:55 pm (13 years ago) | Author: uduak Sophia Monday
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- bittersweet at 6-07-2010 05:25 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: FlyMamacita on  6-07-2010 05:20 PM
Quote from: bittersweet on  6-07-2010 12:09 PM
Quote from: FlyMamacita on  6-07-2010 11:52 AM
marriage is a blessin, d reason why less people gettin married now

is cuz they already take/do everythin as if they were married, like children, living together, buyin a house, sharing bank accounts,....

And nobody there to tell/show them is d 'wrong' way...

@ bittersweet... it's not abt swallowin ur pride as a woman, it is knowin at tht point ur r 2 instead of 1 and for d things as makin decision, and all other things u shud give d honour to ur man !!!



No!We have to be a team and not a boss and an employee!
Trust me!It's working
gal, it is not abt bein boss and employee... its abt me tht give ma guy d space to make desicion, cuz if am with him i trust his thinkin and his way of actin...he knows ma opinion, but he can shoot d bullet...

u think i feel less woman cuz am not d one kickin d ball ?

Mehn, am d one who cook for him, make him feel comfortable home, take care of our kids, sex him till he shout for help, i listen to him when he's down, i got his back....

AND THT DOESNT MAKE ME FEEL LESS THEN A WOMEN...THAT MAKES ME FEEL HISWOMAN Wink



No,I'm saying that some men make u feel so,like his employee or something!
Well,really depends on the parts involved!

Posted: at 6-07-2010 05:25 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- eddybabs at 6-07-2010 05:27 PM (13 years ago)
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listening and learning
Posted: at 6-07-2010 05:27 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- spencerkings at 6-07-2010 05:42 PM (13 years ago)
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yes, I agree that alot of women are single these day. Is nothing than their bad attitudes and arrogant. Those haven't got the right attitudes to be with a partner always give stupie excuses of... I want my freedom etc. Those who have, get married as aoon as they are ready to do so. If any one thinks that because women are becoming aware of their rights, what right are you talking about? didn't they have right in the past? Is attitude problems rather than rights. It will be nice to see women marrying men these days hence they have all the rights in the world as some claimed.
Posted: at 6-07-2010 05:42 PM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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- bittersweet at 6-07-2010 05:59 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: FlyMamacita on  6-07-2010 05:20 PM
Quote from: bittersweet on  6-07-2010 12:09 PM
Quote from: FlyMamacita on  6-07-2010 11:52 AM
marriage is a blessin, d reason why less people gettin married now

is cuz they already take/do everythin as if they were married, like children, living together, buyin a house, sharing bank accounts,....

And nobody there to tell/show them is d 'wrong' way...

@ bittersweet... it's not abt swallowin ur pride as a woman, it is knowin at tht point ur r 2 instead of 1 and for d things as makin decision, and all other things u shud give d honour to ur man !!!



No!We have to be a team and not a boss and an employee!
Trust me!It's working
gal, it is not abt bein boss and employee... its abt me tht give ma guy d space to make desicion, cuz if am with him i trust his thinkin and his way of actin...he knows ma opinion, but he can shoot d bullet...

u think i feel less woman cuz am not d one kickin d ball ?

Mehn, am d one who cook for him, make him feel comfortable home, take care of our kids, sex him till he shout for help, i listen to him when he's down, i got his back....

AND THT DOESNT MAKE ME FEEL LESS THEN A WOMEN...THAT MAKES ME FEEL HISWOMAN Wink



You got me a little wrong!
Sometimes it's good to let him make some decisions, because that absolve u of responsibilities, and
if that makes him feel much more man,even better!
But I was referring to those guys who are demanding in that, and don't even take in consideration to
listen what their woman has to say!
Those women who can stand such an attitude from a man,they turned themselves in their servants!
Do you think I don't know how to make a man to feel a real man? Don't doubt that,but I also must feel that he
respects my feelings and my way of judgement! And if doesn't agree with me,he has patience to make me see
his reasons! Nobody takes orders from nobody! And we give to each other because we Want to, not because we
Have to! There is a difference!
Everyone has their pair in this world! And that person understands and respects your way of reasoning!


Posted: at 6-07-2010 05:59 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- FlyMamacita at 6-07-2010 06:38 PM (13 years ago)
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u see i hear u eh, but we different  Grin

i get ur point but for me all is different...hehe
Posted: at 6-07-2010 06:38 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- ndjoe at 6-07-2010 06:40 PM (13 years ago)
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slow down ladies so that life ana agaga
Posted: at 6-07-2010 06:40 PM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- bittersweet at 6-07-2010 06:43 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: FlyMamacita on  6-07-2010 06:38 PM
u see i hear u eh, but we different  Grin

i get ur point but for me all is different...hehe


I know and I respect that!

Posted: at 6-07-2010 06:43 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- FlyMamacita at 6-07-2010 08:19 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: bittersweet on  6-07-2010 06:43 PM
Quote from: FlyMamacita on  6-07-2010 06:38 PM
u see i hear u eh, but we different  Grin

i get ur point but for me all is different...hehe


I know and I respect that!
Wink  Kiss
Posted: at 6-07-2010 08:19 PM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- mibenne at 6-07-2010 08:37 PM (13 years ago)
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heheeeeee,am learning a lot here.thanks ladies.
Posted: at 6-07-2010 08:37 PM (13 years ago) | Upcoming
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- bittersweet at 6-07-2010 08:46 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: FlyMamacita on  6-07-2010 08:19 PM
Quote from: bittersweet on  6-07-2010 06:43 PM
Quote from: FlyMamacita on  6-07-2010 06:38 PM
u see i hear u eh, but we different  Grin

i get ur point but for me all is different...hehe


I know and I respect that!
Wink  Kiss


Let me tell you a story why the marriage can be toxic for some women!
In the building I live, there is a couple, she's 42 and he's 44 years old;they are married for 10 years already ,but they
lived together another 2 years before getting married.
They don't have children, because she couldn't remain pregnant, so are they alone.
In that couple you can see the humiliation itself! That human is dying slowly!
She's working too,even more than him,as a pharmacist, but she has turned herself in his slave!
When he comes home,if there's something in his car which must be brought inside, he'll enter the house empty handed
and he'll send her to carry it!
If there's some heavy things which must be bought from the market, she'll carry them home, by walking, even if
he has a car!
He comes home and goes directly on the couch with a snack, while ordering her to bring him his drinks!
If his beer will finish, he'll send her right away to the market to buy some more!
If there will run out of money, they almost don't talk,like would be her fault or something!
There's happening that kind of blackmail I was talking about some time ago: financial and especially emotional!
You can see on her face that she's miserable,and nobody understands why doesn't stop all that!
How could I respect such a man?But u know what's funny? He respects me a lot,because he knows how I really
am,but still no changes towards his wife!
These kind of couples let me a bitter taste, and make me stand even more on my principles!

Posted: at 6-07-2010 08:46 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- bittersweet at 6-07-2010 08:47 PM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: mibenne on  6-07-2010 08:37 PM
heheeeeee,am learning a lot here.thanks ladies.

You're welcome, my dear!

Posted: at 6-07-2010 08:47 PM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- Nagael at 7-07-2010 03:09 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: oyindabty on  5-07-2010 04:45 PM
many ladies prefer to be singles not becos they dont want to get married but with d bitter experience of some marriage which they hav seen and heard.some marriage are made frm heaven, if u seen those one u will want to get married instantly but some are hell and when u come across those one's, u will swear neva to try marriage.we just have to pray tht God should should help us in our marriage as we go in to it.but to be frank marriage is sweet.
     Well said my dear
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- nwigabari at 7-07-2010 06:29 AM (13 years ago)
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I think the most important thing here is understanding and the willingness to keep the vows. Attitude and character also matters but for me the only thing that make me to disgust marriage is infidelity. Every other thing can be overlooked but infidelity is dangerous and i think it should be done away with couples to really enjoy marriage. REMEMBER THAT UNDERSTANDING IS THE KEY. Beside you also need to have regard ,respect and honour for your partner if marriage must be enjoyed.
The issue of staying together does not make sense because it is the same marriage you are running away from that you are getting your self into indirectly. It is even more dangerous in African tradition to keep a woman without paying her bride price. A woman who feel that living with a man is the best  does not have any atom of love for thatn man and the earlier pple know this, the better for them 
Posted: at 7-07-2010 06:29 AM (13 years ago) | Newbie
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- FlyMamacita at 7-07-2010 08:30 AM (13 years ago)
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@ bitter...yea ok maybe tht is a bit too much Smiley

But do u know if d woman is rily unhappy ? cuz i know many women who cud do d same without complaining !
Posted: at 7-07-2010 08:30 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Treasure2 at 7-07-2010 08:33 AM (13 years ago)
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Marriage is an institution where you will never graduate.  You learn everyday how to make urs work.  It is better to have a good communication, and always express what you don't like in a matured way and don't be voilent when the man don't give you a listening ear. In todays marriage, you find out that most men are running away from their responsiblities because they have a working class wife.  Silbings fight how much more an angel you don't know anywhere, just because you two are called husband and wife.   Understanding matters.  I don't believe that living together is better.  Marriage is dying today because both parties are avoiding there responsiblities in the marriage institution. Living together is more deadly because the parties have nothing at stake, remember that nothing is binding the two together, but in marriage you have your limits.  The biggest problem in our marriage institution is pride, lack of respect, lies, men giving to girlfriends and disregard his home and i don't care attitude from both parties.  Husband, pls honour your wife and wife pls, respect your husband.  Every man have his weakness and don't expose him because you know his weak point.  Together we can live happy.
Posted: at 7-07-2010 08:33 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- sophiebaby at 7-07-2010 08:34 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: nwigabari on  7-07-2010 06:29 AM
I think the most important thing here is understanding and the willingness to keep the vows. Attitude and character also matters but for me the only thing that make me to disgust marriage is infidelity. Every other thing can be overlooked but infidelity is dangerous and i think it should be done away with couples to really enjoy marriage. REMEMBER THAT UNDERSTANDING IS THE KEY. Beside you also need to have regard ,respect and honour for your partner if marriage must be enjoyed.
The issue of staying together does not make sense because it is the same marriage you are running away from that you are getting your self into indirectly. It is even more dangerous in African tradition to keep a woman without paying her bride price. A woman who feel that living with a man is the best  does not have any atom of love for thatn man and the earlier pple know this, the better for them 

Married man is talking

Posted: at 7-07-2010 08:34 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Priceless-jewel at 7-07-2010 08:38 AM (13 years ago)
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am i suppose 2 b here? or do i miss my way?sorrz couples am out
Posted: at 7-07-2010 08:38 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- sophiebaby at 7-07-2010 08:42 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: Priceless-jewel on  7-07-2010 08:38 AM
am i suppose 2 b here? or do i miss my way?sorrz couples am out

for couples only.

hehehehehehehee

Posted: at 7-07-2010 08:42 AM (13 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- bittersweet at 7-07-2010 08:45 AM (13 years ago)
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Quote from: FlyMamacita on  7-07-2010 08:30 AM
@ bitter...yea ok maybe tht is a bit too much Smiley

But do u know if d woman is rily unhappy ? cuz i know many women who cud do d same without complaining !


Our family are closed, so there is often talkings between us,and yes,she feels miserable, and u can also see it in
her eyes(the unhappiness) !Don't laugh, but I really believe that the eyes can tell a lot about someone! It never failed me!
Well,some just prefer to remain in a shitty relationship ,being afraid to put an end to it,feeling not strong enough maybe, to start
afresh, and look,in this way, we r wasting our life!Pity!

Posted: at 7-07-2010 08:45 AM (13 years ago) | Hero
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- Priceless-jewel at 7-07-2010 08:53 AM (13 years ago)
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hmmm
Posted: at 7-07-2010 08:53 AM (13 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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