Settling Arguements (Page 5)

Date: 13-08-2010 10:37 am (11 years ago) | Author: Onyinyechi Miracle
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- onyiis at 16-08-2010 08:01 AM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: ceejay58 on 14-08-2010 11:12 PM
Quote from: onyiis on 13-08-2010 12:46 PM
Quote from: divineproject on 13-08-2010 12:38 PM
Quote from: onyiis on 13-08-2010 11:29 AM
Quote from: divineproject on 13-08-2010 11:16 AM
Talk! Talk!! Talk!!!.......but it becomes difficult when couples share different bedroom


What will make a couple have separate bedrooms ?

Most times, having separate bedrooms as married couples is the idea of the man (dats what I think)....Some men like their privacy and they can get that if they have separate bedrooms........(2), if the man has more than one wife, automatically he will have his own bedroom separate...........(3), some men cant tolerate some women's habit of throwing things all over the place........(4)...A man that has some skeleton in his closet would prefer a separate bed..etc


What sort of privacy will a man want if he has no hidden agenda ? The bible says that "the two shall bacome one"


That is in the case of polygamy and its understandable .


As for your no 3 , Men throw things around more than Women

 Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin


i beg to differ.   i personally am a very organized person and so is most guys i know....


In a group, there is always an exeption but satistics has shown that men does that more than women

Posted: at 16-08-2010 08:01 AM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- onyiis at 16-08-2010 08:04 AM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: nanny on 15-08-2010 10:13 AM
sex is not everything. In my own case if i and my boyfriend has any misunderstanding i don't bring the topic back that same day, i let it  go then calm him down by holding close to each other after that watever that follows then it is not my fault. then later wen we r in good mood kind of laughing, making fun of each other that is when i can now bring it up becos my guy is a tempered guy, when he is angry don;t just say anything, so me saying something then d whole apartment is gonna be on fire.


Hehehheeeeeee !!!! it is no body's fault ........................  but LOVE

Posted: at 16-08-2010 08:04 AM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- onyiis at 16-08-2010 08:07 AM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: laydeelaracraft on 15-08-2010 12:46 PM
it is funny how nowadays people have sex for the wrong reasons, to settle conflict, as a bargaining tool, for control etc...........sex is supposed to b a physical n spiritual connection between people. When u use sex to settle arguments, u avnt addressed the issue, u r postponing the inevitable and trust me it will come back again. u r telling each other to "shut up n drive"  Grin



............... And when you drive "shutting up" bet me no body drives that way for a long distance

Posted: at 16-08-2010 08:07 AM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- priceless87 at 16-08-2010 08:38 AM (11 years ago)
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A sincere apology and a promise never to let it repeat itself are the keys. Trust me it works
Posted: at 16-08-2010 08:38 AM (11 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- onyiis at 16-08-2010 08:50 AM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: un9ja-9ja on 15-08-2010 01:31 PM
by whatever language both of you understands most....if na sex no problem but i really know d language my partner comprehend best..so it's left for you to discover yours




It is that language that works for you that we want to know

Posted: at 16-08-2010 08:50 AM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- onyiis at 16-08-2010 08:54 AM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: Nilotic on 16-08-2010 06:39 AM
[size=14pt]Am back here again because I found this topic very interesting! Well comrades, when having arguments in a relationship, you need to use what I called PERSONALITY DEMENSIONS when arguing...........

P-rovide a basis for understanding
E-xpress yourself appropriately
R-espect individual differences
S-succeed with style
O-organize efficient and tangible reasons
N-egotiate more effectively than emotionally
A-appreciate yourself and others
L-earn to improve communications and argue to understand, and not to win
I-dentify potential problems early, that is, before starting arguements
T-ake steps to avoid taking things personal
Y-ield higher productivity rather than blame someone for not doing certain thing.

D-elegate tasks appropriately
I-nteract with others more intellectually than peronally
M-anage others more efficiently
E-levate morale and enthusiasm
N-ourish interpersonal relationships
S-upport, and encourage others while arguing positively
I-nfluence others positively
O-ptimize your performance, react more friendly to create understanding
N-arrow gaps and differences to enable you draw a conclusion
S-ucceed with style and ease!!!

Once used correctly, my personality demensions will work very well in settling arguements. Sex, women are very clever........so make NO mistake to use sex to settling their problems;they will appreciate if you state practical facts rather than emotional interventions.Arguements need practical facts and not emotional ne[/size]eds.






A very good work

Posted: at 16-08-2010 08:54 AM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- Ify4life at 16-08-2010 09:59 AM (11 years ago)
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try n reason togather

Posted: at 16-08-2010 09:59 AM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
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- liberian at 16-08-2010 10:02 AM (11 years ago)
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If sex settles it at 20..30..40..50..60.., will sex still settle things at age 70? what will settle issues at that ae then? be reminded that sex only makes up 10% of a relationship and not as decisive as modern days people think it to be. what if your spouse falls sick and is in such situation for about three years where in he or she is unable to give or receive sex?
Posted: at 16-08-2010 10:02 AM (11 years ago) | Newbie
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- blessedme at 16-08-2010 10:13 AM (11 years ago)
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allow the matter die down, then call him/her
and talk in a more friendly and calmly way
if possible present romantic gifts such lovely peff,
candle night, surprise romantic dinner, sexy undies & nitties etc
Posted: at 16-08-2010 10:13 AM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- liberian at 16-08-2010 10:17 AM (11 years ago)
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GIFTS WILL DO WHEN THEY WILL DO, BUT WHAT IF THE SITUATION PASSES THE LEVEL OF BEING CALMED BY GIFTS?
Posted: at 16-08-2010 10:17 AM (11 years ago) | Newbie
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- onyiis at 16-08-2010 10:18 AM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: liberian on 16-08-2010 10:02 AM
If sex settles it at 20..30..40..50..60.., will sex still settle things at age 70? what will settle issues at that ae then? be reminded that sex only makes up 10% of a relationship and not as decisive as modern days people think it to be. what if your spouse falls sick and is in such situation for about three years where in he or she is unable to give or receive sex?



.................that means arguments can no longer be settled

Posted: at 16-08-2010 10:18 AM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- onyiis at 16-08-2010 10:19 AM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: blessedme on 16-08-2010 10:13 AM
allow the matter die down, then call him/her
and talk in a more friendly and calmly way
if possible present romantic gifts such lovely peff,
candle night, surprise romantic dinner, sexy undies & nitties etc



Sounds romantic

Posted: at 16-08-2010 10:19 AM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- liberian at 16-08-2010 10:23 AM (11 years ago)
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@Onyiis, that is right...it means arguments can no more be settled if sex were the only means.....sex is not the basis of any reltionship but a component which is vital in an already-progressive an healthy relationship between spouses
Posted: at 16-08-2010 10:23 AM (11 years ago) | Newbie
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- blessedme at 16-08-2010 10:40 AM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: onyiis on 16-08-2010 10:19 AM
Quote from: blessedme on 16-08-2010 10:13 AM
allow the matter die down, then call him/her
and talk in a more friendly and calmly way
if possible present romantic gifts such lovely peff,
candle night, surprise romantic dinner, sexy undies & nitties etc



Sounds romantic
yes na
Posted: at 16-08-2010 10:40 AM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- alen4eva at 16-08-2010 11:08 AM (11 years ago)
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menn cool love cool sex ok
Posted: at 16-08-2010 11:08 AM (11 years ago) | Newbie
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- LABILOVE at 16-08-2010 11:26 AM (11 years ago)
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Argument is bound to come up since both of you are not from thesame backgroung.
Call each other to a close place and discuss issues causing argument
There is a need to learn & understand more about the dos and don't of each other
Posted: at 16-08-2010 11:26 AM (11 years ago) | Newbie
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- uzjosh at 16-08-2010 11:32 AM (11 years ago)
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what everrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Posted: at 16-08-2010 11:32 AM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Ify4life at 16-08-2010 12:15 PM (11 years ago)
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Quote from: onyiis on 16-08-2010 07:55 AM
Quote from: diplomatik on 13-08-2010 04:38 PM
poster i'm awaiting a partner... Cheesy


..............your waiting days are over  Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin
how u sure

Posted: at 16-08-2010 12:15 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
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- Akpan01 at 16-08-2010 01:37 PM (11 years ago)
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communication for sure..and i give him time to come down...and also try to do some of his favorite things

Posted: at 16-08-2010 01:37 PM (11 years ago) | Hero
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- olame4 at 16-08-2010 03:30 PM (11 years ago)
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lol
Posted: at 16-08-2010 03:30 PM (11 years ago) | Upcoming
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