Can you "just be friends" with somebody you're attracted to?

Date: 14-10-2008 4:39 pm (15 years ago) | Author: Kris
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- at 14-10-2008 04:39 PM (15 years ago)
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Whatcha fink? Can you be friends with somebody that rejected you? Guyz will probably say no & I think the girls will say yes, as long as you know the boundary. What's the difference between guys and girls that would cause this different mindset? Feel free to air ur views


Posted: at 14-10-2008 04:39 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
- Kennee at 14-10-2008 07:19 PM (15 years ago)
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Answer to the Question:

NO

Posted: at 14-10-2008 07:19 PM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- queenb at 14-10-2008 07:59 PM (15 years ago)
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It depends on ur level of maturity. No disrespect, but women r more matured than men r, hence they can be friends in such situation and men can't.
Posted: at 14-10-2008 07:59 PM (15 years ago) | Newbie
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- macgreat at 14-10-2008 08:09 PM (15 years ago)
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NO... no dey look her site at all

After kissing a couple of time,robbling and finging Smiley ... she come dey tell me say make we be just friends.

Posted: at 14-10-2008 08:09 PM (15 years ago) | Hero
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- C-boy at 15-10-2008 09:15 AM (15 years ago)
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Quote from: Kennee on 14-10-2008 07:19 PM
Answer to the Question:

NO
and why not? After all u probably used to be friends

Posted: at 15-10-2008 09:15 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- lahtehjuh at 16-10-2008 08:34 AM (15 years ago)
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well for it sometimes nt possible cos u tend to av mixed feelings.
(1)feelings of been attracted to the person and jelousy comes in.
(2)feelings of been a frend which u try to be but u tend to over do it.
so to me its better to avoid been frends to someone u r attracted to
Posted: at 16-10-2008 08:34 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie
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- peacetee at 16-10-2008 11:53 AM (15 years ago)
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Quote from: lahtehjuh on 16-10-2008 08:34 AM
well for it sometimes nt possible cos u tend to av mixed feelings.
(1)feelings of been attracted to the person and jelousy comes in.
(2)feelings of been a frend which u try to be but u tend to over do it.
so to me its better to avoid been frends to someone u r attracted to

so u would lose out a good friendship because u cant control urself?  Huh?

Posted: at 16-10-2008 11:53 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- philomena87 at 18-10-2008 04:22 PM (15 years ago)
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Quote from: C-boy on 14-10-2008 04:39 PM
Whatcha fink? Can you be friends with somebody that rejected you? Guyz will probably say no & I think the girls will say yes, as long as you know the boundary. What's the difference between guys and girls that would cause this different mindset? Feel free to air ur views

yes na
y not
Posted: at 18-10-2008 04:22 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Kennee at 18-10-2008 04:40 PM (15 years ago)
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Quote from: peacetee on 16-10-2008 11:53 AM
Quote from: lahtehjuh on 16-10-2008 08:34 AM
well for it sometimes nt possible cos u tend to av mixed feelings.
(1)feelings of been attracted to the person and jelousy comes in.
(2)feelings of been a frend which u try to be but u tend to over do it.
so to me its better to avoid been frends to someone u r attracted to

so u would lose out a good friendship because u cant control urself?  Huh?

Young woman, Wrong perspective. U can't Control Love (Dat's if u really Know what Love is)
Serious Attraction is just like Love

Posted: at 18-10-2008 04:40 PM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Kennee at 18-10-2008 04:48 PM (15 years ago)
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Quote from: C-boy on 15-10-2008 09:15 AM
Quote from: Kennee on 14-10-2008 07:19 PM
Answer to the Question:

NO
and why not? After all u probably used to be friends

Well, dat Boundary has been Crossed Already

Posted: at 18-10-2008 04:48 PM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- Adegbe at 21-10-2008 02:20 AM (15 years ago)
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Oh,women r more maturd abi?mayb u meant to say smarter.u girls want to remain friends so that toy boy would always b ther as "plan B",incase of emergency..no be so?matured indeed!!!
Posted: at 21-10-2008 02:20 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie
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- Adegbe at 21-10-2008 02:32 AM (15 years ago)
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If i hear say i just be friends with girl wen i de trip for.....for what?so she go de play wit my emotions anyhow she want?HELL NO!!!
If i genuinly like her,i'l free her&let fate decide..na i no gree,i no gree de make shirt tear
Posted: at 21-10-2008 02:32 AM (15 years ago) | Newbie
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- hiddenpearl at 21-10-2008 02:38 AM (15 years ago)
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No you can't! It makes everything that much harder... I know I couldn't. You would need some space to get over him/her before you can be friends.
Posted: at 21-10-2008 02:38 AM (15 years ago) | Upcoming
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- SAmyrocko at 21-10-2008 08:36 AM (15 years ago)
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If your attracted to the person... You should try and open up to the person about how you feel.. you can be friends though

Posted: at 21-10-2008 08:36 AM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- peacetee at 21-10-2008 10:16 AM (15 years ago)
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easy 4 she, not 4 he

Posted: at 21-10-2008 10:16 AM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- mmemshima at 21-10-2008 10:39 AM (15 years ago)
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Quote from: C-boy on 14-10-2008 04:39 PM
Whatcha fink? Can you be friends with somebody that rejected you? Guyz will probably say no & I think the girls will say yes, as long as you know the boundary. What's the difference between guys and girls that would cause this different mindset? Feel free to air ur views
u've got the answers dude so why are u asking?
Posted: at 21-10-2008 10:39 AM (15 years ago) | Upcoming
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- peacetee at 21-10-2008 01:12 PM (15 years ago)
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cos hez a dude  Wink

Posted: at 21-10-2008 01:12 PM (15 years ago) | Gistmaniac
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- Kennee at 22-10-2008 12:41 AM (15 years ago)
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.

Posted: at 22-10-2008 12:41 AM (15 years ago) | Addicted Hero
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- osituga at 22-10-2008 12:54 AM (15 years ago)
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@ poster Lai Lai
Posted: at 22-10-2008 12:54 AM (15 years ago) | Hero
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- blackberryPearl at 22-10-2008 06:31 AM (15 years ago)
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yes u can
Posted: at 22-10-2008 06:31 AM (15 years ago) | Hero
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