please this question goes to both guys and babes married or not, why is is that majority of men tend to only show their true colour after they are married. though the married ones should probably know better. To start with, in our society going by moral values and not with the recent social trend, the man is the one who sees a lady and falls for her first,i believe he who has that power should spare himself the time to study her before asking her out, that way she might not b conscious of the fact that someone is checking her out so she wouldnt have to act in her best behaviour in a bid to conceal her trueself.
Then by the time the man has finished all his background check and underground move he then makes the next necessary move or asking her out... thats an advantage to the man.
The lady on the other hand is being asked out, she knows nothing about you yet she accepts and gives you a trial, why don't you be as honest as possible to show her your true colours, why do you have to pretend to like or tolerate what in the real sense you wouldn't, remember that that image of yourself that you portray to her is what she's going to build her foundation of love upon.
Then finally after she has accepted you to spend the rest of her life with, then she finally gets to know the real you, which is or could be the opposite of what she saw.. in this instance tell me, how is sh e suppose to start all over again to get to know the real you?? when at that time she's supposed to be coping with the marriage institution and other hurdles of life which comes as a package with marriage.
please people help me out with answers........... coz someone here with me needs a life saving solution or opinion about that...
Posted: at 8-04-2011 11:24 AM (14 years ago) | Newbie
chiglamour4u at 8-04-2011 11:36 AM (14 years ago) (f)
same thing goes to the women. so wiat for d guys to giv u answers
Posted: at 8-04-2011 11:36 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
qunodinga at 8-04-2011 11:59 AM (14 years ago) (f)
[Then finally after she has accepted you to spend the rest of her life with, then she finally gets to know the real you, which is or could be the opposite of what she saw.. in this instance tell me, how is sh e suppose to start all over again to get to know the real you?? when at that time she's supposed to be coping with the marriage institution and other hurdles of life which comes as a package with marriage. ]
At at point given up is not the best solution....rather putting more energy to know the person you were marrying to.
Posted: at 8-04-2011 11:59 AM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
qunodinga at 8-04-2011 12:01 PM (14 years ago) (f)
Quote from: qunodinga on 8-04-2011 11:59 AM
[Then finally after she has accepted you to spend the rest of her life with, then she finally gets to know the real you, which is or could be the opposite of what she saw.. in this instance tell me, how is sh e suppose to start all over again to get to know the real you?? when at that time she's supposed to be coping with the marriage institution and other hurdles of life which comes as a package with marriage. ]
At that at point given up is not the best solution....rather putting more energy to know the person you were marrying to.
Posted: at 8-04-2011 12:01 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
bittersweet at 8-04-2011 12:26 PM (14 years ago) (f)
Men change after marriage for a number of different reasons.The main reason is bcz they r not satisfied with what they have.No matter how beautiful,forgiving,supporting or loving a man's wife is,he'll always feel as though he has missed d better bus.
Another reason for d changes in man after marriage is d marital contract.Once he obtains a woman's signature & her "I do", that is all he needs to feel secure that she can't get away & must deal with his many flaws & shortcomings.He may no longer feel d need to impress her,woo her,or even tell her he loves her once she's locked down for life.
Some men r emotional carpenters.They enjoy building d shelves of marriage,only to sit their wives on them while they go & work, hang out with their friends,or chase d better bus.These types like to know that they have a lady at home,but they don't put much effort into giving her a reason to stay there.
Men also enjoy the thrill of d chase.Once they obtain a woman's hand in marriage d chase pretty much ends.Sometimes d thrill ends as well.
Not all man change in these ways after marriage.There still r a handful of chivalrious,loyal,attentive men out there. It is also not only men who change after marriage.Women change as well.
Live and let live!
Posted: at 8-04-2011 12:26 PM (14 years ago) | Hero
chicanorose at 8-04-2011 01:00 PM (14 years ago) (f)
thats one of the occurances with marriage. but i believe with time, they will get to understand each other. because wen they were courting, their are some hidden characters that will not show, but after they don marry................hmmmmmmmmmmm
I bet u, when u wan chop cake, na then u go knw say oven dey.
Posted: at 8-04-2011 01:00 PM (14 years ago) | Gistmaniac
their relationship wasnt genuine sum1 was desperate perhaps d lady was desperate 2 gt married n ds blind her to knw d guy in n out.
cos from my own observation it's either d courtship is nt long enough for either parties to knw each oda, @ least 6 mnths courtship is fair. Guys hardly change after marriage it's d lady dt change cos she feel relax n not in competition as she blv b4 marriage n her true xter cum to view, her tolerance of her hubby's family will dissapear sharp sharp!!! etc.
Posted: at 8-04-2011 01:15 PM (14 years ago) | Newbie
........yu already no that 
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