I Cannot Marry An Igbo Man Because They Are Too Nosy - Tonto Dikeh (Page 88)

Nigeria’s largest sex market
 • Inside Benin City prostitution ring
 By HENRY UMAHI
Saturday,  April 4, 2011
Prostitutes on parade
 • Photo: The Sun Publishing
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 As the live band, known as the Zion Band, dished out different tunes at Time Out Fun Paradise in Benin City, capital of Edo State, two female dancers were serenading the guests with their suggestive dance steps. Indeed, their general stage mannerisms were erotic.

 The dancers paraded contrasting features: One was very tall and slim. The other was not so tall but blessed with more flesh, especially in the right places. The atmosphere was lively. There was hardly an empty seat or standing space, as men and women squeezed their way in. The number kept increasing and fun seekers spilled outside. Those who couldn’t bear the choking ambience simply frolicked outside. In fact, there were more people outside than inside. Most of them were women and on business. They were commercial sex workers strutting their stuff and soliciting for patronage from men.

 Time Out Fun Paradise could be described as world’s biggest sex market. It is a prostitutes’ paradise, a haven of sinful lust. There, women of various ages, shapes and sizes compete for attention. Indeed, the number of scarlet women on parade is simply amazing. It is usually a crowd, like political rally. And because of the stiff competition in the ‘market,’ the women adopt aggressive marketing strategies. They are desperate, throwing decorum to the wind.

 The provocative dressing and weird make-up the women wear show the stuff they are made of. Most of them wear bum shorts and revealing tops. Some wear micro-mini skirts that barely cover their pants. Their Bosom s spill from the half-cup bra, which they throw into the faces of men. And, in their desperation, they woo men openly.

 The more daring among them pull out their Bosom s for their prospective client to see and feel while bargaining, saying in Pidgin English: “Touch correct Bosom s, Bosom s wey stand well, Bosom s wey never fall.” The aim is to convince the customer to play ball.
Saturday Sun had a time out at the fun paradise penultimate weekend and witnessed scenes of debauchery. From about 8pm, the commercial sex workers begin to amass. Thursday nights are special nights: ladies nights. Heavy smoking and drinking goes on there, even as hawkers of recharge cards, water, cigarettes, condoms and sundry items also ply their trade. Business comes into full swing from 10pm.

 Sex is not exactly cheap at the centre. Most of the practitioners peg their asking price at between N6, 000 and N10, 000 for an all night dalliances, while a quickie (short time or kpa kpa kpa) goes for about N2, 000.

 However, it depends on the customer’s purse and bargaining power as well as the girls’ marketing ability. Time is also a factor in the sex trade. As the night winds down, price crash.
 One of the scarlet ladies, who gave her name as Destiny, told the reporter that it was not her destiny to engage in the business. After some haggling and a bottle of Smirnoff Ice, she said: “If you give me N4, 000, I will go with you. I just need some money to take care of some things.”

 Asked why she was bartering her womanhood for cash, she quipped: “Na condition bend crayfish.”
 Although many of the commercial sex workers claimed to be students, investigations revealed that some actually engage in legitimate business in the afternoon but practice prostitution at night to augument their earning. Some of them work as waitresses in eateries and hotels in the afternoon but at night they transform to sex providers.

Saturday Sun checks revealed that most of the hookers are from the South-South states. They find Benin attractive because of vibrant nightlife occasioned by the dwindling rate of crime in the city in recent time. Again, some of them are girls deported from Italy and elsewhere, where they had gone to seek greener pastures.

 Although Time Out is regarded as the hottest pub in Benin, it is certainly not the only place sex is sold and bought in the city. LJJ on Sapele Road is another sex rendezvous. A garden like affair with thatched roof, it is a perfect place for fun seekers. The icing on the cake is that waiters there also serve as pimps. Photographs of call girls are available for patrons to make their pick. So, if you make your choice, the girl’s mobile phone numbers will be given to you to reach her and discuss business.
 On entering there, waitresses always announce, gleefully, that they have everything, including girls. When the reporter feigned interest, one of the waitresses pulled out her phone and wrote a telephone number. According to her, the number belongs to “one hot girl, who knows how to give value for money. Her name is Faith.” However, when Faith’s number was called, she said that she was “running things somewhere.”

 Free girls are also on the prowl in the premises of Jonvee Kitchen. Some of them sit at tables and make passes at men. The more daring ones accost men leaving the place and offer their company. One of the side attractions at Jonvee is the performance of semi-clad female dancers, who entertain guests.
 When Saturday Sun was there, a rotund dancer dished out suggestive stuff, as Makossa music blasted from the speakers.

 A few meters away from Jonvee is De Konsolate nite club. There, sex workers keep vigil, in anticipation of patronage. They are alert, watching out for the slightest signal from potential clients.
 A middle-aged woman simply known as Omowunmi runs a prostitution ring in Benin. To pick an “Omowunmi girl,” the client will pay for the girl’s taxi fare, food, drinks and N10, 000 per night.
 Omowunmi, who cruises about town in a cute Kia sedan car, also supplies girls at rich men’s parties. Toast of social events, when a client ‘places an order’, she will send text message to her girls, briefing them accordingly Her girls are said to be some of the hottest in Benin City.

TUFIAKWA EDO PEOPLE AS A WHOLE 

Na abino man

YOU THIS SON OF WITCH-CRAFT.. YOU THINK YOU CAN FEAST ON ANY ONE HERE....YOU HAVE TOTALY LIED..IDIOT

IDIOT YOU ARE PROUD TO BE AN EDO BOY CHECK THIS NEW:  http://www.sunnewsonline.com/webpages/features/living/2011/apr/02/living-02-04-2011-001.htm  MUMU WEY COME OUT FROM ASHAWO TO.TO  

Tonto DIke is a not the type of woman to call a wife of an I gbo man that is why she can say that. anyway she is lucky that she still can find a fiance from Edo maybe they family of the guy is her type. but for any respectful Igbo family will not accept her as girlfriend talkess of married. There is a lot of decency girls out there looking for the Igbo guy not people like Tonto dike. If u ask me i will say she have no good behavior that will atract Igbo guy. for example. She is a lesbain, talkertive, over sabi, a lot of fault I notice in her.
Her type of woman is not ready to bring herself down as married wife just like  artress Omotola did. Even if she is lucky and met an Igbo man as a husband is she ready to bear him a child? or let say she is lucky and got one is she ready to Bosom  feed the baby or cawn down as a  mother to take care of the baby?. This is the materials that an Igbo man is looking from a wife that is why Tonto can complain about Igbo man so I advice her to get one novice from Edo, Niger, Hausa, or Ekiti that is the side she can find her type just as her mate Mercy J just did.

BENIN CITY

TRAFFICKING, PROSTITUTION AND SOCIAL INCLUSION OF THE GIRLS OF BENIN CITY IN ITALY

Claudio Magnabosco

April 13, 2004



A survey on living conditions of Nigerian girls in Italy involving 150 clients / friends, 34 girls / prostitutes and 12 volunteers scattered throughout Italy. The reality is different and more serious than that depicted by ministries, international organizations, law enforcement , voluntary associations and media.


Continue to arrive in Italy young Nigerian clandestine, no longer come from urban areas, but from domestic ones, where the news is less prevalent it is - that is - changed the strategy of recruiting the girls. The girls do not confide to anyone how the arrival of their journey in Italy, but certainly did not end the journeys of despair made ​​through the desert littered with suffering and death. The maman are supported by more and more African men, supposed friends / brothers / boyfriends of the girls, and these, in fact, exploit and control them, through an emotional deception to this day largely unknown in the African, but used racket from Eastern Europe, it is - that - changed control strategy of the girls. It note a mixture between the underworld rackets Eastern European, African and Italian, Romanian and Albanian, and monitor African girls is, however, a surprising and if only occasional, early rackets will clash for control of the market has changed - that is - the racket and girls are increasingly being sold. Without accompaniment after the complaint, the Community's path, document capture and starting to work, when the girls find themselves in trouble returning to prostitution; rehabilitation measures - so - are not effective. Even couples (customer / girl) are regularized problems for the home (jumping the leases) and for the work, and men at risk of losing the children of the previous marriage because their relationship with Africa is morally stigmatized by family members; the social context - then - is still steeped in racism. The media emphasize their interest in instrumental customers and prostitutes, rather than to listen to voice-demands and proposals, To bring raw and tearful testimony, spettacolarizzando parodisticamente problems and refusing to make real information. Most girls do not more prostitutes on the street, but in apartments: apartment buildings in the most decent, the protests of tenants are mitigated by pity for the girls and the fear of retaliation explicitly threatened by who controls them. Increase in the number of immigrants customers who have fewer financial resources and consider the girls only as objects, many Italian customers are unscrupulous, but at least some of them become a positive resource for girls has changed, and thus the type of customers and is tolerant attitude of the authorities, because it considers the availability of prostitutes for foreigners as a ceiling price. The Italian clientele consists of an increasing number of profiteers who can offer girls casual work, housing, loans, food, etc. . require in exchange for segxwal favors and money has increased - that is - the number of exploiters of the girls. A growing number of businesses run by foreigners who have temporary work to the girls, true and false documents, loans, contacts with new customers, the house, the girls are charged with segxwal performance, deliver the documents (which are cloned and recycled), making committees (including delivery of drugs through careless customers / friends) are - ie - increased the constraints of the underground girls. With fewer customers and less generous and more burdens to survive, many girls moving in different Italian and foreign locations to the futile search squares of profitable, after a few weeks trying to return to Italy, undocumented and money, they resort to friends / Italian customers or incur new debts by binding to new exploiters. More than 100 African girls murdered in Italy in 2 years. Victims of violence that have used public health facilities are many, many more than that, out of fear, have not had to treat, a growing number of visitors to psychiatric services. Are multiplying initiatives and projects aimed at customers, the most interesting is the site www.chisei.org , turned to Rome. These data, a second part of the investigation, dedicated to opinions and ideas of the girls and their friends, is being developed.

Benin City prostitution ring is Nigeria’s largest sex market

GIRL OF BENIN CITY

Living in Italy, and clandestine prostitutes, thousands of Nigerian girls, exploited by a racket that has brought to Europe with false promises and reduced them in a state of real schiavitù.L 'unawareness of customers - in fact - to contribute exploit them, and the respectability of those who believe that the problem can be solved only rispedendole in Africa and the moralism of those who can not bear even the idea of having to talk about prostitution, the indifference of those who live only for the selfish and do not know much hoped that solutions and punitive detention, racism always present, the imperfect civil commitment of those who have expressed solidarity with Safiya and Amina, who risked being stoned to death in Nigeria, but he can not do nothing for the many who live Safiya and Amina in Italy .... These are the stones with which, every day, African women are stoned in Italia.Il Project "The Girl from Benin City" addresses the issue of African girls who arrive in Italy, reduced to slavery and does not become an instrument of sectarian practical action, working on four fronts: 1 - with the "voluntary organizations", encouraging them to favor the flow of financial support through which they can pursue paths of recovery of these girls, 2 - with the "institutions", urging them to not solve the problem only with the return of the girls; 3 - to the "customers", recovering to behave responsibly and helping them to overcome their own discomfort with the support of grassroots groups of self-help; 4 - toward ' public opinion by proposing initiatives sensibilizzazione.Il Project does not collect directly and does not handle money, but invites those who can and want to adopt a girl from a distance, funding, in a mutually anonymous, the rehabilitation process implemented by organizations of volontariato.Il Project wants to be a multiplier of initiatives and work there former customers, cultural workers, volunteers, the testimonial. The basic idea is that if you do not involve all the actors, the phenomenon will be neither understood nor defeated. Who wants to spend in the first person can do it, and whoever wants to do something, but to remain anonymous may do so; those who want to leave your discomfort can farlo.Al end of media attention and the initiative to enhance the role of the media, has been created Prize "The Girl from Benin City" will be awarded annually to a person who has helped create a culture of solidarity on the issue of slavery and the status of women. At the Turin Book Fair 2002, the first edition of the Prize went to Toni Capuozzo reporter for Channel 5.Il project starts from an Italian love story of a young Nigerian woman. Some readers of the novel that he was born, "Akara-Ogun and the girl in Benin City" by Claudio Magnabosco, published by Which Culture - Viking, have "network" with each other, transforming the experience of each in a concrete action of human solidarity and social and civil engagement.

A beginning of reflection on the phenomenon of prostitution of Nigeria. An exodus of girls from Benin City to prostitute on the streets of Europe.
Nigerian prostitution
They come from a city of Nigeria in Benin City. These are the girls who prostitute themselves on the streets of Europe '. There are about 50000 Nigerian girls into prostitution. They are trafficked by an international racket.
April 15, 2004 - P. Giorgio Poletti
Source: Comboni Missionaries Castel Volturno
NIGERIAN PROSTITUTION

Thousands of Nigerian girls that we meet on our streets, day and night, on the outskirts of the city or on highways.
Some years ago, in Nigeria, I asked a Nigerian Bishop: My lord what are you doing for your bishops daughters prostitute themselves to thousands in Europe? They estimated about 50,000 girls in prostitution on European roads. The answer was: "Dear Father, Nigeria has about 120,000 million inhabitants, what would you have 50,000 people."
Another Nigerian bishop said: "The Nigerian prostitution concerns  above all a city in Benin City, talks with the Bishop of Benin City . "
They are two of the many answers that I and my colleagues have received on our trip to Nigeria in search of an explanation to the phenomenon of Nigerian prostitutes on our streets.
Prostitution some say has existed since the beginnings of human life and can be true , but most of these times is inserted into human trafficking for segxwal purposes. There is certainly nothing new, there is the segxwal slavery for centuries, but today the phenomenon is global in international racketeering.
Prostitution exists because there is a huge demand, millions of Italians of all ages, even adolescents, requiring segxwal favors to girls on the street. Are reports furtive, most of the time expeditious. The archipelago of "customer" is very diverse and mostly reveals the failure of human relationships and especially the difficulties of living an authentic relationship with your family, or simply to satisfy the segxwal drive. Married and unmarried are turning to these girls and often are involved in relationships which are in turn exploited by the girls. I often get the call from the customer who is attracted by the girl who constantly makes requests for money, even millions, and "fools" take the bait and give, give money ... The girls were trained to dupe customers, have taught them before leaving as use their body and all the "spells" for bamboozle possible European men. And the Italians we constantly fall ...
In the African lived in Mozambique, I never had occasion to address this problem, because the culture did not promote prostitution in Mozambique.
Prostitution flourished especially around large cities where there were Europeans , the "white" "azungu" who bought sex with money.

For years in Castel Volturno together with my colleague we faced the problem of prostitution, because in our area is booming.
The Nigerian African world met at Castel Volturno is very far from the world that I lived in Mozambique, although now the news coming Mozambique also reveal that there has begun the cultural disintegration brought by economic liberalism, consumerism ...
It 's a question that sometimes comes to me: if Africa and Africans remain orphans of the West might be best for them? First slavery, then colonialism, political and now economic colonialism and corruption of the Africans are doing (at least in some countries) and their real world a dunghill: corruption, waste, prostitution ...

Do not know the world of prostitution East, I wanted to get me enough problems of prostituted Nigerian girls.
Africa is very big and there are many African states, different from each other in culture, religion, language. The European colonizing power has greatly influenced the growth of these nations. And 'different Portuguese colonization of Angola, Mozambique, Guinea Bissau, Cabo Verde, from the English Uganda, Sudan, Nigeria.
The evangelization itself has created considerable diversity to be evangelized by Catholic missionaries English is very different from ' evangelization of the Catholic Portuguese missionaries ... Among the Italians is the belief that "blacks" are all the same.
We speak of Nigerian prostitution, but it is wrong because most of the girls comes from the Nigerian city of Benin City and in a certain way Bishop was right when he said that to apply to the Bishop of Benin City to address the problem (which we did).
What cultural destruction suffered Benin City, where it seems that the only value is money (in Italy we are not far) where there is a terrible hunger for money across all the institutions. The disproportion between men and women, the low cultural level of the woman, the impossibility of a future, the same African extended family that can become a terrible trap for these girls, are all underlying causes of the mass exodus of girls from Benin city. The same world that carries deep religious and symbolic blackmail on the psyche of these young women requiring them to observe oaths (voodoo) and take to it with this racket playing and practicing on the credulity of religious blackmail by playing on fear, is one reason that prevents the output from prostitution.
There are many aspects of the phenomenon of "prostitution."
I think our girls in "rehabilitation" and I realize more and more of the cultural destruction to which they were subjected. A much anger there is in them, often sold by the father (if you can call it) that are known to be in Italy to be prostitutes, and even they know it, there is also their responsibility, even a choice If conditioning. It is true that they are completely enslaved. The tragedy is that most often buy mentality "slut" and it becomes very difficult to change, because it is a life project for which they were shipped: make money fast, in any way.
The drama is in renewal, change ways of looking the world, to others, men (not all are clients) And 'this undertaking was miraculous.
Think of a girl who was on the road for three years, with dozens of daily meetings and that kind of meeting where met men of all kinds, what will there? What anger and crushing! They can live in this world most of the time using the mechanism of dissociation.
E 'deep cultural change needed in Benin City, a city that lives much of the remittances from abroad, money in the drug trade and prostitution. Dominates the god of money ...
could have a big role in Benin City where the Church undertook to unite churches in the presence and participation in the sacraments with a real commitment to social justice and a society of values, but God remains in churches and often in the vestry ...
These girls are victims of a cultural model linked to easy money, moreover, is the model that we export media: mass media of Italy is the country of plenty, just answer a few little question and give you thousands and thousands euros.
The Italian example is not the best: A country adrift (writing this I wonder if I am not pessimistic, but then reading the newspaper and looked around and far abroad did not think so), that squalor and misery that the political forces that govern us. I pose a question: are still so dumb Italians of a dupe of the political campaign underway, "the English and the Internet in the first year of school." One of the many posters made ​​to dupe the gullible.
Of course if you have a lot of money then keep it up, but those who struggle to live ... hopefully see sense!

Father George